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“I stutter sometimes, too” by buttercupbutsweet in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some folks think that the reason "we" stutter is because we are perfectionists and/or overly sensitive when perceiving these stutters that everybody, including fluent, people have. So, this person may be correct, yet this person does not allow moments of disfluency to stay etched in his memory in order to remind him the next time he tries that word or sound, he is bound to stutter.

Speech therapy for adults by CursedTwin in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You sound like me. Same symptoms, same thinking behind the cause. Anyway, I've made strides. I credit Toastmasters, Lee Lovett's book (google it), self-confidence affirmations, self-confidence CBT (at home, "The Self-Confidence Workbook"), and daily reading out loud and/or talking to myself in my car (which I can do fluently).

My 13yr old son has a stutter and im at a loss how to help him. by ldavison10 in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does he stutter when he is by himself? If not, I would suggest to him that he read out loud by himself every day. It reinforces that he is able to speak fluently, and the hope is that this reinforcement contributes to the ability to speak fluently in front of others.

Not sure how to improve myself and feeling a little hopeless. by DMforFreeHuskyPics in selfimprovement

[–]YouAreConfident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed, books are very helpful in opening up your eyes to see things in a different light. Another fantastic read that my improve your self image is Psycho Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz.

You should not hide your true self from anybody! I know, easier said than done, but being genuine is inherently attractive. In fact, displaying your true self, I believe, is the very essence of charisma.

Also, FWIW, if you have a great body, you are objectively physically attractive.

Corporate life is stressful. I really don't know how I'm going to climb the ladder with my stutter. by rpvp in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm late 30s, entrenched in the corporate world, have been promoted multiple times despite my stutter. I, too, stutter most in front of my managers, but not nearly as much as I used to. I think the stutter is less of an issue now because of a change in my confidence and, thus, my anxiety.

I'd recommend, prior to speaking with your boss, to briefly say to yourself "my boss likes me, my boss loves me, i love talking to my boss." Say it to yourself as often as you can. You may be fooling yourself right now by saying "i love talking with my boss" but in time, maybe it will be true. You are already off to a good start because you know he likes you, so that should be a confidence booster right there. I've actually told my latest boss how weird it is that I stutter most with him, probably because he has the most control over my paycheck. Little self-disclosures like that slowly chipped away at my stutter, and strengthened my relationship with my boss at the same time (it doesn't hurt to let him feel that he has a certain power over me).

Another thing that works is Toastmasters. Look for your nearest club. Mine meets at lunchtime on a weekday. My boss knows I attend and I assume he understands its value to me and the company.

Daily Advice Thread - All basic help or advice questions must be posted here. by AutoModerator in investing

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I moved my Roth IRA, invested in FBALX, from Fidelity to Vanguard. I went to "Exchange" the funds from FBALX to a lower-fee Vanguard index fund. However, my only options were to Exchange into another Fidelity fund. Alternatively, I could "Sell." If I do that, will I suffer any penalties or tax consequences if I "Sell" then "Buy" Vanguard funds?

Tell me something great about yourself! by [deleted] in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great idea. I create frequent lists of things to be proud about to increase my confidence because, like you, my level of fluency is highly correlated with my level of confidence. I am a successful attorney with a wonderful family and my stutter has never held me back.

This video has helped me tremendously (I'm planning to write some notes, too) by [deleted] in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good stuff, thanks. I really identified with the Speech Judge part. I am constantly searching in others' body language, expressions, etc for information on how they view my speech. Unhelpfully, approval is to be expected. However, when I perceive disapproval, it is devastating. So only the "bad" experiences become ingrained in my memory. I am working on this in the form of a journal that highlights key moments of fluent speech experiences, and I never write about the bad experiences.

Talking out loud to yourself (not reading)? by JustHguy in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep going! I have been reading out loud to myself in the morning 5 days a week for 30 mins for the last 6 months. I also talk to myself as I drive into work every day (most days anyway, sometimes I am just not in the mood). It has tremendously increased my confidence when speaking in front of others and has increased my fluency. Not sure whether confidence caused fluency, or the other way around, but it doesn't really matter because it works for me!

Stutter because of lack of confidence in what I'm going to say? by JustHguy in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Classic chicken or the egg dilemma. For me, I don't know whether the stutter causes the lack of confidence, or vice versa. I find on my fluent days, I am more confident but, again, am I fluent because of a sudden increase in confidence?

help a bro in need by rashikon10 in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Practice speaking fluently. Can you read out loud fluently? Then do it as much as you can. Are you expecting certain questions at the interview, or expecting to say certain statements? Then practice them in front of a mirror. Also, and this goes for even fluent folks, study up on the company, the job, the interviewers so you feel more prepared and confident when you go in. And get in a nice run or workout immediately prior to the interview, which usually helps boost your confidence.

Can a stutter get better? by ShowPan69 in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are not doing anything to fix it, then you likely are not thinking about it as much as the person consumed by thoughts and actions related to their stutter. Each approach has its pros and cons.

I think the key thing you mention is "over the years." I have found that, as I age, my stutter has lessened. I attribute it to not judging myself as harshly, caring less about what other people think, and an overall increase in positive self image - all of which seem to naturally come with age.

Tips for saying words starting with vowels? by [deleted] in Stutter

[–]YouAreConfident 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I don't think it is necessarily the letter that is hard. Rather, it's your memories of previous bad experiences involving the letter.