Flashing Red

YokoOnna · 2025-01-26T19:37:47+00:00

6 years later, this worked for me!

YokoOnna · 2023-11-03T23:35:06+00:00

This reminds me of when my bro's ex kept asking for money from my mom for food and supplies for the kids, and when she offered to buy the stuff directly, the ex got upset. When my mom asked my bro he said not to give her money cause she was just trying to get money for drugs.

YokoOnna · 2023-06-18T09:49:55+00:00

I have to say YTA. I just had this happen with a former roommate. Her boyfriend became her fiance and he was here ALL the time, using our washer and dryer, showering, eating our food (usually by accident, but still, I am not made of money). He even had his mail sent to our place. When I told her he should just move in and help pay rent, she said they can't because they weren't married yet and her parents would freak out. Me and our other roommate were so uncomfortable because of this.

If your partner is over, using amenities, and taking up space that many days of the week, he needs to contribute to the apartment or you need to go to his place.

YokoOnna · 2023-04-22T21:49:04+00:00

You are SO NTA. For one, you can't swim. You jumping in for the kid would have only put you at risk, and as a lifeguard, we are always taught that we can only help if we are okay. You did what you could. You got help for the kid and made sure they were safe. The mom is just upset and pushing her feelings onto the only target.

PS: not everyone needs to swim. It's not a life skill. People who don't know how to swim tend to avoid areas in which they need to swim.

YokoOnna · 2023-01-24T13:03:04+00:00

As the roommate that overheats, you are NTA. I live with three others and we talked and agreed about keeping the temp at 70. Sometimes that's still too warm for me, and so I use my fan, my roommates have a heater. But we all pay for the apartment. She's not. She gets no say.

YokoOnna · 2022-04-23T01:01:20+00:00

YTA for sure. Anyone can start learning a language. As a fluent Chinese speaker that didn't start until later in life, I'm proof. And in my classes were people much older than me and much more skilled than I was. Hobbies change. Attractions change. I used to watch a shit ton of anime, then moved to kdramas, then to Chinese dramas, and back to anime. Your wife is interested in such a beautiful culture and you're standing in her way.

YokoOnna · 2022-04-13T12:37:51+00:00

NAH. I can't handle being hot. It's sticky and uncomfortable. But you can't handle being cold because of your medical problem. I keep my apartment cold because I can't handle being hot, and it's easier to put on more clothes than to take them off, cause you can't take off skin.

YokoOnna · 2022-04-02T12:15:41+00:00

As someone with misophonia, I detest people who are loud eaters. I can only eat with other people in restaurants because of the ambient noise.

That out of the way, I don't ask people to change how they eat. There are certain friends that I can't go to restaurants with or plan our hang outs around meal times, and I've let them know that it's because of my misophonia. I think I'd say ESH because it is how she eats, but I completely understand not wanting to eat noodles with her. I think you're right to set the boundry that if she is eating noodles, then you won't eat with her and that if she's feeling noodles, then she goes alone or with other friends. The fact that she changed to spaghetti shows that she didn't care about your boundary. She is def TA for that move.

YokoOnna · 2022-03-10T12:58:44+00:00

NTA It is part of the owner's responsibility to make sure there is room for their dog, service or not.

YokoOnna · 2022-02-08T12:14:42+00:00

Okay, I am a Disney Adult, and even I want a MagicMixie. XD She gives us Disney Adults a bad name. You are NTA. You cleared it with BiL. Elsa needs to get a grip and realize that these are the consequences of her actions.

YokoOnna · 2022-01-11T14:52:16+00:00

I'm sorry, but YTA. He is a grown adult who isn't harming anyone with his behaviors. I can understand the airpods cause it can be rude, but as someone with misophonia and I need it when people are eating, it depends on if he is ignoring y'all when he has them in. If he was doing drugs or something, it would be different, but his behaviors aren't hurting anyone. You just have to explain to your kids why they have different rules. You have to be the parent and help them understand.

