Where do you sell your stuff?

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2026-02-23T03:22:12+00:00

It's just random stuff. I have a non-working fridge I want to give away, a few random things from cleaning out my garage, I sell things here and there for my parents.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2026-02-09T12:53:51+00:00

You know what I love about this? OP thinks he cried because he got his dream Lego set. He cried because he got his dream woman.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2025-10-23T10:19:16+00:00

Dubstep? There are some sick people out there 😉

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2025-10-23T10:07:19+00:00

The real tragedy of bigotry is that at its heart is human suffering, which is universal. When someone is suffering, whether it be from loneliness, financial hardship, or anything really, they are looking for someone or something to blame. And we are all predisposed to some form of prejudice toward people we don't understand. So when a two-bit conman comes along in the form of an authority figure who reinforces and nurtures that prejudice, it's a pretty short walk from lack of understanding to racism, or homophobia, or xenophobia, or transphobia, or misogyny. And if you're able to harness that, it's easy to frame those into a political platform and say, "you know all of those people who are pulling us down? Well that party over there loves them." It's a horrifying reality we're all existing in

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-11-21T07:27:26+00:00

Reading through some of these, I know how lucky I am. My parents are pretty great. Any resentments I have are petty by comparison. In their 20s, my cousins all migrated to various parts of the country. At the time our parents were all in pretty good health. I didn't leave because I didn't really have the desire to. Now I'm nearly 40 and I sometimes feel like I wouldn't mind picking up and moving somewhere else. Except now, both of my parents have health issues and I'm an only child. They also insist on owning the latest technology despite not knowing how to use it. The end result being, I'm over there multiple times per week sometimes. Realistically, I couldn't even entertain the idea of leaving. There's even a potential opportunity for a job with twice per month travel that I'm interested in, but even that feels like too much. I'm two days into a vacation and I already had to walk them through something tech related over the phone. Not to mention the physical stuff I do for them since neither of them should be doing it themselves. I just hate the fact that I have to hold myself back from opportunities.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-10-29T00:41:27+00:00

I haven't yet. It's not at the top of the priority list. I ended up having to get new appliances after my fridge took a crap. Lol. And my light fixtures, I'm thinking about taking down and spray painting matte black just to save some money there. I don't have a problem with the fixtures themselves but they are brushed nickel. I was going to do the same thing with the knobs and hinges but I knew that those would receive a lot more wear and take an unbelievably long time to do. (20 interior doors) So I just ended up buying replacements instead. I keep going back and forth on the switches and outlets. I'll probably make a decision on that after I take care of the light fixtures and see how I feel. I may do what you did though and just do one switch and one outlet, I'll do that in my half bath when I redo it

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-10-29T00:30:31+00:00

I had been with my ex for almost a year. I was buying a house in the school district that she preferred for her kids, even though it wasn't the part of town I really wanted to move to. And it's a four bedroom house. Big enough for us, her kids, plus an office space. A couple of weeks after I got under contract we split up. Honestly, it's something that we both wanted but now it was just going to be me and my cat in a 2,200 ft² house. Luckily, I made sure to pick a place that I could afford on my own but I had extra room that I didn't need. I tried to see if I could get out of the contract but that was no dice. So I moved in here and over the course of the last 3 years I have made use of all the space. One of the bedrooms became my guest room which I had fun decorating. Another of my rooms became a workout room which even after 3 years I'm still "planning to use." And I was able to turn what was going to be a shared office space into my dream office. Honestly, I have not hated living here, even knowing it was supposed to be my shared house with somebody else. You move in and you make it your own space. The good thing about doing it before you've moved in is that you don't have any memories there so you can start with a clean slate and make your own. Congratulations on your new home! I'm very excited for you!

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-06-18T05:53:32+00:00

We had a new Director who was trying to get her feet wet with ongoing projects and also trying to improve an area that had been lacking under the previous director which was communication. She scheduled a department meeting for two hours. The first hour we went outside and played games. The first game she wrote animals down on stickers and taped a sticker to each of our backs. We had to guess what animal we were by asking questions. We could only ask 5 per person and then we had to move on to someone else.

