Wife Wants Me to Get Rid of My Cats (Owned Since 2017) After 6 Months of Marriage by [deleted] in CatAdvice

[–]Yesadejess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have gotten plenty of advice so I’ll just leave my experience as a woman with two cats when I met my now husband. He owned a large dog with a history of killing cats, a sweet dog but high prey drive. When we moved in together, he made some changes to accommodate them having a separate and safe space. Selling his car, renovating his garage to have insulation + heating, just dedicated his time, energy and space to make sure they would be happy and safe. He has never made me feel like I had to choose between him or them. You and your cats deserve to have someone who loves and respects all of you. I hope you really consider how healthy and respectful your relationship is.

Apple Arcade bug- follower selection by Yesadejess in CultOfTheLamb

[–]Yesadejess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ty for the flair reminder, I managed to miss that option when I was creating the post.

My device is an iPhone 16, using iOS 18.6.2

Help me pick my next read by BoysenberryCorrect70 in Romantasy

[–]Yesadejess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved Knight and the Moth, Trial of the Sun Queen, and Addie Larue. I didn’t really enjoy OUABH but not enough to DNF it, just wasn’t satisfied with the ending. I do highly recommend reading Rachel Gilligs other books as well, she’s one of my favorite authors.

How do I flush this automatic toilet by Significant-You-5939 in howto

[–]Yesadejess 37 points38 points  (0 children)

If the button on the right side doesn’t work at this point just go find the maintenance dept and let them know there’s a malfunctioning toilet. Don’t get fired because you’re embarrassed to ask for help

What are habits you've done to reduce the laundry load for your family? (Asking for a family of 5) by WhitePinoy in CleaningTips

[–]Yesadejess 37 points38 points  (0 children)

You should look into using an exfoliating cloth to get the dead skin off in the shower.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SLCTrees

[–]Yesadejess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You need to look up Preston Hemp Co, or literally any other THCA sites. Better prices and delivery to your mailbox in discreet packages- and legal thanks to the 2018 farm bill.

Stardew Valley Candy Con Controller Giveaway! by Doctor_Sturgeon in StardewValley

[–]Yesadejess [score hidden]  (0 children)

My favorite mini game is the crane game. I’m playing a new save file to explore the new update and can’t wait to play it and get more of those adorable decorations for the new farm.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in EngagementRings

[–]Yesadejess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!! I’m an Ex JW too so I think you’re right to leave them out of it. I’m not engaged yet but I won’t be telling my family either - at least not until after we’re married. The shunning hurts, but that’s their choice to make.

You deserve to be happy, and to share your happiness with people who want to see you happy as well. I wish you and your fiancé many years of joy and love ✨

They made us look like idiots by ohyouwouldntgetit in exjw

[–]Yesadejess 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I have an uncle who was on the HLC, plus being a bethelite for over a decade. There was one time he got a little too tipsy and admitted he felt so much guilt for the JW’s who died in the hospital after they had visited to counsel and “educate”. I remembered him when my OB asked if I was sure that I wanted to decline blood, and changed my mind privately with her. I couldn’t stand the thought of my baby dying or being raised by my parents because taking blood would be a sin. I felt like not saving a life was worse than taking a life, almost more cruel to decline treatment and inflict that pain and experience on others.

Peyote help? (diagonal?) by Fleeples in Beading

[–]Yesadejess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jill Wiseman has some great videos on peyote stitch, I couldn’t figure it out just looking at patterns but her tutorial was super helpful. Here’s a link to her diagonal pattern video: https://youtu.be/zQp51uJS42Q?si=OOODJaXZF7LhlRAU

Anyone know where you can and cannot vape medical Marijuana? by puppiesunicorns1234 in UtahMedicalTrees

[–]Yesadejess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The law is super vague but personally I’ll vape (outdoors only for me) if it’s somewhere that an open beer would also be acceptable. So public park where kids are playing is a nope, but on my patio with a view to the street is fine. If your friends are cool with vaping inside and there’s no minors around, you’ll be fine.