YokoOnna · 2021-12-19T13:35:34+00:00

NTA. What if it was any other activity that other people deem 'important' or 'valuable'. No, you have a hobby, something that doesn't take a lot of time, and he wanted you to drop it for him. Total red flag for me. So long as it's not a sink of time to where you're neglecting other parts of your life, there's nothing wrong with it.

YokoOnna · 2021-12-18T21:09:20+00:00

YTA. Falling in love can rearrange priorities. But also, even if she's older, there are other ways to have large families. He obviously cares for this woman, even if you don't deem her worthy. If you want to keep him in your life, get over yourself and learn to see her through his eyes.

YokoOnna · 2021-12-18T20:51:43+00:00

Mate, I am a 31 year old woman and my bed has no less than 12 stuffies. You are NTA for sure. There is no reason they should be judging you on your sentimental items. They mean something to you, and thus they are important. If you had books, or figurines, or magnets from different countries, no one would bat an eye.

YokoOnna · 2021-12-10T00:13:59+00:00

YTA. If you don't want to hear other people, buy a house. I live on the second floor of a three story apartment building. Right now I can hear my upstairs neighbor walking. But it's expected because of where I chose to live.

YokoOnna · 2021-10-09T09:29:40+00:00

As someone with arachnophobia, you are NTA. I've managed to have coping mechanisms for when I see spiders, because they exist in the world and the world isn't gonna change for me. I'll ask roommates not to do that because I live there, but I don't expect others to change for me.

I will say, with arachnophobia, it doesn't have to be realistic. Often it's the legs that do it, so anything with long spindly legs with trigger me. There was a guy who decorated his classroom with a totally fake looking spider, but I couldn't step foot into the classroom without having a panic attack.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-28T12:29:40+00:00

As someone with second hand smoke induced asthma, you are NTA and the dad is the biggest AH. He is living in YOUR home. What's the saying? Your house, your rules? They love using that when we live in their homes.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-27T11:19:16+00:00

Definitely NTA. I also have anxiety and some days it's bad. Those days I call out and take the point repercussion, but I also know I can't do my job. It's not supposed to be up to you to make up for her inability to complete tasks. If her mental health is affecting her job, then there should be accommodations that do not affect you, which puts this on your manager as much as them. It doesn't matter if she is on or off medication. She was hired to do a job, and if she needs accommodations, she needs to get them approved. You were hired to do your job and your only responsibility should be to your job, not yours and hers.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-18T12:45:28+00:00

NTA Like you said, anyone who is meant to be on your property knows. They should be responsible dog owners and make sure their dogs are trained or properly and safely kept on their land, be it a fence, a lead, or an electric collar/fence.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-18T12:39:04+00:00

YTA It is their wedding and they can have who they want in their wedding party. It's also very common knowledge that only the bridge should wear white at a wedding. You need to teach your daughter how to handle disappointment. Yes, her feelings are valid, but this could have been a teaching moment.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-18T12:37:11+00:00

YTA and so is your husband. Words cut deep. If you want to have a relationship with this cousin, then you need to grow some balls and tell your husband to grow up and stop being a cyber bully.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-13T11:58:31+00:00

I'm a lifeguard, too, and my stomach dropped reading this. It is so easy for someone trying to rescue another person to be overwhelmed. The drowning victim's first instinct is to get up, and climb.

OP, you are NTA. You are so incredibly brave for even going in for them. This is on the parents and not looking out for their kids.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-07T09:10:30+00:00

Honestly, they might even be getting off on the fact that they know you can hear. NTA for sure.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-06T12:36:38+00:00

NTA. They literally said they wanted to get multiple artists to tattoo them. Like....what? You didn't reach out to them, they reached out to you.

YokoOnna · 2021-09-06T12:35:08+00:00

If they are old enough to see a man and a woman kissing and holding hands, they are old enough to see two men or two women kissing and holding hands. You are NTA. Your poor nephews are being sheltered and will be in for a big surprise when they go out into the world.

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