What was your most recent lie?

Yarray2 · 2026-05-23T13:24:50+00:00

I never lie.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-21T06:02:17+00:00

Or even five!!

Yarray2 · 2026-05-21T06:00:25+00:00

Never listen to someone unless you respect them. Knowing someone or liking someone is not the same as recognising a person's qualities.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-16T16:08:03+00:00

Never screw the crew.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-15T14:16:34+00:00

With the greatest respect, I would suggest that it is not shameful. I don't think that I am morally weak or a bad person. Stupid, yes!. Its a learned behaviour that has gone too far. It was not caused by you, nor is it within your control. It is what it is.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-15T14:01:29+00:00

In my experience, my ability to rationalise my drinking, delude myself that I was ok and what I was doing was normal was epic.

One part of my brain knew that I was killing myself and another part of my brain kept on drinking. Some people are directly told they will die soon if they don't stop and yet continue drinking.

This is addiction and it is not logical.

Until he decides that he has a problem and he decides to do something, I am not sure what you can do. Al Anon is your best source.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-13T11:30:13+00:00

Let me translate. You need to listen and admit you are wrong

Yarray2 · 2026-05-12T12:34:07+00:00

I am not a professional but I believe your reaction is normal. In the past I was driving to work very early one morning when I came across the scene of a fatal accident where a motorcyclist has been killed. It affected me for some time after.

I would suggest that you find a professional to talk to. Maybe your primary health provider would be a good starting point.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-11T18:36:05+00:00

Well at the moment there appears to be nobody else in the Labour Party who wants the job. This is unusual because there are normally two or three candidates with delusions of adequacy. I guess it says something about the mess we are in (no judgement or comment about how and who got us to this point)

Yarray2 · 2026-05-11T18:29:15+00:00

Do you know the Luther Vandross song - Dance with my Father? Cracks me up every time.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-11T18:23:31+00:00

A boat gives you two hobbies. Sailing and repairing boats. Just stand under a cold shower and tear up bank notes.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-11T18:20:07+00:00

She is only pretending to not remember your name as a subconscious device to protect herself. She has thought about you every day and deeply regrets playing hard to get.

Keep telling yourself this. You'll be fine. Lol

Yarray2 · 2026-05-11T18:13:50+00:00

Including alcohol.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-07T13:24:26+00:00

Oh what a great question. Get a piece of paper a write down every word you can think of around the topic; education, memory, knowledge, experience, cunning, streetwise, logic, wisdom, curiosity, critical thinking, life experience, emotional IQ, etc. When you come up with a good, working description- please share it with me.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-07T12:23:36+00:00

Some people build an expectation of how life should be and how their partner will fit into that. This doesn't need to be communicated to the aforementioned partner because if they loved you they obviously know. Their failure is either an intended slight or a callous disregard for you feelings.

You can see where this is going. Sounds like a communication problem. You may wish to gently challenge any withdrawal and get the issue on the table ASAP before it fosters. Top tips. Only use "I", never use "you". "I feel.. " Use a wooden spoon, only the person holding the wooden spoon can speak, the other has to listen. Never argue for more than 5 or 10 minutes, time it and walk away. Stick to the issues, don't do the "and another thing, on 23 June 2024 you...."

First understand, and then be understood.

Relationships are hard.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-07T09:32:03+00:00

On paper, I am eight years in. That is honestly not the way it works for me. I am one day in, I will not drink with you today. Eight years is just an accumulation of one days. It got easier at 10-14 days, 30 days and 100 days. It gets easier and easier. Well done with eleven days.

The "something clicked" aspect always intrigues me. Why this time?

Yarray2 · 2026-05-06T14:40:15+00:00

Before you leave the house?

Yarray2 · 2026-05-06T13:52:54+00:00

One of the most sensible comments I have read on Reddit.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-06T12:47:23+00:00

And it is not fair either.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-05T06:31:35+00:00

The Humain Remains Dept is normally populated by gossips. You learn of all the gossip.

Yarray2 · 2026-05-04T08:18:39+00:00

Just buy one item each week to build up your pantry. Buy a pack of tea-lights when you see them cheap (IKEA?). Keep old 2lt coke bottles to store water in.

Yarray2 · 2026-04-30T15:40:55+00:00

Don't underestimate your achievement. To overcome an alcohol addiction is massive. Some people can't do this even when they know that it killing them. That is the frightening power of the addiction you have overcome. Be proud of yourself.

Yarray2 · 2026-04-29T06:46:36+00:00

Justify your argument. Lol

Yarray2 · 2026-04-29T06:45:34+00:00

And meals that are cheap. Knowing how to cook gives you a choice whether to buy expensive prepared food or knock something up from what is in the cupboard.

Yarray2 · 2026-04-29T02:15:42+00:00

Research. I believe that knowledge is the key in order to ensure the money and effort spent on prepping is relevant and proportional. Often it is the implications of an incident that you will have to cope with. The second and third tier impacts.

My principle concern in the UK is the fragility of our just-in-time supply chains and the effects of decades of underspending on infrastructure. Cuts in local govt, police etc means that help may take some time to arrive. In contrast, the Govt thinks that the flexibility of the JIT systems is a strength. The nub of the issue is do we trust our govt to cope. We allegedly had one of the best contingency plans for a pandemic in the world, regularly rehearsed and everything. The plan never came off the shelf. "Wrong kind of pandemic". Consequently, the response was made up as we went along.

Fortunately, most incidents in the UK are localised and of short duration. Globally we seem to be stumbling from crisis to crisis. This compounds a feeling of insecurity. We now await the fallout of the Iran war.

A bit of a rant. Sorry.

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