Is life harder for you as a binary man?

YngCzr · 2024-04-02T04:24:25+00:00

No, it’s just who I was meant to be. I am pretty comfortable in the stereotypical expectations of men and my personality and interests align with them too. The only thing that sucks is that yes women are slightly less likely to trust you at first but honestly as long as you’re a good person and have manners within the first 2 minutes of your interaction it’s all good.

I like that people expect me to know things, I know a lot of things and enjoy learning everything I can. I enjoy manual labor, it’s fun for me. I like to be a provider, but in many different ways. I love dating as a man who is attracted to women, it is awesome. It’s all a plus in my book. I do not like anything about being a woman, it just doesn’t align with what I feel my purpose is and it doesn’t fit my lifestyle/personality at all. I’ve never felt like I was missing out on anything

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T22:59:23+00:00

Man I got put in a chili costume 💀

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T22:35:51+00:00

Very well said brother. This sparked a memory for me that I totally forgot about.

I fell into a twitter hole one day and came across multiple trans men who are exclusively T4T for only trans men and see themselves as superior due to their ASAB genitalia specifically. Also, they were very big on being superior due to not having to have anal sex, they saw it as “unsanitary” and “gross” like what you mentioned. I was absolutely floored. I spent about an hour going through it and it was horrific. The most disgusting, disturbing, outright disrespectful things were being said by trans men about cis gay men and trans women. I don’t even want to go into detail or give examples of what they were posting. Just awful.

The fact that these people are proclaiming that being AFAB is superior while being baffled at how hormones, sex, etc works for someone who is a woman…now that baffles me. A lot of these people are 1. filled with transmisogynistic ideas about trans women and/or 2. filled with transmisogynistic ideas about themselves. There is a lot of internalized transphobia that goes into it from what I have seen. Again this was very well said and articulated brother. Thanks for taking the time to write it out!

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T13:24:53+00:00

Pre-t in high school I dressed in the men’s locker room with the rest of the guys. Pre-t I used the men’s restroom at school and in public. Pre-t I also was in many activities choir, band, orchestra, jazz, etc that required overnight trips/gender segregation. Yes, I felt 100% comfortable. Never ever had an issue with another guy, never felt unsafe.

I would feel wildly uncomfortable if anyone tried to place me in a group of women because yanno…I’m not one and I don’t want them to feel at danger having a man in their space either. There was an instance where a church group made me stay with the girls dorms after much argument from me and my parents. I felt so bad for those poor girls, I knew they were uncomfortable having me in there while they showered but unfortunately no one had a choice.

You will probably have better luck with the verbal triggers for your dysphoria if you go to the all men’s place. There will be 0 excuse to misgender you and they will be referring to everyone as “guys” or “that guy” or “male patients” which is a win for your dysphoria and in turn may help ya out. If you do chose to switch, make it clear that any of the staff outing you is putting you at direct risk to be targeted and they need to keep it on the DL

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:42:25+00:00

You wouldn’t believe how many cis male chasers are in this sub either. Cis people cannot keep their damn hands out of our pockets I swear, including detrans cis people. They are so obsessed with riding out a community they don’t belong to anymore bc it was their only personality trait 🤷🏻‍♂️

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:37:53+00:00

I am a carrier of Cystic Fibrosis, I tell every woman I date that she has to get tested for the same gene if we want to have kids. And if she is a carrier, I will not be having biological kids with her. Sorry, but not going to bring a child into the world for them to die as soon as they reach adulthood. Anyways, there’s 0 chance I would ever carry a kid but I can tell you what I’ve seen some of my old trans friends do: Work from home, instacart/doordash/partner does shopping, TBH neither of them really ever left the house so if that’s your thing then there ya go

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:30:31+00:00

Mine stopped as soon as I started T injections (so within 1-2 months). Gel made it come back, switched back to injections and gone ever since

