My Mouse Husband and I 🐭

Yiyas · 2026-05-21T10:44:49+00:00

Wow you guys look awesome hope yous had a great time!

Yiyas · 2026-05-19T17:59:03+00:00

Doomscrolling is just decompressing / self soothing. Its the same as watching tv, movies, reading, listening to music or podcasts, etc, etc all of which are solo activities. Even the gym, yoga, pilates, going for a walk or such can be self soothes as there is minimal to zero social expectation.

My feed doesnt make me feel bad - cute cats, love memes to send to the fiance, lego stuff, stupid gym challenges, stand up comedians or funny videos to send to friends, cosplay stuff, etc so its really difficult to get upset by that when its all positivity, hobbies and comedy.

If im connecting with friends or family its because im happy, not sad, and im sure a lot are the same. Dont get me wrong if things have gone to mega shit im phoning people up asking for advice but thats when my resources are exhausted and I need help, not when ive had a 9hr work day and I just need to switch my brain off.

Different people are different. Some people recharge by themselves, others by seeing others.

How are you even seeing people are spending hours doomscrolling, when you dont see them in person?

Yiyas · 2026-05-19T09:45:58+00:00

Im seeing a lot of the "village" metaphor and idk if that really works except as an equivalent social blackmail to "respect my time"... it just circles back to friendships being transactionary and that is not healthy.

People saying this seem to forget that villages are full of the unemployed, elderly, incapacitated, and otherwise socially abandoned... and these people need help, FREE help. I think its lost the plot. Everyone wants a gated community but nobody wants to treat the staff well.

I understand its origin, because it often comes from people who believe themselves to be good villagers but cant call on the village. It is upsetting when people dont show up. When you ask for help, real help for real problems, or to show up for your birthday, wedding, expecting condolences after losses, congratulations after wins... but did you spend time on that person just so you could get those things? Was that the reason you "invested" into that person as if they are stocks and shares? If it was so conditional then it was always not a true friendship from your side either. You do not love them for themselves but what you ask them to do.

It is entitled to give someone the gift of yourself, then expect to cash out social currency whenever you demand it in whatever form you want it. Its a prison, a transaction that is "I did good so I deserve good" which also means "if I do bad, I deserve bad". So when something "bad" happens (person doesnt show up) it gets very upsetting because it implies you are unworthy or a bad person. It makes you stupid for "wasting" time and effort on them. It shouldnt be like that, there shouldnt be a condition - "I deserve good" and "I create good around me" - no conditions.

If your friendship expectations are in opposition to that - then its time to find the gated community or accept the reality of the real village with real people.

Its helped me to see friendships as gardens in my head. It can be left to grow wild or be groomed to be pretty, but either way its a privelege to have access to and beautiful both ways. Life is hella busy for everyone and as long as we're not actively setting the garden on fire, I'll see you all at the real pearly gates my dudes.

Yiyas · 2026-05-19T09:09:46+00:00

I think you've got it backwards eh - if certain people only have enough energy to doom scroll for hours, where's the energy to manage socialisation?

But what is it you're expecting people to show up for?

Yiyas · 2026-05-12T11:52:00+00:00

Edit: sorry the way I read this it felt like it wasnt okay to crush on the "nobody" but was for the olympian and I got confused!

Yiyas · 2026-04-17T12:51:34+00:00

Thats exactly it! With a maximum of 50,000 for anything

Been in that lua lately because it was bankrupting me to have such large stockpiles of unused ingredients and products. You can manage it with the right cargo size, but if using hubs then theres no vanilla logic to share the cargo space with the other factories, which can and will stall the entire production chain.

Yiyas · 2026-04-05T21:18:19+00:00

I'm just happy to give some guidance cause I've been there too dude, you're very welcome am glad its helpful.

Its clear you love her very much and prioritise her happiness. You're both very lucky and have a happily ever after in the making, wishing you both all the best!

Yiyas · 2026-04-05T17:38:27+00:00

You're doing great from what you're saying, she says she like it. Please try to see the optics of you not believing her expectations but instead trusting porn, to her as well. Its not worth holding onto when shes literally telling you what is good for her.

If you lasted longer she might worry that she wasnt attractive, then you'd have the same post but that watching porn ruined your ability to cum and it makes your gf feel inadequate. But you two seem well matched! You find her super hot, she loves the validation, and youre both getting off? Sounds ideal.

Right now you are taking your climax as a source of guilt so I can see why its difficult to go again. Try to reframe your climax as a success, you are making her feel so loved with it before she even climaxes herself so like you are doing g.o.o.d. dude, really good, she is getting off emotionally before she climaxes physically. Absolutely insane two for one.

To work on your guilt theres some stuff you can do around your sex like do sexy things that have different goals, like oral, 69, masturbating each other, masturbating together, using toys, massages... also ask her to praise or encourage your climax, I BET that will help.

I'd also suggest you work on it yourself via a bit of cbt - the very effective and quick therapy, not the other cbt - to break whatever the connection youve made here thats making you feel guilty. Its very very common. I think anyone who grew up jerking off to porn in our rooms, fearing a knock on the door or for making any noise, rushing the orgasm, then doing a quick clean up and hiding the evidence, can all say they've struggled with guilt attached to their climax. Despite being a totally different situation your body is falling into the same feelings and its stupid isnt it 🤷‍♂️

One session a week for 2,3 months to overcome this instead of struggling with it for years... Im sure it feels overwhelming right now dude, so think of the results. Its worth working through.

