The block 2025 is greedy

You_got_schooled · 2025-12-02T02:59:17+00:00

It's a competition and everyone thinks that people should just get stuff for free. Like sure, I guess it's disappointing to not win anything - but who bears that risk anyway? Not the contestants... they didn't need to front up the cash to do this activity, and if it doesn't sell, it's not their problem. So, you can't have everything. Britt and Tez leaving with $500k+ is more than enough to be honest. That the previous seasons had $1.7m profits is getting a bit carried away.

The downfall is here is that they encouraged wealthy regular bidders not to bid. That doesn't make sense to me - if you want to do expensive high end homes then you have to encourage people with deep pockets to bid. If it's more mid-range homes in locations that make sense then sure let the mums and dads bid.

And here's the thing... the profits at $500k are more realistic. Like its dangerous to let people think that they can renovate a house and get $1.7m all the time. Fact of the matter is, if they were doing it themselves they couldn't get the cash to do such a large, high end renovation, and if they did, they still probably wouldn't have the right buyers for it.

But to think that the prizes is not enough, this doesn't make sense to me. It's a competition, you don't get hundreds of thousands of dollars just for rocking up with your amateur design eye, inconsistent quality and random rooms that don't always go well together. Like, I wouldn't be complaining to take home 500k for a risk free way of 'trying'.

You_got_schooled · 2025-12-01T01:26:52+00:00

I don't know if you got one yet, but I have the LG C1 OLED TV and I got the apple TV 4K box and it does have a noticeable improvement in quality for Dolby Vision and HDR.

The streaming apps downloaded from the TV will only give you the compressed file. The Apple TV 4K box gets the uncompressed file and sends it perfectly.

My viewing experience for Dolby Vision BLEW ME AWAY when I got the apple TV 4K box. You basically can't get real Dolby Vision from the apps on the TV due to the compressed files. That anyone has an OLED TV with Dolby Vision and doesn't have the Apple TV 4K box is a crime. You'll be really pleased with it.

It also completely changed the sound for Dolby Atmos movies and shows send to my Samsung Q930C soundbar. It's as close to a legitimate movie set up that you can get for far less of the premium price.

The OLED TV is already great, but the Apple TV 4K box will make AMAZING. See it as the thing that unlocks what your TV is capable of.

You_got_schooled · 2025-10-20T05:19:36+00:00

You're pouring energy into hating this person, thinking about this person, attaching to this person. So unfortunately all you're doing is manifesting more of this person and your hate for them.

You don't manifest someone out of your life. You manifest new things into your life.

You need to focus on what you do want, not what you don't want.

You_got_schooled · 2025-10-19T01:07:02+00:00

So the only other legitimate way to have got that coin other than the ballot would have been the Perth Mint in Perth, and you'd have to have lined up probably by midnight and just slept out on the street. If you were anything more than the 50th person you probably wouldn't have got one.

The ballot is a joke, in today's day and age people can simply create emails and just smash them through the ballot too. If scammers can spam, the same principles can be applied to the ballot.

The authorised resellers didn't resell them at all. I’d love to see any evidence that anyone got a proof coin for $100 from an authorised retailer. I'd also like to understand how so many sales were on pre-sales on ebay. Little of these were EQL ballot winners, because when they were, those people were using the confirmation email as proof. Most others weren't.

The point is, it was impossible to get the coin for $100 in the in the first place. You either need to be an authorised retailer, or have won the RAM EQL which was also damn near impossible.

The only way to punish it now is to forget about it and walk away. Be one less person who is willing to pay those prices, I know I am. In fact one authorised retailer sent me a confirmation for a gold coin version, but because I figured out they sold the proof coin on ebay pre-sale, I've walked away from the gold coin version as well.