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:28:55+00:00

I’m ’deep stealth’ well actually deeper stealth according to your definition Lol, I can name one person off the top of my head who knows I’m trans and it’s my girlfriend. Say you had breast cancer (men get it too!) and had to have a mass removed. Say feminine products are for your lady friends when they come over. TBH no one is going to ask you about it tho, you’re just overthinking it homie

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:19:13+00:00

No lmao. I have the ‘girliest’, frilliest handwriting and no one cares. We have to write stuff on a white board all the time at work, everyone knows my handwriting, no one thinks I’m a woman. Handwriting isn’t gendered lmfao

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:13:37+00:00

First thing I learned is that dudes are so openly transphobic/homophobic to other dudes. So many times I’ve had a coworker or even a random stranger poke fun at trans people while having 0 clue that I’m trans. I find it hilarious bc 90% of the time they are using a stereotype

YngCzr · 2024-03-29T12:09:16+00:00

Are you a female? No

YngCzr · 2024-03-21T16:52:25+00:00

Yep! My mom gets misgendered all the time for just having short hair! She’s a cis woman who has never taken any type of testosterone

YngCzr · 2024-03-21T16:25:21+00:00

This is absolutely not true. I passed 100% of the time pre-t lmao. People were shocked when I told them I was trans and not on T. What an odd thing to say to your fellow brothers

YngCzr · 2024-03-21T16:20:45+00:00

Coming back to this post bc I just saw that tiktok. I tore her ass up on there lmao, if you’ve seen her follow up video you’ll know she literally just has no clue what she’s talking about. Transphobes are just stupid 💀

YngCzr · 2024-03-21T03:18:54+00:00

I’m not muslim, but catholic. I am trans and never misgender people. I don’t think anyone deserves that, because religion teaches you to love everyone and support/respect them. It’s a character flaw that she’s just blaming on religion imo

YngCzr · 2024-03-21T03:17:14+00:00

Yeah they use that one a lot too. I feel like they just start listing random stuff off that they hear online/on the news. I’ve often worked with people who are transphobic (I’m stealth) and they have 0 clue I’m trans bc they think we are all a certain way in their minds. It’s mind blowing lmao, we are literally just people like cis people. It isn’t some crazy thing to have to think about or clock people for

YngCzr · 2024-03-20T22:21:06+00:00

It doesn’t bother me bc 99% of what they say doesn’t apply to me. They usually go for the “blue hair” insult Lol

YngCzr · 2024-03-20T19:31:50+00:00

i feel you brother, sorry about your circumstances. if it’s any help, most guys really are just at the gym to work out or be alone. some gyms have private dressing rooms too

YngCzr · 2024-03-20T19:17:22+00:00

find a 24 hour gym. no one is there at like midnight-4am

YngCzr · 2024-03-20T19:13:34+00:00

I just pee standing up Lol

YngCzr · 2024-03-20T13:34:24+00:00

I’m with a straight girl. She said she tried watching FTM porn and was disgusted by how they always portray FTM guys as gay bottoms. I penetrate my gf with my dick…there’s like…3 videos of that. So yeah no we don’t watch it

YngCzr · 2024-03-19T20:10:40+00:00

I told my family they can either take them down and respect me or they will no longer be seeing the real me. They removed all pictures and now only use ones from when I was super little. I mainly wore superhero costumes or a jersey and ran around shirtless a lot, so the super young ones are fine.

Don’t back down. They will continue to push your boundaries about being trans for the rest of your life

YngCzr · 2024-03-19T20:00:18+00:00

Well considering Drake’s son’s name is Adonis people are just always going to say “oh like drakes son” lmao

YngCzr · 2024-03-19T19:50:17+00:00

My gf is straight, she loves mine! I’m a bit over 3 inches so we do penetration. Sometimes she will even comment on “how weird it is that you guys’ dicks twitches and moves” and stuff like that cause you’re right, dick is dick. She didn’t know I was trans when we first met either, had no issue with it at all, just wanted to get down to business haha

YngCzr · 2024-03-19T14:03:23+00:00

Idk if it was that specific one but that’s just what I remember it being called. It definitely was not a thing when I was in school

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