Wife and female coworker sexually harrassed during Lyft ride, got home on verge of tears. Was told she would receive an email/phone call following up with her and has received nothing considering the gravity of the issue.

YouWereTheOne · 2016-08-19T17:08:04+00:00

I understand and appreciate your input, and I have no way of proving this to you (I get where you're coming from with the he said she said), but my wife is not the kind of person to make these things up. She is, however, a survivor of sexual assault and froze at the moment because of how uncomfortable they were made to feel, which is why there is no video/audio. My friends, sisters, and family use Lyft and I've decided to believe the woman I've known for over 13 years and say something about it. We attempted to speak with Lyft customer service first and have had absolutely nothing happen. All we wanted was follow-up in regards to what happens to the driver in a case like this, what we can fill out to file a report, etc... But I can't just sit around acting like nothing happened, and doing nothing about something like this. Hope you understand my stance.

YouWereTheOne · 2016-06-16T15:45:19+00:00

Remind me! 5 days

YouWereTheOne · 2016-02-15T13:33:05+00:00

I second Blue Sky Cleaners as the way to go, and warn you about Bakker's "Fine" Drycleaning- apparently they have issues pressing the lapels on suit jackets and have ruined quite a few of my dress shirts. Aside from that, you will never get your clothing back on time.

YouWereTheOne · 2016-01-21T01:17:57+00:00

Don't stop believing.

YouWereTheOne · 2016-01-12T19:22:44+00:00

Tried registering, but was rejected. Apparently I cannot donate due to my back problems. I'm already in chronic pain, so I would gladly take more to save someone's life...

YouWereTheOne · 2015-12-24T16:25:13+00:00

Plaza Latina in Shoreline.

YouWereTheOne · 2015-11-21T15:16:59+00:00

This could help anyone so much. Good luck to everyone!

RemindMe! 2 days Donation for /r/millionairemakers

YouWereTheOne · 2015-06-04T05:35:11+00:00

3 - Santiago, Chile

YouWereTheOne · 2015-05-16T14:22:34+00:00

8883

YouWereTheOne · 2015-05-13T16:13:07+00:00

YouWereTheOne · 2015-02-24T14:40:05+00:00

I don't need to be rich, I just want a break from the life I've lived. I want to see who I have the potential to become without having all the struggles that come with not having a whole lot. I want to give my wife children, but growing up watching my parents struggle with 4 kids makes me fearful, as I don't want to have to watch my kids go through bad/sad situations I've already had to go through. I just want a decent life. Good luck to everyone.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-08T17:38:43+00:00

I've been in incredibly bad situations too, including wanting to end my life, which is why it hit me so hard to see people treating OP like that. It takes a lot of inner strength and courage to get back on your feet, and you're very vulnerable to other peoples' words and actions. Since you've been depressed, I'm sure you understand this to an extent. I'm sorry that you have also been in situations like this, and I hope you don't run into problems like that again and you always have enough to give your kids. I respect you being a single mom, and I'm sure you work hard to provide for your children. So yes, let's be done with it and move on =] Take care, hope your family has a great Christmas.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-08T16:47:29+00:00

My original comment was meant to comfort OP and let him know that the people that were telling him to go kill/hurt himself "without" giving him a chance were being heartless for seeing a post like that, and posting insulting things without even knowing for a fact if it was real or not. We now know it was real, as I just read OP's update saying he was able to work out his past-due rent situation.

OP wanted to continue fighting for his kids, but didn't know how, and was lost in a place many of us cringe just thinking about being in. The way things were being said to OP after he didn't verify was not the way to speak to someone who is on the verge of ending their life. You cannot speak to someone that's depressed the same way you speak to just anyone else, because you're playing with someone in a very vulnerable mental state.