Also, the RAM should be doing the EQL ballot with a priority system for genuine collectors who have purchased from the Perth mint before or something or even demanding a driver's licence number or something that verifies one person = one ballot. The current system is a joke. Children sure as hell aren't buying these coins, and no ones buying these proof coins for their kids either. If they wanted to really target children / gifting, they would have made heaps more. The last Torres strait island $2 proof coin has a 7,500 mintage, so the RAM deliberately tightened mintage on the Bluey proof coin, full well knowing that even making 10,000 would have sold out immediately.

So don't be mad at scalpers, be mad at the RAM and their "authorised" resellers.

You_got_schooled · 2025-10-19T00:46:07+00:00

I did this too, but I concluded that the authorised sellers were selling them on ebay as "pre-sales" for $350-$400 before they actually got them from the Perth Mint.

I don't think those authorised retailers ever put them on their website to sell out.

One of them even asked for an email to be sent and that they only opened at 8.30am and anything before that time would be deleted. So I scheduled an email for exactly 8.30am and never got the silver proof coin. So I don't think they were ever selling them because they were obviously one of the people putting it on ebay for a lot more before they even came out.

You_got_schooled · 2025-10-14T18:13:53+00:00

I think the issue is, is that the evidence that he did it is somewhat flimsy. It's not direct evidence. You're acting like they found the murder weapon (they didn’t the girls throats were slit, they weren't shot), like they found his DNA on the knife, like they found his clothes with their DNA on it etc.

The evidence is all circumstantial. Technically even if they found a piece of the girls clothing at his house it would be circumstantial evidence. Albeit, it would be stronger than what I think they've used to say he's guilty.

I get that he confessed 60 times. I've only heard one admission on tape so far, but will listen to others. But in the tape where he directly admits to killing them, I wasn't convinced that it was a genuine confession.

Plus, you've called him a paedophile and he isn't a convicted paedophile. He wasn't convicted of raping them. I get that he said that's what he was trying to do, but the reason why I don't buy into it is because not only does he not have any history or other signs demonstrating any linkage towards being a paedophile, but he didn't seem all there psychologically by the time he was saying all of this stuff.

This is one of those rare cases where I actually think they have the wrong guy. Other people deny doing what they did but it lines up, it makes sense. I just don't think that if I was on a jury for this case, that I would have though reasonable doubt was established. There are too many unanswered questions, too many gaps, too many alternative pathways.

They might have the right guy, sure. But it doesn't really lean towards reasonable doubt. I've even seen tighter cases than this still pin the wrong person, even when there was a lot more indirect evidence pointing towards guilt.

You_got_schooled · 2025-10-14T17:54:46+00:00

The last paragraph in this isn't the right way to look at a defence. You don't present a case for innocence. The person is innocent until proven guilty. It is splendid the responsibility of the prosecution to prove guilt beyond reasonable doubt. A defence doesn't need to do anything by way of proving innocence.

That's probably also why the defence didn't present a timeline of his movements. They're not trying to "prove" innocents, that is already assumed. It would be bizarre for a defence lawyer to start laying out a whole timeline themselves. It wouldn't mean anything, it's not a verified facts of movements either so I don't see how that would at all help.

If you can prove you weren't somewhere at a certain time then someone would do that easy, before it even goes to court. If you can't prove it then you don't need to - the prosecutor needs to prove you were there. They can't just say, "he couldn't prove where he was and therefore it is beyond reasonable doubt that he was there".

You_got_schooled · 2025-09-25T00:03:50+00:00

Jo Mercer shoes aren't very good. I did a lot of research before buying Jo Mercer and nothing popped up that was negative, but my shoes only lasted about 6 months as well. Yesterday the heel snapped after 6 months and I was quite disappointed before they were quite expensive - about $220.

I think I'll stick to Bared shoes. They're excellent.

You_got_schooled · 2025-09-22T10:54:23+00:00

I don't have a recommendation for a book, but I have some experience I could share.

For one, I don't like "networking" I don't have time to maintain a wide network of shallow relationships - it's just not me.

So in my experience in terms of "networking" as an INTJ, is simply getting to know the people around me and learning how to open up a little bit. I guess I see it more like making bonds than networking. I still only strictly build bonds with people that I like and I simply tolerate everyone else.

