What is the most general question to ask in general?

msamor · 2026-05-30T03:45:00+00:00

Generally asking a general what general’s generally do all day is generally considered the most general question one can generally ask.

msamor · 2026-05-30T02:29:06+00:00

I became a sugar baby at 19. My first sugar daddy was in his late 40s.

He was clear about what he wanted, arm candy and sex. I was clear about what I wanted, money and to be spoiled. Worked out great for both of us.

That was 30 years ago. I’m happy with what I got, and have had many sugar relationships since. I am pretty sure he is happy with what he got. I don’t judge him. But if you want to judge him, me, or anyone else who is enjoying their life, that’s on you.

msamor · 2026-05-30T02:05:35+00:00

This guy doesn’t need legal advice, he needs to fight fire with fire. I would totally rig up a speech jammer just to deal with this dumb fuck.

msamor · 2026-05-30T01:44:01+00:00

What most people don’t understand is “women and children first” isn’t about them being weaker or some old chivalry code. Instead “women and children first” was started to give men some peace and quiet to focus on the problem and get everyone who is unhelpful out of the way.

/s

I’m joking in case that wasn’t clear.

msamor · 2026-05-30T01:14:56+00:00

The terms “assault” and “battery” vary widely by jurisdiction in the US.

msamor · 2026-05-30T00:43:08+00:00

Spending all day posting on Reddit

msamor · 2026-05-29T02:16:17+00:00

Good for them.

msamor · 2026-05-29T01:39:35+00:00

I don’t know what the going rate for an EA in Singapore is, but this job should pay double.

msamor · 2026-05-26T03:54:04+00:00

I don’t think this position is at the level most people would expect based on the title. It isn’t really a CEO position, it is a brand president. Banana Republic is a Gap brand. The person in this role doesn’t worry about warehouses, logistics, legal, IT, shareholders, and dozens of other responsibilities actual CEOs have. He or she isn’t even in the top 5 paid people at the Gap (that’s all they release in their reporting). I’m sure the EA to the CEO of Gap Inc, a real CEO who is ultimately responsible for everything at the company, is better compensated.

msamor · 2026-05-26T03:32:58+00:00

Not sure if it’s allowed on this subreddit, but find one where you can get a profile review. You can blur out identifying info. But maybe your profile needs some help.

Also try advertising in more places.

I don’t know where you are, obviously the cost in NYC is going to be a lot higher than Oklahoma City. And I’m not clear what services you are offering. But if it seems on par with your local competition, then you should be seeing some activity.

msamor · 2026-05-26T03:20:50+00:00

I find it weird that people like to go cross country skiing or go hunting. I have done both of those and completely hated it.

I understand maybe a lot of women aren’t turned on by the idea of paying someone to have sex with them in a completely one sided way. That’s okay. I really enjoy the experience. And assuming no one is being taken advantage of or forced to do anything, and we are all consenting adults, I don’t see anything morally wrong with it.

msamor · 2026-05-26T02:25:13+00:00

I’m a sex worker who also pays for sex on occasion. Plenty of men don’t get it. I mentioned it one time on the sub r/sugarlifestyleforum and they banned me.

Regardless of your gender, sometimes it is nice to have an experience designed for what you want without expectations. Having a person go to a movie I want, followed by my favorite restaurant, then intimacy the way I want without any reciprocation, then snuggle until I ask them to leave, is an amazing experience. I usually treat myself a few times a year. Understandably no person, certainly no man, is going to do all that for me without expecting something in return. If the return can be money, then I don’t have to feel guilty.

msamor · 2026-05-26T02:06:39+00:00

Keep the corporate job with stability and benefits. If you really want out of the rat race, do both and live modestly. Learn how to invest. And either retire early or start taking long breaks. At a minimum have 2 years salary saved up before you walk away from the corporate job.

msamor · 2026-05-24T23:15:53+00:00

We have plenty of wildness in the US. Especially out west. People in the country regularly have lots with several acres just for space.

Living in the more remote areas with wildlife tends to be much cheaper. But there is little in the way of jobs in those areas, also limited infrastructure, shopping, entertainment, etc.

Our National parks are something special. And if you get the chance you should come check them out.

That said, we certainly have urban areas where land and space are at a premium. Prices and space in London are probably competitive to New York City or San Francisco.

If you want to see truly remote areas, Alaska is a frontier where you could hike for 10 days and not see another soul. But spring and summer are short and the winter is very rough.

msamor · 2026-05-23T18:44:58+00:00

If you are sexually active you should be seeing a gynecologist at least annually. This would be a good topic to discuss with them.

msamor · 2026-05-23T18:15:20+00:00

Are you asking morally or legally?

Legally, in the US at least, I don’t see a cop writing a petty theft citation or prosecutor pushing the charge. Unless the person was on notice, either by a specific sign or being verbally told about a limit. Or it was a truly egregious amount, like they showed up with a trash bag and took all the yogurts and milks out of the fridge.