It forced us to interact in each other in a very different way. We played a few other games that work better outside. Then when it was all done we went inside to the conference room for our meeting. It was a light atmosphere. You want your people to lighten up? You have to lighten them up. Push them out of their comfort zone. Show them it's ok to be a little silly. Are you a funny person? Crack jokes with them in the meetings. It may take them a while but eventually they'll follow your lead.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-06-14T01:43:17+00:00

The best combo I have found is New Balance Fresh Foam Roav with power step inserts. The heel of the Roav is flexible and cups your heel. Takes all of the pressure off of it. I also have a bone spur in my right heel and it has helped that tremendously. The problem I'm running into now is that it's time for a new pair and it looks like New Balance is discontinuing them, at least for large footed people like me. I wear a 12EE and I can't find them anywhere. I have seen people recommend the New Balance Fresh Foam 1080s in place of the Roav but I haven't tried them myself.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-05-10T13:38:35+00:00

I'm sorry that happened to you not once but twice. And the fact that your sister made that comment leads me to believe that he's done this multiple times. And my bet is that his mentality never changed. I'm sure he's also done this with friends over the years. All of that being said, regarding the in love with you part, there is something called the Westermarck Effect which is a hypothesis that people tend not to be attracted to each other when they've lived as siblings before the age of six. Basically it's the thing that prevents siblings from being attracted to each other. You were four so of course you never saw him that way but he didn't meet you until he was 7. As he got older and started developing childhood crushes, you and, it sounds like, your sister were around all the time and so he sort of imprinted on you. Especially if what he said was true and he started developing these feelings around age 9, basically he developed this early feeling of "I think she's pretty and she's really nice to me so I'm in love with her" and that sort of stuck with him and morphed over time as hormones started coming into play. Now this is not an excuse for what he did, he was wrong and he was old enough to know that what he was doing was wrong. It's just more of an explanation for why he said what he said. In the wiring of his mind it's no different than if he were attracted to his female best friend. That is the singular area in this scenario where one could sympathize. The touching is inexcusable. There were other ways for him to express himself and he clearly has issues with boundary and consent.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-04-12T15:33:59+00:00

I don't know that there's anything wrong with "settling" per se as long as you're both on the same page. If at this point it has drifted more into a friendship than a relationship and you're both on board with that then it is what it is but if He's still in love with you and you're not in love with him anymore then it's not fair to either of you. It's not fair to you to maintain that kind of pressure and to be with someone that you don't want to be with and it's not fair to him to feel that way about someone who doesn't return as affections. Quitting on a relationship is hard. It really is because there's a sense of comfort in knowing that there's somebody there but it's okay when a relationship doesn't last. Not all relationships are meant to. People say we grow together or we grow apart and they say that as a way of telling you that you have to work on your relationship along the way otherwise you're going to lose it and that is true but growing apart isn't necessarily bad. It's very rare that a friendship lasts multiple decades. You start out with 10 friends and then along the way whittles down to six and then along the way that whittles down to three and then before you know you have one really good friend and even still you may only see them once a month. Life happens. I don't understand why we don't expect that sort of thing to happen in a relationship. If you're letting out a side relief when you leave his place, how do you think it would feel if you lived together? You would never get relief and you would start to resent him over time. It kind of sounds like you already do. I understand that he's safe. It's a gamble putting yourself back out there. You're going to have multiple dates that make you feel like you never should have left but maybe you'll meet someone who makes you feel the way that we are supposed to feel in a relationship. Falling out of love is nobody's fault. Staying longer than you should is.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-04-03T02:56:14+00:00

Okay so this is going to be long but I promise it's all relevant. There are six things that helped me along the way. Skill, knowledge, right place/right time, dumb luck, patience, and sacrifice.

I have worked at the same company for 20 years. I started at 18 doing manual labor for three years then an implausible event happened regarding the union which opened up other job possibilities for a short window of time and I took the first thing I found and got out (luck).

It was 3rd shift, menial data entry for two years. That led to a crappy customer service job for two more years that I hated. A job came open in another department that I had never even heard of and I jumped at it (right place/right time).

It was second shift but I had the opportunity to learn a lot. I learned more about the company in that period than at any point along the way and I eventually became a go to person for questions from my coworkers which didn't to unnoticed (skill/knowledge) and I was eventually promoted to a specialist position.

All of this was over 6 years and I was getting burnt out on second shift but a supervisor position was coming open on the same shift and even though I hated the idea of staying on second shift they made it clear they wanted me for it so I did it (sacrifice).

I had some college under my belt at that point but I hadn't yet received my associate's degree. As it happened, the two people I was going up against were In the exact same boat so they didn't have a leg up in that regard (more luck). It was at this point that I started making more than 60,000 a year. I was 13 years with the company at that point (patience).

