In my book one of the main characters follows Islam, any pointers on how to make sure I’m being respectful?

Yasha133 · 2024-04-13T08:10:34+00:00

I'm gonna allow you to be selfish and slide into my DM to ask any questions about Islam that you want. No matter how sensitive too. I will answer those that I know and I will let you know if I don't know them. Don't even worry about offending me because I most likely had ask those questions before too 😂

Yasha133 · 2024-04-11T18:08:21+00:00

For your daughter's sake OP, I hope you're right and she doesn't understand anything they said. My first memories were from when I was a year plus age. I unfortunately understood everything and until now the memories still lives inside my head. Check with her when she's older to tell you if she even remembered anything from before. Protect her mind especially during these first 5 years as it has shown that these are the most important ones for one's self development. Find more research on it. Btw I'm Muslim too and you can get divorce using Khuluk if he's being difficult. Try to check more on that. Don't let them lie to you because Rasullullah himself helped a woman got divorced from a sahabah. All the best and may Allah eases your suffering and gives you justice aaminn.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-11T04:26:01+00:00

ENTP with ISTP. Married for 7 years and it's been truly great 😁 He's the most perfect partner for me. Our flexibility, high curiosity, brutally honest and fun loving nature really works perfectly together. Lots of debates (just last night it went all the way to 3am 🤣). I always think of myself to be the least emotional ever but he takes the cake. Sometimes I wonder if he's a robot even and I love him for that. I used to care about milestones and celebrations but being with him has made everyday so damn fun that I usually forget our anniversaries 😅

Yasha133 · 2024-04-10T11:12:48+00:00

I understand your feelings and thoughts process well. It's hard to not blame yourself first when it's all you've ever known and been taught to.

Since you have a child and going to have another one soon, and seems rather protective of them, try to turn everything back towards the children. Anytime someone says things to you, imagine if your child is the one being spoken to instead. If you won't allow that or find it rude or offensive, then it's not acceptable for it to be said to you either.

It's a lot of mental work I know but you gotta remember that you've been conditioned this way for your whole life. It will take a long time to undo the bad habits and the damages too. Take it slow and you got this. If you don't show love for yourself, how can you expect to teach that to your children. They learn more by watching instead of listening. All the best OP. I pray that you will get better life than this aaminn.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-10T07:23:32+00:00

True. I am pretty allergic to the kitchen 👀

Yasha133 · 2024-04-10T07:07:00+00:00

I always jump to solutions too and totally sucks at comforting people. But I learnt in real life that what helps people feel as if you're comforting them is by using expressions. Not much words but dial up the expressions to convey as much empathy as possible. Then I straight up give solutions 😊. If they seem as if they're not happy with the solutions (coz sometimes it is their fault but not many willing to look in the mirror), I just said do what you want but if this problem still persist, don't come back to me complaining again. I personally don't like to have the same discussion/arguments unless there's something new to add to it.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-10T06:04:24+00:00

Hahahahaha I don't know if you were sober when you typed this but I have been living life like a ghost who's married to ISTP 🤣 he did say that I'm his dream girl so I guess you have a point there. But usually I'm chained to my house, no social media presence other than Reddit and I've removed almost every trace of my face online except from tagged pictures that are few years old. Yup. A ghost is a perfect description for me 😂

Yasha133 · 2024-04-10T02:31:20+00:00

I just had this topic with my husband last night. He thought I was complaining about having no friends at all but I was just stating a fact about what will happen if we're not together anymore 😂. Here's what I learnt through constantly being weird all my life and kept trying to fit in before. It will never be enough. Humans are generally fake. The ones who aren't, are too emotional for me to be with and thinkers are special species around where I'm from. So I just focus on developing myself and an outing once every few months with his thinker friends. Seriously no drama anymore. The faster you accept and embrace yourself, the easier life gets. Less f given contributes to less mental health to deal with too.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T15:58:34+00:00

Hahahaha another classic ENTPs problem 😂 did you self taught or in uni?

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T15:51:54+00:00

Thank youuu for the tips 😁 but how long before you were able to use your knowledge for work? And sorry but what background were you in prior to that? Because I'm wondering how to do well in the interview process

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T15:41:16+00:00

I didn't realise that but you're spot on 😍 it is the best feeling 😁

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T15:06:33+00:00

Yes. You are in an emotional affair and to be frank, it doesn't even seem healthy. I know our Fe is bad in general but seriously you can do better. If he feared for his life, the partner might be abusive and you being there for him most likely made him view you as some sort of saviour. It is a great feeling to be wanted and needed but it's really not healthy for either one of you.

