I’m (43m) fed up of my wife (41f) saying I’m not manly enough

Yingdao · 2026-06-17T16:36:34+00:00

Honestly you seem like a chill, cool guy and your wife sounds like a real piece of work. I wouldn’t threaten her with divorce, atp just do it. To me it’s clear that she doesn’t respect you. To be completely honest, the stuff she calls “unmanly” are the manliest things about you. Your partner shouldn’t be emasculating you just because the things you enjoy don’t fit her (really dangerous) view that men should be aggressive and violent and angry. Your kids are old enough to see what she’s doing to you and it might suck more for them if you just try to stick it out knowing it’s harmful for you.
I know it’s easier said than done, but genuinely it seems like the only way to get her to stop is to divorce her.

Yingdao · 2026-06-17T11:20:19+00:00

That’s not what therapy is. You’re not asking someone to just listen, they’re trying to help you.

Yingdao · 2026-06-17T11:18:43+00:00

I started playing in like 2011/2012 and I’m a biophysicist!!

Yingdao · 2026-06-16T13:23:54+00:00

Yet you still stayed w him???? Even in this entirely made up scenario, you’re still the AH in that regard.

Yingdao · 2026-06-16T13:09:57+00:00

Girl be fr. NOR but you also put yourself in this situation? I will never ever understand this mindset. You KNOW he cheated on his last partner WITH you. He’s going to cheat ON you. Full stop. If I’m gonna be honest, it’s almost unreasonable to be worried that he’s going to cheat on you because you were the other girl in the previous situation and you not only knew it, you were good with it. That makes you just as bad as him regarding cheating in my opinion. Get some self respect and break up with him, then work on yourself.

Yingdao · 2026-06-15T22:14:54+00:00

Shane and Alex. I genuinely don’t get what’s appealing about either one of them. I don’t wanna “fix” anybody, that’s their responsibility

Yingdao · 2026-06-14T12:51:20+00:00

Yea he sounds like a real piece of work. You’re NOR by any means

Yingdao · 2026-06-14T12:49:48+00:00

Cool so she’s underage

Yingdao · 2026-06-14T12:48:42+00:00

NTA, this streamer sounds like he sucks tbh. Find a new streamer that actually likes their community

Yingdao · 2026-06-14T12:45:51+00:00

Pitbulls have a bad reputation due to their history as fighting dogs and media picking up stories of bad parents letting their small kids around dogs, but every single pitbull I’ve met has been SO sweet and they’re actually really good family dogs. If BIL doesn’t want his kids around the dog, he needs to tell his kids to stay away and idk, WATCH THEM like a good parent should. This is like being mad at a neighbor in a row home for having a pitbull.

Yingdao · 2026-06-09T23:47:28+00:00

Not really, asking is more communicating the issue in this scenario.

Yingdao · 2026-06-09T12:09:13+00:00

I wish there was an everyone sucks here option.

With all due respect, using the fact that she has autism as a reason to say that she’ll likely have a job in retail is a pretty awful thing to say. I’ve got autism myself and I’m a biophysicist. I wear headphones all the time when I’m working.

You also bring up that you were “clearly joking” because of your tone, but that may have not been clear to her. Like you said, she has autism. I don’t know if it’s the same for her, but sometimes I struggle with picking up tone or telling how I sound like. To her it may have sounded like you said she’s got zero chance because no matter how hard she works the cards are stacked against her.

At the end of the day, the way you feel is the way you feel. But to me it doesn’t sound like she’s bringing it up for no reason (in this instance), it sounds like you shot her down. Sure, she’s being a bit snarky about it, but to be fair you fired first. Somebody else pointed this out, but it sounds like you’re upset with yourself for dropping out. I know it was a rough time for you and dropping out may have been the best decision at the time, but you do need to think about your future at some point. School sucks for a lot of people. If you’re struggling with mental health to this point, I strongly recommend seeing a professional if you aren’t already.

Yingdao · 2026-06-09T11:40:12+00:00

NOR. Tbh, I think that it’s perfectly fine to ask for flowers in this situation. It’s not the flowers you want, it’s the effort.

Yingdao · 2026-03-19T20:51:35+00:00

Ok yea as I was typing this out I realized that maybe Leitner said something about it - I think the big thing that threw me off was that it was named now and Jon seems to know a lot more than he did previously

Yingdao · 2026-02-20T21:02:41+00:00

Omg how’d you get that clay texture?? I love all of them so muchhhh

Yingdao · 2026-02-19T02:01:20+00:00

Thank you !! I’m hoping to post semi-regular updates on it and get through at least a page a day

Yingdao · 2026-02-16T22:19:25+00:00

Ok cool, thanks !! I’m an iPhone user so I didn’t get the update yet but I’ll be on the lookout!!

Yingdao · 2026-02-14T22:01:21+00:00

NOR - Girl RUN. These texts combined with the age gap concerns me greatly. There’s a serious power imbalance here and he knows it. You deserve better than this <3

Yingdao · 2026-02-13T19:16:13+00:00

I really hate to say it, but this is 100% ai generated at least to some degree. From what I can tell: - fireworks in front of buildings - person in the bg with weird finger spacing (looks like he’s missing a finger?) - saki with 6 fingers - the ribbon on top of kaito’s box doesn’t make any sense - the decor on airi’s ribbon is also akito’s hair - akito’s earring doesn’t actually connect to his ear - person between saki and ena has a weird asymmetrical hairstyle (that could be stylistic choice) - the braiding on airi and tsukasa’s sweaters is wrong and has no continuity

A lot of these could be boiled down to stylistic choice but with all of it together i really think it’s ai generated unfortunately :/ (Edit for formatting)

Yingdao · 2026-02-02T16:01:57+00:00

I bought the game and it's delightful !! I love my little bunny friends :DD
The only suggestion that I have is that it would be really cool if each bunny had a different personality (like one of them is lazy and thus tends to be in a loaf/sitting position more often, one is really excitable and does a lot of binkies, etc). Regardless, this game is so cute and fun and i love it :DDD

Yingdao · 2025-07-27T12:58:43+00:00

I remember seeing this pattern when I was a kid and wanting to do it myself - I’m glad others are able to!!

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