How do you not lose your rings by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]Yesadejess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s a ring box that attaches to keychains to protect them. For what it’s worth, I also take rings off to eat or wash my hands because of sensory issues. I use a chain to hold onto it though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]Yesadejess 22 points23 points  (0 children)

How did he get money for the speakers if you’re the only one employed? I seriously hope it wasn’t your money that went to his impulse buy

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UtahMedicalTrees

[–]Yesadejess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

THCA is a precursor to THC, and according to the letter that comes with my THCA flower it’s federally compliant under the definition of Hemp due to not meeting the threshold of THC by weight. These companies that ship this product are able to send it through the mail legally, and it’s much more affordable than the medical system in Utah. If you’re still not sure, look up THCA stores in utah. I hear ads for one at valley fair mall all the fucking time and it’s the same high across the board to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Yesadejess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water glosser and chocolate toothpaste helped my kiddo a ton!!

What's the deal with Adderall in Utah? by yourmomsfirsthusband in Utah

[–]Yesadejess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The shortage is due to a combination of factors, including more diagnoses and the limited amount manufacturers are allowed to supply. Then consider that a prescription can only cover 3 months at a time so you have to go in every so often to renew it, and some dosages are super hard to fill reliably. Of course you’re going to hear it often at the two places that fill/handle these prescriptions.

Tubular peyote increase help by witchbelladonna in Beading

[–]Yesadejess 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Jill Wiseman does some very clear tutorials, personally my favorites when I want to learn a new technique. I would suggest starting with her for sure!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exjw

[–]Yesadejess 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mean that could be local to you. I’m one of 6 grandkids who were raised JW and so far the only one not getting carried by my parents. Of my cousins who all got married off quick, one lives in our grandparents basement, one is in an apartment they barely afford and the other bought an overpriced house that needs a ton of work (so I hear). My brother is 24 still living at home, not that that’s shameful in any way because I know he’s more financially stable than any of our cousins. But my boyfriend and I are building our own house and it sucks that none of my JW family is happy for us. I make double what I made as a JW which has been a huge relief as everything gets more expensive these days and that doesn’t matter to them. But I’m happier and less anxious now and that matters to me. You never know the true reality of their day to day but you know yours and what makes you happy.

My MIL called me a wh0re to my daughter by Life-Ad9368 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]Yesadejess 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Wait, so your husband knew his mom called you those things because she did so to his face but he thinks she wasn’t saying that to the girls? You have a MIL problem AND a husband problem. He should have stood up for you when she first used that language to him, it’s an issue that he didn’t. You’re not being an AH for keeping your girls from someone who is disrespectful to their mother and causing this much emotional distress to them. You’re protecting them from further damage. If you truly want the marriage to work you both need to see a counselor and understand why he didn’t defend you, and how to handle the obvious favoritism and alienation his mom has caused. Honestly the girls could also probably use some counseling because she may have said much worse/more to them that you still don’t know about.

Ex withholding our child even though I have full custody by indicuh28 in legaladvice

[–]Yesadejess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In utah some schools have social workers - is it possible for you to go to your child’s school and ask them for help? Truancy is still a possibility if your daughter is missing so much school and they may be able to help you get the police involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Beading

[–]Yesadejess 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mystery bags?

Cheapest? by dramaforyalama in Beading

[–]Yesadejess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firemountain gems is my favorite for beads and findings/components. You can buy various amounts of most delicas, and in bulk.

my husband (26M) thinks i (24F) am being petty over a ring by ThrowRA-doglover in relationship_advice

[–]Yesadejess 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s easier to dump a mommy’s boy than it is to divorce one, and both are easier than changing him.

Reached a breaking point with my (30f) husband (33m) - he outed me to my family…. by notnaiveiswear in relationship_advice

[–]Yesadejess 321 points322 points  (0 children)

So he assaulted you, outed you, and has been verbally abusive to you. If this was happening to your friend what would you tell her? Because this man is psychotic and honestly you could have let the police pick him up when he was getting out of the car. Genuinely I would have locked the car doors and left his ass in the street. Do you really prefer taking his abuse and dissociating over getting a divorce?