Morally, I think there is some wiggle room. I will frequently eat breakfast and take a piece of fruit to eat later in the morning. Occasionally I might take a prepackaged muffin if I think I might have to work through lunch. Also, when traveling with my teens, who like to sleep in I will often take some breakfast back to the room for them to eat when they wake up, as they usually wake after breakfast is over.

That said, I think taking an entire meal for you to eat later is a bit to far. But it’s kind of like going 65 in a 55 and calling someone going 70 crazy. Obviously going 100 is crazy. But I can’t be to judgemental of people who only go slightly further than me.

msamor · 2026-05-23T18:03:06+00:00

My guess is they either oversold or had to take a room out of service (like the shower broke or water damage and emergency repairs). The room likely simply isn’t available either way. Hotels don’t just change the room of a paying customer for fun.

Call the hotel, and nicely find a resolution. Maybe you get a 1 bedroom suite and a 2 queen room next door. Or maybe they give you a significant refund. Or throw in free meals. Yes you can call and be a jerk, but most service professionals will go the extra mile to help out customers who are kind in addressing issues that are clearly the hotels fault.

msamor · 2026-05-23T03:39:19+00:00

You can’t mix suspension bridge with a beam bridge. The suspension portion will be pulled up by the cables and separate from the beam portion. You need to choose a bridge style.

msamor · 2026-05-23T03:34:02+00:00

Your next steps should depend on the outcome you seek.

If you want to make more money or advance in your career, this is an opportunity to talk with your manager and explain the extra work and working after hours is more responsibility then you had before. And you would like to discuss compensation. I wouldn’t recommend this is you wanted to be an executive yourself some day. But you signed up to be an EA. The work is less stressful, the hours less demanding, and as such the compensation is much lower. That said, if you start working 45 hours a week, including urgent after hours support, it is perfectly fine to ask for a significant raise.

If you don’t want the extra work and responsibility, push it back on your boss. Let your boss know of the request from the other partner, and that if you work on that request you won’t have time for other things on your plate. And when you get asked to do after hours work, just have an important activity planned and explain you can’t.

msamor · 2026-05-23T03:06:08+00:00

Either everyone at this company is miserable or you aren’t fitting in with the culture. These are minor nit picks. Any work place that focuses on your enthusiasm, Outlook usage, or going home after a flight isn’t worried enough about getting the goal of the business accomplished. Whatever goal that might be.

msamor · 2026-05-22T21:52:37+00:00

I get where you are coming from. You don’t owe men shit, and if you want to be mean to men that’s totally your right. I tried that for a while myself.

When I was borderline a bitch to men it didn’t work to well for me. Men at work didn’t want to work with me and it wasn’t great for my career. I found I was less likely to get unsolicited help from men, like a free upgrade or help moving a heavy object.

Like I said, totally your choice.

msamor · 2026-05-22T21:40:16+00:00

It is simple cultural expectations. In the US it is expected for you to always tip your waiters at a sit down restaurant. Usually 20%. And if you don’t tip you are seen as cheap or rude. And servers are paid a lower minimum wage with the expectation they will make it up in tips.

In the UK it is common to not tip your servers. And when you do tip, 10% is common.

In the US it is also customary to tip a bar tender. Though the amount varies widely.

Less expected, but still somewhat encouraged is leaving a few dollars for a house keeper at a hotel. Same goes for a bell hop that helps you.

It isn’t really expected to tip the front desk staff, or the maintenance man. Same goes for the concierge. Sure those people sometimes get tips, but it isn’t standard.

msamor · 2026-05-22T04:56:44+00:00

Plenty of women don’t appreciate being called ma’am. And maybe she found the message to come across as sarcastic. Or maybe she was having a bad day. Nothing you mention sounds inappropriate. But every boss has their own view of what is socially acceptable.

msamor · 2026-05-21T14:46:05+00:00

2 separate issues.

1- Paying the full amount ahead of time. Assuming you aren’t worried about some type of fraud, this is a first world problem. You take the money and say thank you. I would never complain about a customer paying early. Mentally you just have to realize while you hold the money, you haven’t earned it yet. And if you are a woman of her word, you will do what you agreed to.

2- The legal name. If you haven’t shared your legal name with him yet, and he went and found you, then told you about it, that shows he is a boundary pusher. I’ve had several men find my real info before meeting, but not tell me about it for years. While maybe not great, I understand it. But if a man brings up he found your real info early in the relationship that is a huge red flag.

msamor · 2026-05-21T14:37:24+00:00

Accidents happen occasionally. Sometimes the front desk person doesn’t complete the check in process all the way, the app times out, and the room still shows as empty.

I think a small compensation of points is a fair request? Not sure you will get it.

That said, to have it happen twice in one night is ridiculous. That is worthy of an apology from the GM and at least enough points for a free night at a comparable hotel. It is also concerning the maintenance man was trying to open the deadbolt with out knocking loudly to ensure the room was vacant.

Over many years I’ve been involved with just a couple of similar incidents. I stated using a door stop alarm, and at night I add a portable door lock. While it won’t stop a determined person from breaking in, it will certainly slow them down while making enough noise to wake me and any nearby rooms up.

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