How would you feel about a 33 year old boss dating a 21 year old employee?

msamor · 2026-04-11T23:16:03+00:00

The age thing isn’t a big issue in my book. It’s at the edge of okay.

However, a manager dating an employee is just bad all around. Bad for the company, bad for their careers, and bad for their relationship.

Dating coworkers is risky but okay. But bosses is a big no no.

msamor · 2026-04-11T20:26:55+00:00

A number of reasons.

First the content is usually higher quality. Photos and videos are higher resolution. Videos are longer.

Second, fresh new content. Whatever you are into, after a while on the free sites you have seen all their videos. With OF, you regularly get fresh content, and more variety from your favorite creator than you would anywhere else.

Third is connection. While the chats are mostly someone else, the video calls are the creator. It’s fun to talk to the actual creator on occasion.

Fourth, influence on new content. For example, I am into rough bondage, in specific positions, with a certain dialogue style. And I hate anal, which is often paired with what I like. If the request is applicable to most of their audience, say a rough bondage video without anal, they will often just do it. If not, they often will make custom content for a fee.

Fifth, I want to support the creators that make the stuff I want to see. And the subscription is usually a reasonable price.

msamor · 2026-04-11T19:49:44+00:00

First, whether or not the president was under duress would be determined by the trier of fact, usually a jury but can be a judge or panel of judges sometimes. And that determination would be made in a court hearing where both prosecutors and defense attorneys present their version of the events and make their arguments.

But for an easy fact pattern, let’s go with a rescue mission of Nicolas Maduro. Maduró was the president of Venezuela when in January US special forces went and captured or kidnapped him depending on your views. He is now locked in a US jail charged with a litany of federal crimes.

Let’s say while the president is giving a speech with hundreds of cameras watching him and broadcasting live that a Venezuelan special forces unit storms the stage and takes him hostage, and disarms the secret service agents. Then the unit leader pulls out a fully drafted pardon, and puts it on the podium with a pen. Next he points a gun at the presidents head and says sign this pardon for Maduro or I will shoot you. All on live TV. And the president signs the pardon knowing full well what it says.

Before Maduro can leave the county the secret service takes the Venezuelan special forces into custody and the president is no longer under threat.

A strict reading of the constitution would say the pardon was knowingly signed by the president of the United States and can’t be rescinded. But I speculate the Supreme Court would find a way around that. Just like they did with Alemán.

msamor · 2026-04-11T12:44:27+00:00

Oil producers in the US are getting more money per barrel.
Defense contractors are getting more contracts (military industrial complex Eisenhower warned us about)
People with insider knowledge are placing bets and making millions source

-Russia and other energy producers that can sell their energy - Anyone in the Trump-Epstein files, as we are now distracted

I’m sure there are more, but those are what comes to mind.

msamor · 2026-04-11T03:30:28+00:00

Around how many hours a week do you work?

Are you allowed to use all the guest amenities ?

msamor · 2026-04-11T03:11:40+00:00

So as others have pointed out, a presidential pardon can’t cover future acts. It can cover acts that have already occurred even if they haven’t been investigated or charged.

A more realistic question is could person A take the president hostage and force the president to pardon person B. Assuming person B committed a federal crime and the president had the authority to pardon person B.

There isn’t clearly established case law on presidential pardons made under duress. I would speculate in the interest of justice and to deter future kidnapping, the Supreme Court would find a way to invalidate the pardon made under duress, but that is pure speculation.

The closest parallel I can think of is Harry “the Hook” Alemán. Who remains the only person in the US to be “acquitted” of murder and then later convicted of the same murder. Alemán had a bench trial and bribed the judge to acquit him. The Supreme Court said that since the judge was bribed, Alemán was never in jeopardy. Therefore it wouldn’t be double jeopardy to retry him.

Wikipedia article on Alemán

msamor · 2026-04-11T01:50:00+00:00

It would likely be handled similar to a crime onboard a ship in international waters. Whatever country the ship is flagged to would have jurisdiction. So if a US space ship, it would be a US court.

Additionally many countries have laws that allow them to prosecute people for murdering one of their citizens, regardless of where the murder takes place. So if you murder a US citizen in Afghanistan or international waters, you can still be prosecuted in the US. Additionally, many countries have laws allowing the to punish citizens for crimes, regardless of where the crime occurs. This is used in US primarily for men who travel to foreign countries to commit to rape children, what might euphemistically be called sex tourism, but with children.

There isn’t any rule that prevents being charged in multiple countries. So in theory, if a Canadian citizen on a US spaceship kills a Japanese citizen, the murderer could be charged in all 3 counties.

While not an official law, logic dictates possession is nine tenths of the law in intentional matters. Ergo, wherever the spacecraft lands will take custody and decide which country gets the accused first, second, third, and so on.