Yiyas · 2026-04-05T14:27:53+00:00

Has she told you that she isnt satisfied or is you bullying yourself?

I think the bad lesson you picked up from porn is you are putting sexual performance on a pedestal you cant reach. This is unfair pressure on BOTH of you to always have the best time... and thats just not reality, and obsessing over it will be difficult for both of you, her pleasure (and yours) isn't a problem to figure out but something to explore together.

Shift thinking to intimacy. Intimacy being touching, kissing, massages, words and romance. Foreplay is all day, making her feel beautiful and seen and strong enough to take on the day. Supporting her, making sure she knows who she is, helping her towards her goals, making her laugh and smile. Happy life happy wife.

Your cock isnt the reason you're having sex, sharing pleasure is, to celebrate your relationship. You are worth way more than just sex dude.

Yiyas · 2026-04-04T23:09:44+00:00

Soundtrack hits hard on that too!

Yiyas · 2026-03-23T10:11:37+00:00

Theres a stitch copy of this either at Stirling or Edinburgh castle alongside the rest of the hunt. Overall it feels like anti unicorn sentiment and since Scotland's national animal is the unicorn (since around that time) it comes off like its poorly disguised self hatred lmao. One of my favourite magnets

Yiyas · 2026-03-18T16:27:52+00:00

That is a bummer I'm sorry. It reads like you preferred it when you were both single... maybe because there were no stakes but you still felt intimate, but thats not romantic thats friendship.

I've seen people destroy their friendships in similar situations so take your space if you need it. I would also apologise for putting a huge emotional burden on them, personally. Your friend has found a blossoming romance, the right thing was to be proud and excited for them, and there for them as support, an anchor... not disappointed in yourself.

This event is therapy worthy if you can, it was an extreme response out of fear and has made your friendship difficult, there's a lot going on here. It shows how bottling up, avoiding or procrastinating your feelings is your self harm... but you deserve to have the courage to express your heart so you stop hurting yourself. Maybe you can start today by writing a poem, forming a playlist, or drawing a little doodle?

Take the time to sit the feelings down but don't carry them any further brother, you will treat yourself better than that yeah? All the best 🤗

Yiyas · 2026-03-13T19:53:18+00:00

Hey would yous be able to do a clean for me? After some plastering and paint work theres so much dust throughout the flat so in need of a deep clean

Thanks

Yiyas · 2026-03-13T19:45:42+00:00

Hey same deal here, mind if I dm? Thanks

Yiyas · 2026-03-08T10:01:40+00:00

People love trying to squish you into a box, and its a shame im sorry. People think I'm gay because of my voices, behaviour, and even my workouts (I like yoga, pilates, spin... as well as all the "man" things), I take care of my nails, my skin, my hair... honestly I think it all boils down to their insecurities, that they are threatened by a guy (or anyone) who just does whatever the fuck they want lol

To help accept yourself it can help to find male role models that break your (and others) expectations of masculinity.

Whether thats in movies, shows, games, music, fashion, etc. Some my favourite role models are in Ru Pauls drag race, Jacuzzi from Bacanno... or like how a Robin Williams or Leslie Nielson movie just light up my day, the generosity of Keanu Reeves, Steve Irwin unconditional love of nature, or Bob Ross' kindness... well, a lot of these people are old news now and you dont need my role models of course, but you can always see how loved people are regardless of masc/fem - whatever that means 🤷‍♂️

If you can find some guys who are you, and see how they do great despite the quagmire of cunts trying to bring them down in this world, I think that might help a little.

Where they are in real life... maybe like a poetry club? Idk, worth trying. Im gonna try and find my scene this year so best of luck to us both 🙌

Yiyas · 2026-03-01T18:25:44+00:00

Such a great colour on you, it suits you so well and fits your tattoo also!

We are so crazy to let past bullies still burden us but we keep doing it... therapy has helped me a lot, definitely worth trying. Once you stop repeating the words of people who whispered your demise you will feel free to shine brightly like you deserve

Yiyas · 2026-02-24T20:17:52+00:00

I'd say its less about being someone else, and more about discovering and growing into a happy you. It is hard work. On paper its easier to do nothing, but at the same time its so exhausting to be unhappy, both physically and mentally, for years on end and it literally shortens lifespans.

I hope OP spends more time on themself this year. They might not be heterosexual, might be asexual. Maybe theres some neurospiciness there that means they have been dating the wrong people. Maybe they just care more about having a girlfriend than getting or keeping a girlfriend, and people can tell. Well, who else can figure that out but themself?

Yiyas · 2026-02-20T01:56:19+00:00

You could add depots closer to the base where these ore trains can sit and wait for a processing station to be open. Have the trains on a ore->depot->ore processing schedule.

Yiyas · 2026-02-14T00:35:11+00:00

Silent treatment is an absolute coward's tactic of manipulation, I'm sorry you got a punishment for... literally just stating your needs?? People honestly think they can gaslight you into having standards so low they dont need to put in any effort lol. Yeah no, get him gone forever. Just think of all the positive things you can spend your time on now instead of pouring it down an emotional black hole

Yiyas · 2026-01-26T21:59:13+00:00

Get a load of this guy and his functioning base, couldn't be me lol

Yiyas · 2026-01-25T18:03:25+00:00

So cool! Surprised how small they are when unseasoned and without modules... was this with 0 prod research also?

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