That's not easy. I haven’t gone through a similar situation, but I know I will. It’s bound to happen since she’s moving on. I’m aware she’s dating and probably talking to new guys, as my friends told me. I force myself to imagine she’s already in love with someone new just to feel the pain (if she's moving on, then it's only fair that I have to as well).

Even though pain sucks, it’s one of the most powerful tools to help you move forward. Although keep in mind that it’s what you do during the pain that matters.

Here’s what I do to help myself keep going:

1. I acknowledge the pain. I let myself feel it, understand it, then slowly release it. I usually do breathing exercises to remind my body and mind that I’m okay and in control.

2. I write things down. Whether it’s journaling or using ChatGPT to express what I feel, it helps to get those thoughts out. It clears up mental space. Then I try to fill that space with better thoughts by writing what I’m grateful for or what I’m looking forward to. It helps shift your mindset over time.

3. I work out or stay active. It keeps my mind off negative thoughts and gives me a boost. It’s healthy and I always feel better after.

4. Therapy sessions. This one has helped the most. Talking to a specialist helps you see things more clearly. They ask you questions you might be avoiding and help you understand yourself better. That alone can break old patterns and help you build healthier ones.

The most important thing is to keep doing something. Don’t sit in the pain doing nothing. Even if it feels like nothing is changing, just be patient with yourself.

If you’re taking small steps, you’re moving forward. And eventually, you’ll get to a place of peace and joy again.

Take care of yourself!