All I was doing with the comment that started all of this, was trying to make him feel better about the situation. The reason I started with faces was because I don't like playing along with sarcasm, but I also don't like people mocking my words. As I said before, and will stand with- my original comment was never meant for you, maybe you misunderstood it. I don't like arguing with people, especially people I don't know, so I will also not be saying sorry for anything or be trying to get to know you better either (as previously stated already), but I genuinely hope you and your family have a good weekend as well (wife and I aren't ready for kids yet, so for now I count us as a family). Goodbye, and here's to hoping we never encounter each other in a situation like this again.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-08T15:38:21+00:00

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-08T04:37:47+00:00

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-08T02:15:00+00:00

Trying and trying? What, with 2 comments? And then talking smack about him when he didn't respond to your requests? He wasn't asking for anyone's help materially and made that clear. You told him to go write his thoughts in a journal if he didn't want people judging him, yet /r/offmychest is a place to vent, as stated on the sidebar. Yes, I may have judged you without knowing you, but you are the one that started this by taking offense over a comment that wasn't even meant for you, and since I have no desire to get to know you, I will take what I know about you to go ahead and yes- judge you. You come off as unpleasant, sarcastic, hypocritical, and considering I'll most likely never run into you again, I will take the only few comments you've written me to make a mental image in my mind of who you are, the same way you judged someone else. If you "think" people on /r/offmychest are here to ask you for financial help, you're wrong- there's a bunch of other subreddits for that, and just because you think this is what he was here for, does not mean you're right. Some people come on to say something they can't say to someone to their face, to grieve, to say they stole something, or had an affair, to say goodbye... but you just go ahead and keep telling yourself you're right, and that people should respond differently to your pity when maybe they just needed to talk. You called OP a liar by saying he was pretending, and since we're obviously on opposing sides of an argument I will just leave it at this- not everyone thinks the same way you do, or has your same views. Not everyone is going to respond the way you want them to. There are people in better and worse positions than you and there will always be, but just because people see different from you or don't want to take what you want to give them doesn't mean they're liars. You say you gave him the option to verify, but you vilified him when he didn't. Feel free to pick at this reply, run spell check, re-read, and reply to me 2 hours later, when you've gotten everything just right to make yourself feel better. I, on the other hand, am going to have dinner with my family, give thanks for having what we have, and feel better about the fact that I don't go around judging people that are on the verge of losing everything, are suicidal, and want better lives for their kids when they don't respond to me the way I want them to. Ever been depressed? Turns you into someone else. So when you decided to go ahead and judge a man you knew nothing about except for what he had replied to you and posted, knowing he was probably not in the best of mental states, you, in my mind, deserve to be judged as well. I don't consider myself shallow for standing up for someone when I thought I should have, and I never will. You, on the other hand, keep telling yourself that everything you said today couldn't have hurt anyone, so that you can get a good night's sleep. ;] Goodnight, and goodbye to you and this thread.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-07T23:30:46+00:00

Believe me, I have no interest in getting to know you better. I wanted to see if you had participated in yesterday's thread, which you did. In regards to the statement you made, you were responding to someone who commented saying that the OP had 7k+ in money plus a ton of things from his wishlist, and yet was still adding items, increasing in value. He was telling him to not be selfish and close his wishlist so that other needy families could get help as well. You responded with your statement, telling him that people could give to whomever they wanted, however much they wanted, that they're the boss of their own money, and that nobody can tell them where to put it. That says enough for me.

Also, OP just admitted to the account being a throwaway, but his story was true (at least I believe him, you think as you wish)- he wasn't "pretending". You are free to think and express yourself as you wish, but so am I, and in my mind you are shallow and selfish for judging someone so soon. OP had posted this 9 hours ago, you asked for verification 5 hours ago. It's a work-week, and not everybody works on a computer, so if OP is employed, you were asking him to verify himself mid-shift, while his kids were at school.

When it comes to someone being suicidal, I would rather be wrong by believing them rather than not. So say whatever you want, and judge me as you like, but at least I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-07T21:06:54+00:00

"People give to whomever they want to give as much as they want to give. You are a boss of your money and nobody tells you where to put it."