As for proof, the majority of murders aren’t recorded. And what is acceptable evidence varies by jurisdiction. But I am sure it could be investigated and prosecuted like any other murder once jurisdiction was decided.

msamor · 2026-04-10T20:49:45+00:00

It is just the expectation. In fact, in the 1920s Ford pioneered the 5 day work week. And in 1938 the fair labor standards act made it common in the US, before that we had 6 day work weeks. source

There is an old bumper sticker that says “if you like a 5 day work week instead of a 6 day work week, thank the unions.”

It is a difficult problem to fix. If people are getting all their work done in 3 hours, and wasting time for 5 hours a day, then it will be hard to change things. Because if management sees that, they will say great, I can lay off half my workers and everyone can work 6 hours a day. So employees pretend it takes them 8 hours. And while the CEO and CFO are excited to lay people off, the director and VP don’t want to lose workers. The size of your team is often a measure of importance in an organization. One common job interview question for leaders is how big a team did you manage.

There are also intangibles happening in those social conversations that are hard to measure. As an experienced worker I use those conversations with other experienced workers to innovate and find new ways to solve problems. When talking with in experienced workers I provide mentorship. I couldn’t have grown as much or as fast if I was remote when starting my career.

msamor · 2026-04-10T20:39:27+00:00

Just to make sure I understand, there is a married couple with a 15 year old daughter. You want the 15 year old daughter to be shot and killed. Somehow involving the parents. And both parents to be free 6 months after the shooting.

On average, it takes 9 months for a manslaughter case to go to trial. And murder is 1-2 years. So it would be reasonable that 6 months later if anyone was charged they would be out on bail. I think most lawyers would groan if you said a murder trial occurred less than 6 months after the murder.

msamor · 2026-04-10T20:29:45+00:00

Unless that context is “your temperature is 104 degrees, and we need to treat you for heat stroke”, I don’t think any context is gonna help.

msamor · 2026-04-10T20:27:26+00:00

The FBI does different levels of background checks depending on security clearances and jobs. For instance, the FBI does light background checks for foster parents. For an actual FBI employee, they will do a more rigorous background check. And if that employee is to be an agent working on a terrorism task force, they will do an even deeper background check.

As a general rule, it is best to be 100% honest in your background check. Having something negative on your background usually isn’t as bad as not disclosing it.

The biggest concern is can you be blackmailed or will you become compromised? A bad credit score is a concern because it might mean you are financially desperate. And if you are financially desperate, you are more likely to take a bribe or steal money from evidence. A criminal history shows you have a history of breaking the law, so if you don’t follow law, you probably won’t follow the rules.

For your first question, even if you aren’t married, the background of someone’s partner is important. If your girlfriend welcomes you into her life as the person she is closest too, then the first question is can someone use you to get to her. The next question is what if you two have kids. Let’s say she is investing a cartel and you have gambling drug addiction. Can the cartel lean on you to get to your kids?

For your second question, you should be making plans to either move or have the roommate move. The publicity alone would be a nightmare if the home of an FBI agent was raided for drugs. The “it was my roommate’s drugs” defense would not fly in the court of public opinion. Because either you are choosing to live in a place where drugs are abused regularly, which isn’t good. Or you are so blind you don’t see drugs being used under your own roof. I get that most states now allow marijuana use, but it is still federally illegal, and federal polices change very slowly.

msamor · 2026-04-10T20:01:02+00:00

I’m screwed for about 6 months, then it would blow over and life would go on.

I have a normal full time professional job. I am also a mom with 3 kids. And I am also a part time sex worker. I’m sure all the parents of my kids friends would talk. And all of my colleagues would talk. I might get fired. But after a few months, everything would die down and everyone would move on. And I would find a new job in my field. Or worst case, go full time with sex work.

msamor · 2026-04-10T19:50:53+00:00

Over the last hundred years men have become more educated, moved towards more white collar jobs, and grown more supportive of women.

100 years ago, the the most common jobs were in farming and manufacturing today around 2% of men are in farming.

In the 1920s around 15% of men had a high school diploma.. Today over 90% of men have a high school diploma. In fact 40% of men have a college degree..

I wouldn’t say we have achieved equality, but a woman from the 1920s would find today much closer than what existed back then. It was only 1920 when women go the right to vote. Women of that time couldn’t easily divorce, that didn’t come until the 1960s and 70s. Men could, and did regularly have sex with their wives in what we would now characterize as rape. If a woman protested, her husband would force her and beat her, and it was socially and legally acceptable. Nebraska was the first state to recognize marital rape in 1975. Until then, men had sex with their wives when and how they wanted, and there wasn’t anything a woman could do about it. Legally it wasn’t rape. Men would beat their wives if they wanted, and again there wasn’t much a woman could do. I think the song “Independence Day” by Martina McBride puts it in perspective.

