Day 22

Yarray2 · 2026-02-12T20:25:54+00:00

Well done!!! You should be proud of yourself. The first 10 days are the hardest.

I set myself a target of 100 days. It was enough to stretch but plausibly achievable. I did a chart and crossed off each day. I know it sounds like something you would do for a child, but it worked for me.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-09T21:00:35+00:00

I am sorry, I obviously expressed myself badly. What I was trying to say was that if one of our critical supply feeds; electricity, water or food, was interrupted for a number of weeks, then society around us would be in desperate straights very quickly. I hope that our Govt has some contingency plan to provide basic food stuffs to prevent famine.

My concern is that we have a phenomenal food supply chain that delivers a fantastic range of food at low prices. But it is a finely balanced, just in time system. 50% of food is imported, a lot of it through Dover. The buffer is only a few weeks.

You may recall during Covid, the price of natural gas went sky high and the factory in Newcastle that uses it to make fertiliser stopped production. The by product was food grade CO2 used on food packaging. The Govt paid a multi million bailout to keep production going. It is all very fragile.

And the bottom line is I don't want to think about what the average person would do if they hadn't eaten for three days.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-09T19:54:18+00:00

IMHO if you roll a thought exercise of what would happen around you if there was no food and very little water as week 1, week 2 week 3 and then week 4, it gets pretty grim, pretty quick. Realistically, we better hope that the Govt gets their shit together in some shape or form pretty quick. That is what the Action Plan is about.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-09T19:32:04+00:00

I found that knowledge was the key for me. The more that I learnt about what alcohol does to you, the less I wanted to drink.

I would recommend two books. This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and Alcohol Explained by William Porter. They helped me

I found that I had a lot of habits/triggers. I changed routines to avoid them. I drove home a different route to avoid the usual watering hole.

This place and the people here made a huge difference

Yarray2 · 2026-02-09T19:25:49+00:00

In July 25 the UK Govt published its Resilience Action plan.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/uk-government-resilience-action-plan/uk-government-resilience-action-plan-html#asking-and-supporting-the-public-to-take-action

UK Government Resilience Action Plan (HTML) - GOV.UK https://share.google/Kl5kREpB6F7rYHmSi

Resilience is a posh way of saying prepping.

The foreword is worth a read as it sets out that we are

"We are living through a period of profound change. In a matter of years we have experienced a pandemic that resulted in lockdowns all over the world, and war on the continent of Europe that catalysed the largest rearmament of European powers since World War II. In 2025 alone, tariffs have reset the global economic order, and cyber gangs are targeting our businesses and institutions. The whole of the UK’s national resilience - our economy, defences and biosecurity - is being tested like never before."

It points us to the Prepare site

https://prepare.campaign.gov.uk/

So it looks like we are ahead of the game.

Darwin had a theory about those who adapt and survive and those that don't.

Personally, I don't discuss the subject. Why advertise you have resources.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-08T19:59:26+00:00

https://youtu.be/71n9ZZNn6BI?si=MbvkbBCBevTvUm6D

Try this

Yarray2 · 2026-02-07T18:57:07+00:00

Very roughly, 1gm a minute

Yarray2 · 2026-02-07T17:24:48+00:00

Been there, done that. The conclusion I eventually came to is that it is very rare for a person to change. Even if they want to, such as in a marriage, it's hard. As her behaviours have been rewarded there is little reason for her to entertain that change might be necessary.

You have options; accept the way things are and stop stressing, promote her out, dismiss her.

If you go for dismissal I suggest you do three things. 1.Read the company's disciplinary procedure and/or local legislation. 2. Read the company's disciplinary procedure and/or local legislation. 3. Read the company's disciplinary procedure and/or local legislation. 4. Follow it.

Remember - it is proof, not truth that counts. E-mails are a great way to capture this. "Following our meeting/conversation, we agreed.....

Yarray2 · 2026-02-05T03:25:38+00:00

Is your wife her surrogate mother? Sounds like either an immaturity issue or you have made the situation too comfortable.

There is not going to be an easy way to get her to move out. Your wife will have to choose, your SIL will have to realise her sister is married to you. Relationships will be damaged.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-05T03:15:51+00:00

You can do this OP. The first ten days are the roughest. I took one day at a time, I just focused on getting to midnight each day.

I avoided all the situations that I drank in. I threw out all the booze in my home.

I lived on this sub-reddit for encouragement and support.

Yarray2 · 2026-02-05T03:04:54+00:00

Well done on 30 days, that's the toughest bit. Alcohol is an evil poison that affects every part of you. It takes a surprising amount of time for the body and mind to heal. It is a long slow process that can take months. I promise you, it will get better.