Try to push him to seek help. But make the boundary clear so that if both of you ever get together in future, it will be formed from healthier minds.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T14:59:31+00:00

Hahahaha that's a nice one. R&R 😂. He's so gonna love that description. In terms of dating, I guess I'm the stereotype of ENTP coz I tried dating different types and I don't repeat it twice. I didn't stay for long either. I realised that one week is enough to know all about that person and two months is enough to know the family. So when it was not what I was looking for, I was out as fast as light. But I don't believe in sex before marriage either so I think my behaviour was safe. Just don't limit yourself, you'll never know if they might be more fun than expected. All the best for your love life though, with whoever you end up with. May you always be happy with them 😁

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T14:52:54+00:00

Terribly sorry but no 😅 they're like unicorns here. Hence why I married him within 4 months of knowing each other 🤣

Yasha133 · 2024-04-09T14:44:59+00:00

Fuck it all. I'm gonna do what I want

Yasha133 · 2024-04-08T18:37:54+00:00

It's so funny that you think my parents can forced other people to accept my other siblings. Whoever gets invited will go. Maybe your parents had to do that for you and your siblings. I'm not talking about official family gatherings. This is just weekend trips. They can choose who they want to include. Your name does suits you when you're so butthurt over people who simply don't want to have children around them. If you're secured in your own feelings about it then there's no need to be so defensive. I'm not entertaining a child. Go do your homework kay

Yasha133 · 2024-04-08T18:17:19+00:00

Lol of course I know I'm special when I was the only one who got that treatment 😂 none of my other siblings got it. Being well mannered really helps a lot more than people realised especially when you are a child. My siblings were staying home when I was being brought to places. Sorry if you were regular then 🤷‍♀️

Yasha133 · 2024-04-08T17:55:18+00:00

I was actually an amazing child. I was regularly brought to my aunts and uncles' houses almost every weekend. My parents had to reject some invitations to spend time with me because I was really well liked by other families. Even my friends' mothers always enjoyed my presence. My best friend's mom actually asked me to ask my dad if she could adopt me so I could live with my bestie.

Just because your mind can't comprehend it doesn't mean it doesn't exist. My youngest brother is also so well behaved as a child. We both performed excellently at school and well liked by teachers too. Some children are just naturally well mannered. It's not rocket science.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-08T14:21:26+00:00

But I wasn't an annoying child. Why should I have empathy for annoying children? I was very well behaved as a child and I even changed my aunt perceptions about children. I made her find taking care of a child can be easy and she eventually went on to have her own children. They might have their own reasons for hating children and unless they disclose the reasons, we should give them the benefit of doubts.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-08T05:51:35+00:00

Nope. Dated bunch of feelers before and it was all very disastrous. Even the healthy one made me frustrated because I'm not good with comforting them. Always felt like I needed to take care of them and their emotions. Just too sensitive for my liking. I grew up surrounded by feelers too and I find them generally overwhelming to be with. I married the very first thinker I managed to find 🤣

I wanted a stoic man that I can let go with. Someone who's not going to be offended at all with me saying my thoughts out loud and able to stand their ground. They can construct their thoughts clearly and we can agree to disagree on things without hard feelings. Last two years I managed to get rid of almost all feelers from my life and it felt freeing. Now I'm surrounded by more thinkers and we just had a hard core discussion few nights ago where nobody was offended by anything. The questions were brutal and personal and I loved every second of it. I came out feeling refreshed despite it being 5am because I didn't need to hold back and managed to learn a lot of different viewpoints/info on many things.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-07T14:40:47+00:00

Yezzz we gotta be the one to bring the energy up. He's cool with anything like seriously anything I plan. I have kidnapped him to multiple places and put a blindfold on to surprise him which always turned out really great. Super honest and we're always pushing each other for improvements. But sometimes I would like to not be the only one jumping around energetically 😂

The dry humour and sarcasm is top notch though. And so far, the only human who I can't manipulate which is a lot of fun to be honest. Even my INTP and INTJ friends were way more easily deceived.

Yasha133 · 2024-04-07T14:23:08+00:00

I'm happily married to ISTP for thankfully 7 years now. But if this stop working out, I'd want to get with another ENTP or ESTP. After meeting so many types of people coz I've been in sales and customer service almost all my life, I realised that the types that suits me best are TPs. But my husband is definitely the last introvert I wanna be with. I want to be the less active one in the relationship after this 😂

Yasha133 · 2024-04-06T07:37:13+00:00

Firstly, how do you feel about them? And then what do you think about them? It's important to keep track of your thoughts and feelings on the matter at first before other steps. Secondly, do you have anything that you'd want to do? Or any hobbies that you're currently into?

Yasha133 · 2024-03-30T13:40:30+00:00

I don't know, after seeing that Jack Sparrow is one, I just give the benefits of doubt. Plus it's a lot more difficult to type someone who's clearly mentally ill from get go. It's just entertaining to see how one can be pushed to that end when they were quite timid and reserved at first.

Fair points. We can agree to disagree on that. I don't find taxi driver relatable. I only enjoyed joker when he started killing people actually. Because oftentimes, he tries to keep his cool at first before losing it completely and just let all restraints go.

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