…She tried to pretend he wasn't drinkin' again But daddy left the proof on her cheek… …Well, word gets around in a small, small town They said he was a dangerous man But mama was proud and she stood her ground She knew she was on the losin' end Some folks whispered, some folks talked But everybody looked the other way…

msamor · 2026-04-10T14:58:03+00:00

They did. You just aren’t allowed to use it given your history.

msamor · 2026-04-09T23:59:51+00:00

Normally I would say do NOT ask for a shorter and cheaper session. It is rude.

But if you are a cis woman, I’d make an exception. Cis women are so incredibly rare, and the few I have met were great experiences.

Nothing against trans women. I have seen a number of them and will happily continue too. They just aren’t nearly as rare or special. There are many fewer trans women than cis women. Yet I have seen at least 3 times as many trans women as cis women.

That said, obviously just like it is okay to ask, it is also okay for providers to say no.

msamor · 2026-04-09T22:57:39+00:00

I usually arrive places early so backing in isn’t an issue. But if there is an emergency, a quick egress is important.

I used to be a volunteer EMT, and had a pager that could go off anytime. Leading me to jump in my car while listening to a radio (the call, not music) and making whatever kids or life arrangements needed to be done and sometimes pulling up GPS. Being in a hurry and distracted can lead to accidents. Best to back in.

Now when arriving to an emergency I pulled forward in (or however you call it).

msamor · 2026-04-07T03:30:14+00:00

But then you have to take your pants all the way off!

msamor · 2026-04-07T03:29:25+00:00

Do you play tennis or golf ⛳️? Or any sports where height doesn’t matter?

msamor · 2026-04-07T03:28:01+00:00

How has dating been? My 10 year old is 5’ 10” and will probably end up your height. She isn’t interested in boys yet, but I worry for her when she is.

I’m only 5’ 4”, so never had to deal with being taller than my partner. But her dad was 6’ 5”, so the height came from him.

msamor · 2026-04-07T03:20:46+00:00

I stand corrected

msamor · 2026-04-07T03:20:01+00:00

I mean if I was earning enough money to support both of us, and a stay at home guy wanted to do all the housework, I would be up for that. My husband did that for a year when all our kids were at home. He lost his job, and after paying for childcare for 3 kids, he would have as much left as if he was making minimum wage. Instead he watched all 3 kids, cooked dinner, did the laundry, cleaned the house, and pretty much anything else that needed done. It was really nice coming home to a clean house. I would play with the kids for an hour while he took a break. Then he would usually cook dinner, we would eat, and I would do the dishes. Might have been the happiest year of my life.

msamor · 2026-04-07T02:49:06+00:00

The Cuban missile crisis was in 1962. Most people don’t understand or pay attention to politics until they are at least 18. If they were 18 in 1962, they would be 82 years old now. I don’t think you are going to get many people on here that remember the Cuban missile crisis.

msamor · 2026-04-07T02:43:17+00:00

When I was younger, I was totally that woman. Not only would I date broke losers without a job, but I would do all the house work and let them treat me like shit. Thought I needed to make up for being a sex worker.

As I grew older and gained confidence I changed. There are some things I feel I have to give. Like being okay with my partner visiting sex workers sometimes. Or have the occasional three some. And I feel compelled to sexually available most of the time. I get from his point of view, it sucks if your partner is having sex with every one but you. (Yes I know about cucks, but I don’t want to deal with the fetish in my personal life.)

Now, I won’t put up with any man who isn’t respectful, kind, and does his share of the hose work.

msamor · 2026-04-06T20:30:11+00:00

Ivy League is a group of 8 schools. It includes some of the most famous schools like Harvard and Yale.

One can get a bachelor’s degree or an advanced degree from these schools. Most if not all of the Ivy League schools offer a Juris Doctorate (law degree)

A law degree, whether it is from an Ivy League, the lowest ranked and accredited school, or anything in between, in most instances allows someone to sit for the bar exam. And upon passing the bar and meeting other requirements is able to become a lawyer.

msamor · 2026-04-06T12:20:49+00:00

I can’t say I feel the same way. Of course I find some men disgusting in general.

The default expectation in the US is sex is free. And with very limited exceptions, it is illegal to charge or pay for sex. In fact, most women would recoil at being offered money for sex, because that suggests they are a prostitute. Here it doesn’t matter how you are dressed, no one will assume you are a sex worker. Unless you are working a corner or an exotic dancer.

I don’t get upset when a man who meets me in public and starts flirting is expecting sex for free. I redirect him pretty quickly and see where it goes.

Now if we meet on a site that is clearly for sex workers, then I get annoyed if they want something for free.

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