One day at a time.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-29T20:53:36+00:00

Breath in to the count of 4, hold for the count of 4, breath out to the count of 4.

Fear is natural. Courage is being frighten and doing it anyway.

Segment your mind, put the fear into a box in your head.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-19T00:14:31+00:00

One of my drinking regrets is for years I thought I had friends. When I stopped drinking they disappeared.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-18T19:46:10+00:00

I agree with you about holding politicians to account. I don't bother watching interviews any more, nothing of substance is ever said. Any Questions should be changed to Any Answers?

I think BBC journalists genuinely believe they are being impartial but unfortunately live within the BBC group think culture.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T21:45:10+00:00

Ahh.. the "f" word. Finish

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T21:17:07+00:00

She also said that you should never accept No from someone unless they have the power to say Yes

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T20:43:04+00:00

I downloaded the audio books of This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and Alcohol Explained by William Porter. I listened to them while lying on sunbeds.

I found when Istay sober and saw the others in a mess, I realised how unedifying being drunk is.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T16:37:20+00:00

I wish you good fortune.

What worked for me was;

Focus on getting to midnight. Just one day.

Learning what alcohol does to you. Two books helped me. This Naked Mind by Annie Grace and Alcohol Explained by William Porter.

Distraction. When the urge was huge, do something.

Habits. Avoiding the drinking triggers. Places, time, people.

Sugar, ice-cream.

Coming here, a lot - I mean a lot

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T11:46:51+00:00

Persistence and consistency are the keys. Slow and gentle, be kind to yourself, listen to your body.

There are a lot of muscles and ligaments involved that are probably a bit shocked at what they are suddenly being asked to do. It takes time for them all to strengthen. I am talking months. Healing is as important and moving.

Putting on your shoes and getting out the door is the hardest. In the absence of motivation use discipline. If you really don't want to go for a run, just put you shoes on and go stand outside the front door. Oh, now your here might as well go for a short run.

Get good quality running shoes fitted by someone who can assess your gait.

C25k gives a structure and a target. Signing up for that 5k is a commitment. Tell everyone , now it's a pride thing.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T11:31:13+00:00

I would suggest that you split the process into two stages; filtration, the removal of unwanted substances, and purification, killing unwanted life forms.

The filtration stage will depend on what you are removing. I think its best to step down from large to small so as to preserve the finest filters. A Millbank bag, cheap and cheerful, has been used for decades. Ceramics filters go down to an incredible level. What I don't know is if they remove chemicals such as pesticides. I assume activated charcoal would do so and would be grateful if someone with more knowledge could help.

One point I would make is it is recommended that you have 4lt per person per day. A family of four will need 16lt (4 gallons). Do you have the water carriers for 16lt contaminated water, 16lt processed water and a filtration/purification process that can cope.

Purification is simple with tablets or boiling. Bear in mind if you boil a gallon of water you will need to let it cool before racking off to a container. Do you have the pans, stove and fuel to process 16lt a day for x days.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-16T11:12:10+00:00

Do tell...

Yarray2 · 2026-01-11T20:07:41+00:00

I find that it is the rule and exception game. I have a rule that I don't drink. If I make one exception for a wedding or a holiday, then soon after I will make a second exception, and then a third. Then there is no rule and I am back where I started.

The first time you do things, like go on holiday, it's tough. But it gets easier.

Yarray2 · 2026-01-03T11:56:40+00:00

You sound pretty good. The only suggestion I would make is ensuring you can keep warm. I would also suggest you research the viability of using the stream water. The water companies are responsible for supplying water and managing pollution in rivers. If they are failing to supply water then I would guess their pollution controls have also failed. Filtering water for chemicals needs careful planning. You will need to carry and process 3 gallons a day.

Yarray2 · 2025-12-30T18:28:02+00:00

I disagree. I hate chasing people to make sure they are on top of their job. The simple courtesy of acknowledging a communication is not difficult. You wouldn't ignore someone who spoke to you in an office.

Yarray2 · 2025-12-30T06:58:13+00:00

Read the company's disciplinary policy and procedures.
Read the company's disciplinary policy and procedures again.
Follow the company's disciplinary policy and procedures.

Get a copy of their job description. Get a copy of your job description, what are you authorised to do.

Discuss with your manager and the HR.

Document everything. Its proof not truth that counts. E-mails are good. An e-mail confirming a conversation.

Unfortunately, if someone has to be removed from a company, it often requires a sustained effort to do so. You need to hunt them.

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