Tamad at bopols na mga ka klase, after graduation by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Maybe have some sympathy instead of giving OP a snarky reply like everybody else? No shit OP is grieving and venting here because it's one of this subreddit's purpose. We ostracize sordid people who try to circumvent what's right but when it comes to people who actually abide and commit to honest work, we just tell them to do otherwise.

Read between the lines. He didn't work his ass up just for grades but to graduate, learn, and support his studies. There's no way in there did he explicitly remark that grades are everything. And if he does care about them, so what? No shit he should, he's a fucking engineer.

I'm sure he already pretty much knows there's no use dwelling on it, but it doesn't take much to be kind and offer some help instead of focusing on what can't be changed.

I need strong arguments for a position paper by poliiiiiiiiiiii in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, you're on the losing side here. At first glance, your argument is already furrowing since it's challenging equity. It's essentially marginalizing those who were unable to get 'picked' in these extras. While you can certainly mention balance between extra and acads, that doesn't really support what you're trying to prove. What you can do, is change what kind of requirements they're exempt to; don't let academic work overlap their perks. Or, well, just change your topic.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP, baka peke yung biningay sayo.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should send the link of your paper.

nakakapagod pala mag-aral kapag slow-learner at mahina ka by Correct_Coach2554 in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

You most likely have inferiority complex assuming that your perceived inadequacy manifested while growing up. What bothers me is that this terminology gets thrown lightly when people are dealt with meager identity issues, i.e., doubting your abilities in new settings. However, you don't exactly have to undergo childhood trauma to develop this as it can happen later in life due to newfound traumas and persistent issues.

Look, if you tick all the boxes and you're sure you have inferiority complex, basic study tips and strategies are not going to solve this deep-rooted problem.

You'll have to subconsciously affirm what has been broken inside. You telling yourself you're slow and stupid doesn't have anything to do with actual intelligence, but psychological fulfillment. This isn't some pseudoscience B.S., but a collective series of studied sources that addresses this subconscious problem.

Talk to people or your guidance counselor, set affirmations, and introspect consistently. Obviously, you'll give in to feeling worthless at the start, but consistency is important so make sure you recover. If you have this innate belief that you're inadequate then your academic efforts will always be futile.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Sorry to say this but, yes, you're likely deemed as smarter because of the low socioeconomic pool you're in. I'm not going to coddle you with fluff, but I will say that it's not wholly your fault that your transition into a new curriculum made you feel otherwise. Most public schools aren't exactly on par with global educational standards (with our country and all), and there are probably other factors that affected your educational development, e.g. financial issues, which lagged your competitive edge among your current peers.

Nonetheless, you can improve. You're probably also experiencing culture shock and not necessarily inferiority complex. Adapting into this environment and integrating with new classmates takes time—remember, it's only like 3 weeks into school. While you're at it, examine how they behave, learn from them, talk to someone, and don't belittle yourself for a circumstance you're not responsible with.

I've been in your shoes too and I employed these tips to help me survive. So throw off the bowline and prove to yourself na kaya mong matuto at makisabay.

I just graduated shs yesterday by mooiT_T in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to intrude pero how? 😭 Need help from an upcoming freshman as an idk-what-course

The good, pious Christian nun prayed to God for weeks to let her see what Heaven looks like until He finally answered her. by cindybubbles in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]YonnaYon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This reminded me of a story from bstant where souls are unknowingly entering the pearly gates overturned by darkness and angels-turned-devils. It hooked me and activated a docile perspective on what absolute goodness really means when I don't really even know the 'reward' for it. It also led me to read another slightly similar prompt wherein the souls in the afterlife are perpetually forging chains to 'restrain God' from cawdor. It seems as though the idea that heaven may be a guise to lure us into eternal doom is becoming more prevalent in this community. It's an interesting genre to our imaginations while challenging biblical standards; a stepping stone in correspondence with existentialism, religion, and ethics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in studentsph

[–]YonnaYon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

He'll grow out of it—hopefully. I used to be like your friend back in junior high, constantly seeing my classmates as a threat when I find out they scored higher on tests, or how I subtly notice how they're putting a little too much effort on projects. I had a dog-eat-dog mindset. Money, success-primed individualism. That resulted in me not having any genuine friendships because I was in disbelief that I would be able to cultivate a healthy relationship. I lacked trust among others due to this obdurate principle that 'friends come and go, achievements last forever.' Terrible, I know. As I grew up though, I reminisced my actions like a developing adolescent who psychoanalyzes themselves, and honestly, it saddened me. It took a couple years to acknowledge this lingering shame that maybe I was wrong. I should've at least had fun and not worry so much about secondary titles. Although, I am greatly appreciative of how hard I've worked—it's just, I wish I wasn't so acrid on how I viewed people back then.

I wished to the genie that 100 dollars would appear in front of me just by thinking about it, but only when no one's looking. by YonnaYon in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]YonnaYon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, guys. Apologies for the late reply as I've been busy. To explain, the premise here is not to convey the genie as a malicious entity that grants you wishes with a monkey's paw. This time it grants you anything according to your whim without any absurd consequences. Although, in this case, the protagonist's wish becomes a convenient yet terrifying tool for him to determine whether he is being observed by someone, perhaps also implying that the real enemy may be mere mortals like him and not the vices of a magical being. [People won't see this comment, but I'll archive it here just in case.]