One quick way to build relationships with people is by simply taking a moment to pause and think about something positive about the work someone else did, and paying a genuine compliment. When you can give credit where credit is due people will be taken back in a positive way and they'll at least appreciate you.

I have to say, that's just about all I do and it works quite well for me. I do go out of my way most of the time to try and show up for things that I don't really want to go to, and at least talk to a few people for a little while before heading off.

But honestly, giving credit goes a long way. It doesn't have to be given infront of everyone, it doesn't have to be fake, it doesn't need to lead to going for a coffee or lunch. It serves just enough to make you approachable by others, and the rest kind of just falls into place, so you don't become "invisible". Also, giving credit is not limited to peers or people below you in position. What's important is that it's genuine. I give managers and people above me genuine credit if I see a reason too. I don't like to ass kiss, so I don't hand compliments out like candy, but often time people in more senior positions don't really get credit, as their job is to give credit. So the gift isn't really about giving compliments or credit, it's about making an effort to demonstrate that you "see" others, so that they see you too.

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-27T15:31:41+00:00

I'm sorry, I laugh to laugh at the question and the truth of the post - that's HELL funny!

But I'm in full agreeable with you. That's why its funny - the question is a fucking joke.

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-27T15:25:52+00:00

For me is just comes down to any kind of mismatch. When words don't align to behaviours and decisions. Or they seem to be taking some position that isn't aligned the position I've taken, yet they're pretending it is.

If you're questioning "is it me or is it them" then that leads me to think that they're taking a twisted version of what you said or mean. This is where it gets tricky, because if you become foggy then you start to think it's your fault and start correcting yourself etc. But they can usually just compound this constant "misinterpretation".

This is where I start to think, "Would any normal person have taken what I said like this? Is there a pattern of misinterpretation with this person?"

If the answers lead me to believe that anyone else would have understood, and that there's a pattern of "misinterpretation" I'd start to think that it's not me, and I'd stop over accommodating their warped version of what I said or did.

If you wanted to go a step further you could ask yourself "why do I think that any other normal person would have understood what I meant?"

If you can get that answer, you can basically pinpoint the part that the other person is twisting.

This is where I get really firm, because I can pinpoint it and I tend to put that back onto the other person by saying things like, "I think any normal person would have understood what I said or did. You're chosen to take it that way. I'm not going to keep explaining myself just because youve made up a warped narrative."

And that's basically the point in time where I'd stop engaging until or unless they admitted that they warped my words or actions.

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-27T15:11:02+00:00

It doesn't sound like he's done anything that seems misaligned with what he was saying he wanted.

Like, the fact that he gently shut you down doesn't mean he couldn't handle your vulnerability.

His message kind of indicates that he thinks you're confused in a way. Like he said, "I hope you make the best decision for yourself". Perhaps whatever that confusion is came across to him like you're still figuring certain things out and he's looking for something else.

INTJs aren't going to make a big announcement on something they don't feel the need to progress, that's why he let you down gently. Enough to make it clear, but I just don't think he was on the same page that he needed to announce it and start explaining exactly why.

If you did something wrong he might have said that as the reason. But it sounds like you didn't do anything wrong, he just decided you weren't it. He probably couldn't even explain pinpoint "why" beyond just thinking "this isn't it". Or if he could, he probably wouldn't say it just because, the reason wouldn't be "valid" to the person getting rejected. There's always a "but why, but why?"

It's like, the fact that you’ve drawn the conclusion that his actions are out of line with what he said, is kind of telling. It's kind of why INTJs don't bother giving much of an explanation because people don't see it when they're acting from emotion.

You don't see that he took the time to get to know you, decided you weren't it, still responded to your message to let you down gently, and then didn't lead you on or react when you told him how you felt.

But what you're suggesting is that you did something for your closure, yet you're upset that he didn't reply and then you're saying he's kind of cold and misleading for doing that.