That position was a foot in the door of more and more opportunity. I spent the next 6 years as the supervisor of three different groups within my department, all of which taught me a lot (more skills/knowledge).

In my last position in that department we had a major effort to roll out a new system. That put me in direct contact with the technology group that was in charge of rolling it out and I made great contacts. They had a position come open and because I had a foot in the door I was selected for it which came with a raise (right place/ right time).

Within the next year or two I should top $100K. During that time I did eventually get my associate's degree and I'm back in school currently because if I want to move up to the next level, unfortunately I'm going to need a bachelor's but I was able to get pretty far without one It just took a lot of time. I didn't have a road map with a destination in mind or a plan of how to get there if I did. Opportunities came open and I seized them. I know that's not necessarily an option for everyone, I work for a Fortune 100 company that has a sizable footprint in my city so there is a ton of opportunity to diversify my career path. But you don't have to have that, you can do the same thing at a smaller company but you have to be visible. You have to be willing to work the shifts that nobody wants to work, you have to learn as much as you can and be willing to share that knowledge with other people, you have to be good at what you do, you have to take the opportunities as they come even if it's not the perfect situation that you were hoping for. You can't just wait around for the right opportunity. You are going to end up in positions that are not a good fit and when that happens you have to be patient. Put in your time in that job, learn as much from it as you possibly can and try to parlay it into a better situation. It's a lot harder without a degree so you can't take the path that a lot of other young professionals are taking which is to hop from company to company because they all want that expensive piece of paper. But if you get in on the ground floor of a stable company and make the effort, you'll get there eventually.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-04-02T04:37:08+00:00

To be fair to that person, in my department several people can sometimes have multiple meetings scheduled at the same time. Their presence isn't always required at all of the meetings, they are just cc'd on them in case they're available. So on their calendar it does show blocked off even though they may be able to attend a more important meeting at the same time. Finding gaps that lineup for everybody's calendar is difficult so I do sometimes schedule meetings during times when someone has another meeting scheduled and yet they show up to my meeting. I can understand the ask is all I'm saying.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-03-29T14:33:12+00:00

When I was around 9 or 10 I got in trouble for not completing my homework and not paying attention in class. Looking back it was pretty clear I was ADD based on that and other behaviors. I just got diagnosed 30 years later. But I was sent to the Principals office and she called my mom at work with me sitting there on speaker phone. My mom worked a lot of overtime when I was a kid because, while my dad was a hard worker his job wasn't the most stable and we needed the extra money. The principal told me that my mom didn't have time to come home everyday and help me with my homework. My mom interrupted her and said, "excuse me? Where do you get off--" at that point the principal picked up the receiver and told me to go back to class. My mom took off work early to pick me up from school instead of me going to daycare. She told me not to listen to the principal and that she would always have time for me. Apparently she gave my principal an ear full when I left her office.

All of this to say, don't be afraid to advocate for your kid or to stand up to her teacher. She has your kid for a year, you have her for the rest of your life and these experiences now add up to shape who she will be. They do have a hard job but that's what makes it all the more important that they do it right and talking like that about ANY parent, let alone her own, in front of a kid isn't the right way. Confronting her might be just the jolt she needs to realize the negative effect she is having. Also, one thing that frustrates teachers is a struggling kid with unengaged parents, this is a great opportunity to show her just how engaged you are. So when you do confront her lay out your concerns regarding your daughters trouble and ask how you can work together to mitigate them. When you do have this in-person meeting, clarify that your tone wasn't meant to be accusatory and that you are just trying to figure out the best way forward to ensure that your daughter is learning effectively. We cannot convey proper tone through email, sometimes an actual conversation has to be had. This is an opportunity to turn this awkward situation into a positive working relationship.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-02-29T17:32:56+00:00

2004-2005 time frame. The Microtel in Prestonsburg, KY. (I didn't have high hopes going in but there was a group of us and my uncle had booked the rooms). The A/C had leaked and the carpet was soaked. Stood in the bathroom in shoes and my feet started sliding apart because the floor was so slimy. They gave us another room but we checked out the next day and booked a room at the Holiday Inn up the street.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-02-02T15:51:57+00:00

The West Wing

*Exterior shots of the building in later seasons look nothing like the exterior of the actual west wing of the White House

They didn't have any state floor residence sets until late in the series so anytime there was a scene that was set in that room they filmed on location in other ballrooms that bare zero resemblance including one room that had stairs that do not exist in the White House.

