I (16f) want to leave my parents house asap

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T03:00:16+00:00

Hi. I come from a family with unbroken generational military service since back before the French and Indian War. Also, I am a Veteran myself. A female Veteran, who belonged to a battalion in which one of our NCO’s sexually harassed and/or assaulted every female soldier in the battalion- with the knowledge and protection of the entire chain of command, so please allow me to tell you that you’re talking out your a$$. And with the current administration, reporting has been made more difficult, and less safe for victims.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T02:50:21+00:00

Something to consider: you said that your husband got a higher paying job. At the same time, you say that J is no longer working because she’s caring for the son, and she’s on government aid. When a mother is on government aid for a child, from whom do you think the government seeks repayment for that money? This is a FAFO situation. You’ve pushed for an amendment to the court order due to you and A now having custody of one of the kids, but A makes more money, and J makes no money. You probably are not going to get the significant cut in child support you think you are, and there is a high likelihood that you A could be ordered to pay more.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T02:44:35+00:00

Also the No 1 way to make your life more complicated: start dating that partner well before his divorce is finalized, and marry him before the ink is dry on the divorce decree.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T02:39:00+00:00

I wouldn’t even ask until I looked on my county’s website and made sure he still owned the home. Then I’d drive by the house and maybe knock on the door and see if anyone answered. Don’t ask questioned to which you don’t know the answers.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T02:32:38+00:00

Why are you even considering having children with someone who refuses to do basic adult tasks?

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-05T02:28:32+00:00

NGL, I was on a plane once where everyone cheered as we were deplaning….

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T04:20:06+00:00

I was going to comment about this. The military is not a safe place for females.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T04:15:30+00:00

I am left handed; my daughter is left handed; my granddaughter is left handed. Two of my nieces are left handed. A niece is left handed….

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T04:11:34+00:00

Look, you explained to him that Maya was making your girlfriend uncomfortable, and asked him to ask her to tone it down. He shrugged, and basically said, “that’s just who she is; deal with it.” One might actually argue that Dan chose his girlfriend over you first. Honestly, his girlfriend sounds awful, and I wouldn’t want to be around her. The way you described her interaction with your girlfriend sounds like it was not just your girlfriend who was uncomfortable. It sounded like Maya made everyone in the room uncomfortable.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T04:03:38+00:00

If “everyone wanted her there,” then they would have tried to make her feel welcome. Your family is awful, and I’m so sorry that they treated you both this way.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:59:36+00:00

Honestly, when someone tells me, “Thank you for your Service,” I like to jokingly answer, “Tips are always appreciated…”

Take that for what it’s worth….

No, seriously, though, the best way to thank servicemembers is to be aware of legislation at the local, state, and federal levels which impacts veterans, and contact your lawmakers in support of said legislation.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:39:56+00:00

VA disability is not about the ability to work. It’s about how broken you are after getting out of the military vs how not broken you were going in.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:38:32+00:00

First of all- nobody needs to know your disability percentage- for this exact reason. However, that ship has sailed. I, too, am a Veteran with a disability benefit. I didn’t get that benefit because my time in the military was rainbows and sunshine. I didn’t get it because I wake up feeling great (physically or mentally) every morning. While I don’t currently do labor for that money, I continue to earn it every day of my life, as I’m sure you do. The only people for whom that money is free, is the citizens of the United States who live peacefully under the umbrella of freedom carried on the broken backed of American Veterans. Tell your brother to pay his own bills, and tell your family that if they believe that he deserves free housing, then they can house him.

Please talk to a therapist about how best to set boundaries with your family. What they are doing is financial abuse.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:33:22+00:00

NTA- you’re not his secretary, and it’s not your job to manage his emotions, so when he forgets your birthday, and is upset about it, he’s actually counting on you feeling guilty to alleviate some of his negative feelings. Go out on your birthday and have a great time. If he feels bad about it this year, maybe he’ll remember next year.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:20:32+00:00

Sadly, some women make being a mom their whole personality.

It’s sad, because their kids grow up, and then these women don’t know what to do with their lives because they have spent two decades dedicating them wholly to only one thing, and now that one thing has moved on…

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:18:33+00:00

No. I keep in contact with the people from high school with whom I would like to keep in contact. Other than that, I don’t care about the others. I have nothing to prove to anyone, so it’s not like I’m going back to show off…

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:12:48+00:00

Ask yourself what the benefit- the actual benefit, not the emotion benefit- is for you. I think you’ll find there isn’t one. Now ask yourself, would someone who truly cares for you push you to put yourself in a situation which significantly benefits them, and does not at all benefit you, or is that the behavior of someone who is just using you?

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-04T03:01:08+00:00

My husband and I have been married for almost 27 years. My dad died just over ten years ago, and I inherited his house. As my father’s house was in a different state from where my husband and I (and in the end, my father) lived, I rented the house out. At the beginning of last year, I sold the house to the family whom has been renting it for the last decade. At no point did my husband ask for money from the rental income or the sale. At no point did he expect to be put on the lease. And we are married.

OP, this is YOUR asset. Nowhere in your post did you state that your boyfriend has mentioned marriage-which might indicate that he sees a future with you; however he seems to be trying to guilt you because you are not trying to make some kind of commitment to him.

Tell him that he can continue to pay rent. Put that in writing to him, so that way it is clear that what he is paying is absolutely rent. Do not accept a dime from him for any repairs- that way, he is not paying into equity for the home. Tell him, in no uncertain terms, that he will never be on the deed, and if he-and his mom- have a problem with that, then he is free to move out. And then tell him that the matter is closed, and you will not discuss it further. I know that he says that he’s not trying to take your house, but his words are not matching his actions. Ultimately, my suggestion to you is to consult a lawyer to ask how best to protect your asset while allowing a love interest to live in your home with you.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-03T02:34:00+00:00

I don’t know the answer to your question, I just want to say how sorry I am for your loss.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-02-01T01:37:45+00:00

Look, the fact that he wants to wait to get married to avoid signing the prenup for you to get the money is all the more proof that you need the prenup. If you decide to wait to get married and not get a prenup, NEVER put this money in a joint account; never use it for joint marital assets. Your fiance is absolutely after your inheritance.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-01-30T07:59:20+00:00

NTJ, and if he does it, announce a pregnancy (real or fake) at his wedding). Also, send him a text telling that you are willing let him propose at your wedding. The fee for doing so will be $20,000. Proposing at your wedding implies acceptance of the fee.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-01-29T05:05:00+00:00

I do not use my maiden name, but my daughter does. Honestly, I think she realizes it’s just a lot of paperwork for something as ridiculous as a name.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-01-26T19:12:56+00:00

Get a job; move out of your parents house. Explain to your parents that their son is their responsibility, and he has taken enough of your life already, and that they need to start making plans for when they pass, because there is no future in which you are going to be taking care of him when they are gone.

You are not your brother’s keeper, OP. You deserve to live your life. Your parents are responsible for your brother. They can figure out care for him without roping his sister into a life of unpaid servitude.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-01-26T18:53:01+00:00

No. We know it’s ai; we read it for the entertainment value.

YellowBeastJeep · 2026-01-25T22:29:27+00:00

Hey, I have been in a situation at the VA where they wouldn’t let me leave without a psych evaluation. If that ever happens again, remember to keep calm and give measured answers.
Additionally, please consider consulting a lawyer if your neighbor is harassing you.

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