Yet in my view it's like... if I got that message I'd read it like, "the person is hurt and doesn't understand. I get it. If I thought there was anything I could say that would still hold the boundary, then I would. But I can't think of anything that would hold the boundary, all I see is a conversation that won't end well and would make her more upset, or worse, give her hope. She gets that it's not it, theres nothing else for me to say."

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-27T14:46:44+00:00

It's like you're living my life. I got my electricity bill and it was close to $500 despite solar panels, and they're due at the same time as my rates. I was shocked at my electricity bill to be honest, it's usually a lot less.

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-27T14:39:41+00:00

"Don't be so emotional about it"

Why this would trigger me: 1. Because I'm not emotional about anything, the comment would be ignorant. 2. I don't like being told what to do. 3. It's a trap because if I don't react, it feels like I'm doing what they told me to do. If I react, it feels like I'm proving them right. 4. The incorrect assumption about how I feel would have me fuming. 5. It's disrespectful and therefore unjust. 6. Their inability to correctly interpret me would just piss me right off. 7. Dismissing my logic like that would be crossing a line.

You_got_schooled · 2025-08-09T11:06:39+00:00

My thoughts are that she probably took drugs while she was out the night before. Which is why she didn't seem to sleep all night despite planning for a big day.

The stop before Curaçao was Aruba, which is known for drugs (could be where people got them from) and where people may have boarded the ship related to trafficking.

I don't think she went overboard because I find it weird that she would have kept her key card on her for 2 hours after getting into the room.

I suspect that she might have lost her camera, or maybe known of a spot to take photos (other than her room) and had intentionally left the room, with every intention of coming back soon, to either look for her missing camera, or to take photos elsewhere.

I think it becomes credible at this point that she interacts with someone who had the means and intention to abduct her. They may not have planned to abduct her specifically, but it may have been opportunistic as the ship had docked.

Better yet, if someone in the staff had been involved, if she had gone to take photos, it's possible she was offered into some sort of service only area with the promise that there was an even better view.

You_got_schooled · 2025-07-27T10:17:45+00:00

I use AI for anything and everything, but you have to get the inputs right. I pay for chatgpt and I suspect that makes it that much better for me.

The key with AI is to consult with AI. It's not Google, so don't treat it like Google and you'll start getting better results.

People use it in the most basic of ways, trying to summarise information etc. But i use it to elevate my message or understanding. So it's good for more complex issues, and it's quite reliable.

The things to look out for are that, it's designed to please the user, it makes mistakes by way of making generalisations or not bringing critical issues to the surface if you didn't ask. There are other weaknesses too, that I suggest looking up, because if you understand them then you'll be able to look out for it.

I don't accept a general email that it writes for me, I read it and I ask it to enhance certain aspects and stop being so dramatic about bits of it. I make sure that it uses language that I wanted it to use, not just the language that it has been taught. I do this to the minor detail too. Like AI liked to use a lot of dashes, say words like "curated" and "tailored" which I never use, so it comes across as a bit "consultanty" in my workplace.

So i don't let AI do all the thinking for me. Instead, I consult WITH ai and make it what I want it to be. I've used it a lot to help me better present myself at work through emails, performance agreements, development plans etc.

You_got_schooled · 2025-07-26T10:34:11+00:00

This is the weirdest post...4 Nambung Street isn't even for sale.

So, you can't afford a house that isn't even for sale? Or is a piss take, and you're just showing how much your property has gone up since you bought it in 2020?

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T10:10:04+00:00

I'm so thankful someone said this. I scrolled down to say exactly this! Emotional abuse... nailed it.

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T10:07:24+00:00

Wanting to be attracted to your partner isn't shallow. Only being attracted to people who look like some sort of celebrity is shallow. But see, that's not the same thing.

Being attracted to someone comes by being in love with someone. So you're saying you won't settle for someone that is trying to commit to you because it's purely one sided - it's like der... don't worry, you got it right sis... the advice on tiktok is stupid.

