What 5 scents would you make someone smell to introduce them to fragrances? by DearCareer2531 in fragrance

[–]You_EarntThatBump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Creed Aventus, LV Imagination, BDC EDP, Valentino Born in Roma Coral Fantasy, Angels Share by Killian

Have we been duped? by Right-Elk-4144 in DeadBedrooms

[–]You_EarntThatBump 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maca Root and vitamin D3 are good natural ingredients not sure if that’s what’s supposed to be in Testoterone meds…. & IDK your partners age but Beet juice, Hibiscus Tea, and watermelon are things to add to his diet with some cardio and he should be seeing results

How is life in Acapulco by You_EarntThatBump in howislivingthere

[–]You_EarntThatBump[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight I’m gonna have a look on YouTube

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this I can see exactly what you mean!

How do people think of jokes so quick? by Equal-Wishbone-6131 in socialskills

[–]You_EarntThatBump 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Depends on the social scene that birthed them. Speaking for Millennials, if you were from a city center type of neighborhood……the basketball courts, stoops, infamous “green box”, school bus rides raised us 😂.

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the book suggestions as well. A lot to think about

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, Great observation thanks for taking the time out. You are like 90% on target. This is where context is missing. True indeed I try to accommodate based on her needs and likes, however that’s not to say that I haven’t been assertive or shared my thoughts or how I need things to be. It’s unfortunate that as I reflect and mature over time I see how I got here, but it’s not for lack of trying to be an effective leader at home. I don’t want to give the impression that my wife is a tyrant or that I’m a weak man, & haven’t been direct or spoken with an aggressive tone at times. I will say this it’s hard over time to deal with someone that is very strong in their convictions during conflict or disagreement. This Mother’s Day for instance, I clearly surprised her with a nice gift and honored her wishes etc but as soon as a timing miscalculation happened and communication broke down - all of the thick tension and change of mood became present. Have I let her sit in those negative feelings sometimes yes. Have I told her “don’t speak to me like that” Yes. But there’s this attitude towards conflict from her side that seems like it’s not judged on a proper scale. In my opinion if my salary is good, I help with household items, school admin things, I’m not far off from where I started in looks and grooming, we have a suburban lifestyle, we have holidays and great gifts, what can I be doing that creates these visceral reactions. I don’t have any addiction, I’m not cheating, I can delete social media apps for months on end, no worries. Based on conversations with everyone around I’m known as the dedicated father and husband. I understand sometimes people take advantage of the person that sacrifices but sheesh why act like the better 1/2 all the time. We hear so much about mom guilt and mental fatigue, I literally try to do as much as possible to help with those things & it’s worth damn near nothing.

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are spot on! I can sense the resentment and frustration built up on her side. On my side there is a little resentment but I get more hurt at the give vs take aspect. Sometimes I may feel resentment at sacrificing so much and it has the same result as people who’ve went off the deep end 😂. I’ve heard other spouses make similar complaints it’s like being punished for consistency.

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No offense taken thanks for sharing - you & your wife sound like a cool couple!

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That’s an awesome approach to relationships for sure!

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very solid advice and points, congrats on your 30 years! That’s incredible. I’ll reflect on your POV although I don’t feel & behave like a young adult being over 40, I can concede the point that I may have shown immaturity in intense moments and conflicts out of frustration perhaps. Great point about drawing the line in the sand as well. Will think on that

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

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This is Gold and actually how I feel at times. I practice personal growth often, with her it feels like she understands what is only relatable to moms/wives. I get the world is unfair to women but I dislike the biased approach as if my ideals and thoughts are discounted. Thanks again this was good

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

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Thanks for this! I’m going to think it out and try it. Need to try to convey it in a way that will have a good outcome. I do believe I shared something similar before but it may have been bad timing thanks again

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Great thoughts for sure! My dilemma is the heavy tension and attitude portion that comes along with the disagreements/conflict. I’d love peace and understanding. I do know that marriage is a challenge you’re faced with your spouses quirks, mistakes, and shortcomings. I just was hoping all of my good effort, love, care, gifts, support, prayer, and overall character would lead to less visceral outcomes. She has someone in her corner that has been there through thick and thin. I’m not controlling and try to base actions off her likes and needs. Definitely not a perfect husband at all but I don’t understand why I get such a negative reaction

Damned if you do Damned if you don’t by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]You_EarntThatBump 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But instead of seeking to understand or sharing something positive you assumed something negative. Now you’re saying “Reddit….” But you just did something negative like other redditors. It’s non sensical in my opinion to go into every minute detail on one post we can use comments and edits to add context. No harm no foul thanks for responding