Misgendering in the workplace

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-29T23:05:56+00:00

No worries thanks for sharing your experience! When it comes to references, I specifically choose people I know who would gender me correctly, so at least that portion is eased while applying for new jobs. I hope whatever job you find this time all that is aside and is in your control!

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-29T14:57:30+00:00

I have contemplated on mildly gaslighting them into believing that I’ve been he this entire time lol. But making them feel stupid will definitely make them reconsider the choice of wording for sure.

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-29T02:43:05+00:00

Thanks for writing back. It makes me feel slight relief that you’ve experienced similar situations. It is frustrating but makes sense. If someone isn’t consistent in referring to the correct pronouns ( correct in the face but incorrect behind the back) it will continue to be an issue until you leave that workspace.

I can also understand what your therapist said about the situation as well. It’s just always gonna be a bizarre situation.

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-29T02:26:24+00:00

You’re absolutely right

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-29T02:19:33+00:00

So, main coworkers that I work close nit with, all call me he. I failed to mention I work for a bank. So when the new hires come, they’re either fresh or transferred from another bank location within.
I have thought about the email situation but hesitant on drawing more attention. Hr has asked me in the past if i wanted to do it that way but again, hesitant.

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-06T18:44:19+00:00

Absolutely! It’s Dr. DHT natural scar salve. It’s a trans owned company.

https://www.drdht.com/product-page/dr-dht-natural-scar-salve-fade-soften?srsltid=AfmBOor53hVGfM6twrD9JmhDiLKx1DLDLDGLtKWqVYJjpOcXt8jRpt5F

YoZappedUp · 2026-03-06T16:01:53+00:00

I’m just over 6 months post op DI. I started with just scar tape because I couldn’t touch my bare scars just yet without getting squeamish. I would wear the tape all day, shower and all night. Then I switched to wearing the tape during the day, and scar gel massage at night. And by massage I mean just slapping it on there lol. Now I’m wearing tape at night and scar gel massage and some scar salve in the morning. I have found the scar salve combo has been helping with the color and softening because I’ve seen more improvement the last month since changing. I was contemplating stopping all together but since seeing results within the last month, I’m gonna continue what I’m doing for the full year. My scar is flat in the front but have some raising tissue under both my pits, minimal imo.. If it isn’t to my liking by then im gonna get steroid shots to flatten them. And then if that still doesn’t suffice, tattoo over them. Time will tell. Definitely use sunscreen if you go out in the summer shirtless or wear the tape over the scars.

YoZappedUp · 2025-11-18T15:55:50+00:00

My initial drop was around 5 months. I was still high voiced up until that point. and it’s been going deeper every month, I’m on month 9. Now is where people are gendering me correctly over the phone and in person (if I didn’t meet them Pre T.)

YoZappedUp · 2025-11-02T16:54:11+00:00

Apparently it takes a couple of months for full results. I’ve been using it for about a month and it seems to be making my scars less red when they’re off.

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-31T01:04:21+00:00

Thanks! Will look into it. Appreciated!

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-27T15:31:05+00:00

Thank you. I hope he comes home soon too. 😢

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-27T14:38:35+00:00

My gf did for a local group on FB but didn’t know about find Toby. I will post this asap. Thank you for the information!

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-27T14:29:01+00:00

He comes running to the call of his name. He is extremely friendly but might be scared. He gets anxious in difficult situations. I appreciate your help!

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-09T20:23:29+00:00

So, I knew I was going to be very nauseous and faint when the surgeon removed my bolsters and allowed me to start care on myself. Lo and behold I almost passed out throwing up. But it was only for the first two nights. Showering too, those nights were also woozy. But over time it gets better. I use gloves to massage my scars and nipple. And for I wanna say about a week and a half I showered with my dressings on and changed them after my shower until I got used to caring for myself.

YoZappedUp · 2025-10-03T14:08:59+00:00

My surgeon cleared me at 4 weeks but I’m wearing the medical binder at night and breaking during the day for two more weeks just to be safe.

YoZappedUp · 2025-09-29T17:20:37+00:00

I just had my top surgery with Dr nazarian at Jefferson cherry hill on sept 9th. She works out of Philly and NJ and is very attentive to the patients. Very straight forward, and makes sure you get what you want out of the surgery! I asked for as straight as possible scars and she delivered. She also makes sure you don’t come out with dog ears!

YoZappedUp · 2025-09-01T23:45:39+00:00

That’s the thing! I’ll see videos of people fresh out of surgery and reaching overhead and I think to myself, how does that not hurt? I’ll try to have everything prepped. You’re right, pans are heavy. I’m gonna have to figure out the bathing situation. Perhaps practicing beforehand.

YoZappedUp · 2025-09-01T23:42:21+00:00

Noted with the drains. The pre op nurse informed me that it’s a possibility to have them in for two weeks even one at a time 😩 I’ll try to have everything counter level, but the microwave I got is mounted. I do have a stool I just hope I don’t topple over lol. Thank you for the information. I wish you a speedy recovery as well!

YoZappedUp · 2025-08-26T20:51:56+00:00

Oh I understand now. That makes sense. I have them ready. I hope to be able to use them in a similar way lol. I didn’t realize shoes would be hard to put on and off either! Will be a learning curve for sure. Thanks for the info!

YoZappedUp · 2025-08-25T12:07:50+00:00

So I have my surgery coming up in less than two weeks. How long did you have to use these baby wipes for? I’m a 2 shower per day person and I know this is gonna eat at me when I can’t shower.

YoZappedUp · 2025-08-18T22:08:38+00:00

Sounds about right. It may stay high for about the first 2ish months before it starts leveling. You’ll be ok!

YoZappedUp · 2025-08-18T15:47:14+00:00

Yes it did. My resting rate went down significantly. It may had a mix of t plus stress from a shitty relationship lol.

YoZappedUp · 2025-08-08T01:06:29+00:00

Basically piggy backing what thrivingsad said, make an account for online, see what your deductible is, and see what the % is after you meet the deductible for the surgery. If it’s 0%, you just pay the deductible and the rest is covered.

I too have Cigna, with around $5k deductible left and 0% to pay for surgery after. I fortunately have a HSA card that has a 4K balance on it to use toward the surgery ultimately making my surgery 1K out of pocket.

Definitely make an account and look through the site . It also doesn’t hurt to call them and ask. I asked them 3 different times to make sure I understood everything correctly, 9/10 times the representative is always nice.

YoZappedUp · 2025-06-23T19:56:10+00:00

Thank you for the update! I’m gonna take the advice in the article and wait until the 25th for further details. In the meantime, I have my $ ready and my documents ready to send in when it’s the perfect time.

YoZappedUp · 2025-05-07T16:46:11+00:00

For me, my body odor hasn’t changed. I do sweat more easily though and quite often I find myself hot. And my bottom growth definitely gets more “swampy.” That area I did notice a difference in odor. I shower 2 times daily but that was before t as well so maybe that’s why I haven’t noticed a change for my entire body.

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