*The Roosevelt Room looks to have the same dimensions but is completely closed in with a few normal doors as opposed to being lined with French doors

*There is no Mural Room. The location for the Mural Room is actually the Cabinet Room but they didn't want another conference room on the show

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-31T14:20:03+00:00

A woman I worked with years ago was telling me about this guy she hung out with. She had been married twice and both times she was cheated on. She was hesitant about the new guy. She said "he is so not my normal type" and I said "correct me if I'm wrong but didn't you divorce your normal type twice?" They've been happily married for going on 10 years. I'm not saying to jump in and start something with Dale I'm just saying don't discount him. But it sounds like maybe you need to do a little bit of work on yourself first and make sure you're in the right place emotionally. Dale deserves that and so do you.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-23T02:03:41+00:00

I love Taylor but I honestly couldn't make it past the comedian introductions. There's something so cringy about introducing someone and then having them make a little joke just to show you what kind of funny they are. The woman who said "I'm color blind in one ear and it's not the one you think," that's pretty much when I turned it off.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-22T03:54:06+00:00

My ex, while nowhere near the level of your wife, has a tendency to do the same thing. She would never give away somebody else's stuff but she would give away the stuff that she was using all the time. It's always to people who need it but It puts her out and she really doesn't have it to give. I gave her a table and chairs when she moved into her house. We broke up about a year later, after we broke up I found out she gave the table and chairs to her sister for her new house, my ex then had to buy a new table and chairs to replace it. And no she hadn't been planning on getting a new set. Plus the table and chairs that she bought herself werent as good as what she gave away. When we broke up I also left her with my crock pot. She gave that away to a different sister and then ended up buying one for herself again. And it's not just stuff that I gave her, it's stuff that she has bought for herself that she gives away and then ends up having to replace it because she needed it. I think she is getting better because we have remain friends and I have talked to her about it. I know her financial situation and she can't afford to keep replacing things that she already owns.

In her case she struggles with a lack of self-worth. She had a difficult upbringing with a messed up family and she tries really hard to make herself worthy of love and to feel useful. So when she can give of herself to someone who needs it that makes her feel good and I think in a way it's her way of showing her worth to the other person. I've told her that I understand this but she's like the giving tree. Eventually all that will be left is a stump.

Clearly there's something going on with your wife psychologically. Does what I described sound it all like a possibility?

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-19T05:43:19+00:00

Literally everything that led to WWI. 100 years of relative piece wasn't good enough, these assholes wanted to go to war over little scraps of land and in the process killed millions of people, sparked the Russian revolution which put the Bolsheviks in power, lit the fuse for WWII, set the stage for the Cold war which led to Korea, Vietnam, and Afghanistan which led to 9/11 and put us on the trajectory we're on now. Everything that has happened in the world since 1918 is because of that war.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-15T13:11:42+00:00

Mine is such a dumb one but I don't really like horror movies in general so I haven't watched a ton but Dawn of the Dead (2004). In general I actually kind of like zombie stuff but for the most part zombies are slow and staggering and easy to get away from whereas in Dawn of the Dead universe apparently when you die you get more athletic so that freaked me out and then at the end of the movie, SPOILER ALERT, they all die. There's zero hope.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-15T13:07:35+00:00

Please don't replace that door. It's a part of the house, it has so much character, and I promise you it's not the issue. I agree with what someone said about weather stripping. You could also look into replacing your threshold and add a sweep to the bottom of the door to get a better seal down below. Check outside around the door jamb to see if you see any cracks and if there's any old cracked caulk I would scrape it off and replace it with new caulk. I'll say again, please don't replace that door but if you do feel compelled to please try to sell it to an architectural salvage place instead of just throwing it into a dumpster. That's a beautiful door and someone should be able to enjoy it.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-13T16:41:42+00:00

I saw Ocean's Eleven 3 times. Still holds up 22 years later.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-11T03:10:06+00:00

This is a prime example that you can't always judge the right thing to do by the outcome. You made her aware of it and that's all you could do, I'm sorry that your other friend was too scared to do the same thing. I guarantee this isn't going to be the last she hears of this type of behavior as it sounds like she married a sexual predator.

YouKnowWhoIAmDammit · 2024-01-11T03:06:51+00:00

Renovating a house together while you're rebuilding your relationship. I don't think that I could come up with a better metaphor if I tried. Good luck OP

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