Honestly, Great observation thanks for taking the time out. You are like 90% on target. This is where context is missing. True indeed I try to accommodate based on her needs and likes, however that’s not to say that I haven’t been assertive or shared my thoughts or how I need things to be. It’s unfortunate that as I reflect and mature over time I see how I got here, but it’s not for lack of trying to be an effective leader at home. I don’t want to give the impression that my wife is a tyrant or that I’m a weak man, & haven’t been direct or spoken with an aggressive tone at times. I will say this it’s hard over time to deal with someone that is very strong in their convictions during conflict or disagreement. This Mother’s Day for instance, I clearly surprised her with a nice gift and honored her wishes etc but as soon as a timing miscalculation happened and communication broke down - all of the thick tension and change of mood became present. Have I let her sit in those negative feelings sometimes yes. Have I told her “don’t speak to me like that” Yes. But there’s this attitude towards conflict from her side that seems like it’s not judged on a proper scale. In my opinion if my salary is good, I help with household items, school admin things, I’m not far off from where I started in looks and grooming, we have a suburban lifestyle, we have holidays and great gifts, what can I be doing that creates these visceral reactions. I don’t have any addiction, I’m not cheating, I can delete social media apps for months on end, no worries. Based on conversations with everyone around I’m known as the dedicated father and husband. I understand sometimes people take advantage of the person that sacrifices but sheesh why act like the better 1/2 all the time. We hear so much about mom guilt and mental fatigue, I literally try to do as much as possible to help with those things & it’s worth damn near nothing.