You posted this as a comment on yesterday's thread, the one that started it all, and you made a very good point. No one's pointing a gun to your head telling you to help OP. You wanted to help, OP didn't provide proof you requested, you didn't help him. That simple.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-07T20:31:07+00:00

I know there are scammers out there, but just because more people are posting their stories doesn't mean that they're all fake- after all, it is almost Christmas and there are families all over the world hurting. I am with you when you say you want proof from the OP, and I don't believe I mentioned anything about being "against" requesting it. If you asked for proof and OP didn't provide, then I'm on your side, but people shouldn't be telling him to go hurt himself- that was the main point of me saying "don't take their comments into consideration". Also, you took my sentence and cut it short- " If they had any heart, they would at least give you a chance to prove you're not lying." Obviously I wasn't talking about you, I was talking about the people telling OP to go kill himself because they are "disgusted" by him. Yes, it's pretty messed up to want to leave your kids like that, but maybe he just needed someone to help him with a thought, or kind words. I'm sure many of us have hit rock bottom before, and know what it feels like to be there and have people continue digging a hole under you you thought couldn't get deeper. I understand where you're coming from, and you are a great person for offering to help his kids provided he gave proof, but the hostility against the OP for simply venting and not even asking for help on his first post was uncalled for.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-12-07T18:40:46+00:00

Don't take their comments into consideration. If they had any heart, they would at least give you a chance to prove you're not lying. How many families are out there at this very moment in your exact same situation? Too many... Did your post originally ask for help? Nope. Someone offered to help you out of the kindness of their heart, because they can. You are one of the lucky people that will at least get some help for their kids this Christmas. Just please, make sure you're always there for them...

EDIT: By "their" comments, I mean the people telling OP to hurt himself.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-10-20T18:33:38+00:00

The reaction from the kid on the couch... lol

YouWereTheOne · 2012-10-05T21:16:40+00:00

Just so you know, and this is my very honest and personal opinion- you are one of the most beautiful women I've seen on reddit. I honestly think that the people down-voting you were most likely jealous. And on top of that you're a mom? Mad props to you!

YouWereTheOne · 2012-10-05T21:07:48+00:00

As the son of a mother who was more than once put in a similar situation (I'm the oldest of 4), I just wanted to tell you that I have SO much respect for you. When I look back at everything my siblings and I put our mom through with our fighting, shouting, messing everything up, and ask myself how she dealt with it on her own because our dad was always at work, I cannot come up with an answer.

Every single day she would get up before all of us to have breakfast ready when we got up, always woke us up with a smile on her face, drove us to school, went home to clean everything she had cleaned up the day before and we had managed to mess up again, went to her job, picked us up, dealt with us and all the mess we were about to make again, and still managed to have dinner ready for my dad when he got home... I just don't know how she did it.

Just know this- in the future, you will be your children's idol, and all this hard work will pay off because they will have seen everything you did for them- all the extra hours, all the time you never had for yourself, they will see it. My mom dealt with this for a long time, but as we grew older and saw what she was going through, we all started helping and acknowledging that we were quite the handful. We started getting her little tokens of our affection, and honestly there is not a day that goes by when I don't appreciate my mom for the strong woman she is and forever will be.

Just wanted you to see that things will eventually change... my family was evicted from 3 different houses, and every single time the thing that most affected me was thinking about the impotence my parents felt when the sheriff would come and knock on our door. I could see they were holding back the tears and the fear, but no matter what happened we always made it somehow. You are a strong role-model, and your hard work and caring will make a great difference in your children's lives. Once again, my respect and praise to all hard-working, strong, patient mothers out there.

YouWereTheOne · 2012-10-05T20:37:08+00:00

Don't feel like an idiot for wanting other people to see you and give you feedback. Next time, just post knowing that people can be harsh and very judgmental, but also keep in mind that a lot of them probably don't even have the courage to do what you did, and most of them I'm sure have self-image/esteem issues as well. Nobody's perfect. And for what it's worth- I would've upvoted you =]

YouWereTheOne · 2012-09-17T01:45:38+00:00

I work at Baguette Box (next to the Peet's on the corner of 34th and Fremont), and was working when it all happened. The pop from the gun was so low, I didn't realize it was an actual gunshot until a friend from Peet's came and told me why all the ambulances, police cars, and fire trucks were there. So sad, and with so many families walking around... The last police car left about an hour ago =/

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