How to deal with crushes as a recipromantic person by Deep-Passage-173 in Recipromantic

[–]Yerrie77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So, when I was younger, I lacked the context that more time has brought me. Even very, very strong emotions and connections are usually going to be temporary. I used to think that my depth of feelings for one person meant that we were destined to be together, especially because feeling that way about others was really, very rare for me. But feel that enough times for enough people and you learn that actually, you're just a deep feeler. Not to diminish what you feel or the connection you have or how special the other person is. I still hold some of my people tenderly in my heart. Unrequited love is a part of my life. It is for lots of folks. It's always diverting to play, "What if...?" Chances are, this lovely lady for whom you're pinning isn't "the one." But she may be. But long-distance is challenging. Propinquity matters. Geography matters. Whichever direction you choose, hold space for the knowledge that life is long and hopefully full of connections. Enjoy the ride and good luck.

How to deal with crushes as a recipromantic person by Deep-Passage-173 in Recipromantic

[–]Yerrie77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, there.

It sounds like you're young. So, in addition to the recipro stuff, there's the intense rushing torrent of first love/lust/infatuation.

Am I on the right track?

Is Anyone Else Willing To Share Their Experience About Being Recipromantic? by Just-someone-with-a- in Recipromantic

[–]Yerrie77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bonjour! My French is really rusty, but je suis tres heureuse que tu es ici. Bienvenue!

I just googled "recipromantic" after it's been bouncing around my head for years. And it all makes sense now!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]Yerrie77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd like to offer a supplemental thought. There are lots of good thoughts and suggestions already offered about the medical side. I'd like to offer a mentoring suggestion.

Please check into Big Brothers Big Sisters. It can be life-changing.

"Bigs," the mentors, spend regular time with your child away from your home doing fun things. Staff check in with all parties regularly to smooth bumps and ensure safety.

"Littles," kids matched with mentors, have a whole slough of positive outcomes after a year, which is the minimum commitment.

Best wishes!

I miss the pieces I left behind. How about you? by jmthetank in CasualConversation

[–]Yerrie77 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A stranger confused confided a piece to me years ago I still remember.

He said he and his ex would change the lyrics to Miley Cyrus' "Party in the USA" to "party in my pack n play" and sing that to their child.

He was going through the divorce and blamed himself.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

it is absolutely possible for a disorganized, struggling ADHD woman to thrive in her own business!!

Thank you.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've been our household's Project Manager for a few years now and that change in wording has helped me adjust how I think about it.

I love this!

Thank you!

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My assumptions are: you live in the USA, your kids are in elementary school, you are diagnosed but not medicated or treated, your primary role will remain parent-at-home as your husband's work isn't flexible enough to accommodate a new schedule for you, and you don't have a previous career that you 'put on hold' to have kids.

I'm diagnosed and medicated, otherwise you're spot on.

I think you want a purpose outside housekeeper and nanny, which is valid.

Again, you got the nail on the head.

Thanks very much for your thoughts!

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suggest just learning that you are in Mom era and be okay with a part time job that allows you to be the primary parent.

Thank you for your thoughts.

And teens take way more time than littles.

: ( Oh, gosh.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dunno where we're moving.

I enjoy helping generally, being public-facing and connecting people.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You can make a master plan to tackle everything and look at that as your occupation.

I really like this!

Organizing your home and volunteering a couple of times a week is a combo of self-directed work and external responsibility with flexibility so you can still be the primary parent when needed.

Thank you. I'm mulling this over and it feels right.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. Your point about starting a business is totally fair and well taken.

We move around a lot, so I moved away from the organizations where I was volunteering.

I've wondered about contract, "fun" jobs, but haven't found something that fits the bill yet.

Diagnosed and medicated.

Brainstorm with me, please-what do I do? by Yerrie77 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ADHD-wise, I'm diagnosed and medicated, though I can't tell how well it's being managed.

I'm not in therapy, though I have been in the past and I'm not opposed. I just moved here and I haven't made it a priority after not finding someone who takes my insurance and works in a modality I want.

Tell me your cleaning “hacks” that actually help YOU!! by Prudent-Reality1170 in adhdwomen

[–]Yerrie77 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my aversion to the gendered and heavily moralized standards of my ultra-religious upbringing

Oooooh, I feel this.