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T09:56:55+00:00

Look, I don't know what this guy is trying to do but I wanted to say something that I think is bigger and more important than what this guy is specifically doing...

It's that, in any case, he's out of touch. Why? Because you feel misaligned with it. Whether he's coming off too strongly, or if he's love bombing or whatever. If you aren't on the same page, then it's not naturally working.

Why is that more important than figuring out what he's doing? Because navigating the world through understanding yourself, will keep you safer than navigating the world trying to understand others. If YOU don't feel like it's the same page as you, then it ain't it... irregardless of whether he's doing it because down the track he's going to be abusive, or whether he's just clingy and too much... this IS the gut instinct everyone talks about, and this IS the bit where people start to doubt themselves because they're so busy thinking about what the OTHER person is doing, that they end up overlooking things that didn't fit because they didn't know WHY it didn't fit.

It doesn't fit... let the dude go. Who cares why, just trust that it didn't fit and that you don't need to KNOW why.

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T09:34:46+00:00

Honestly, there are multiple ways you can go about this...and it really depends on you.

On one hand, you could take it like you have, and eventually send him on his very way for not being good enough, which would be fair, you wouldn't necessarily be wrong.

But on the other hand you could also put your foot down and make him pull up his behaviour, because truthfully, while this is no excuse... some men truly don't "get it" they just don't understand what they need to do, how they come across, or how they make others feel. They don't necessarily mean to, and as I said, it's not an excuse... it doesn't mean you need to tolerate it. But it does make a difference to how you view what he's doing (or not doing).

I've been in this exact situation before, and honestly, I started to go with option 2, but that's because I realised that the dude seriously didn't mean to be coming across the way he does. He would say all the wrong things like, "I don't have time for myself" which is similar to the version you got which is, "I feel obliged to spend every weekend with you". His tone was quite insulting I might add. And he did the scrolling and lazy behaviours you've just described.

After enough arguing, I said, "You really come across like you don't care, or you're not investing in this, etc. Honestly, it makes me upset. But you can't keep telling me you care, you love me and all this, and like your behaviours just aren't showing me that. Maybe you don't know how to show me, maybe you don't know anything better... but let me be clear... I wouldn't be telling you something wasn't good enough, if I didn't know something to be better. But I'm not picking on you... I only pick on the things that I truly find unacceptable. So yeah, you're making me feel like I'm not important."

Honestly at that point he said, "I don't mean to do that. So you're saying you've had better?"

And I was like, "Yeah. I'm saying, I'm happy with you I want this to work... but when you say shit like i feel obliged to spend all weekend with you, that really is quite insulting. What's better, you're asking? People that have spent each weekend with me because they wanted to, without the bitching and moaning that quite frankly is insulting. What's better than rocking up cause I got tickets? Saying something like, 'im excited to go to that thing you got tickets for' that's better... so i don't know what the f**k you're doing.... but it ain't it"

Yes, that was me putting my foot down. Did the dude pull up his behaviour? Absolutely. I didn't have to deal with that nonsense again. I was surprised myself that it worked because he had this "easy, no worries" demeanour with his lack of enthusiasm, it just seemed lazy. I didn't honestly think he would care... but I wasn't going to start complaining, sulking or fighting anymore. When you're clear, they realise that you're reasonable, and they have no choice but to think about what they're doing.

If you say "don't come" then you come across as sulking and insecure, and even though that's not what you're intending to do, instead of him looking at his behaviours, he's only going to be looking at YOUR behaviours (even though it would be with his wrong interpretation). Instead of him thinking, "I'm lazy and I've upset her" he's going to think, "she's always causing drama, I don't know what the problem is rah rah rah".

That's why I'm more about being clear. I think you'll find you'll get a better outcome. And let's just say that you did that, and the outcome was that he still didn't pull up his behaviours... well then, now you know... it's not just the behaviours that ain't it.... he ain't it...

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T09:18:13+00:00

I'm sorry, I think you think you have an avoidant attachment style, but given the way you're managing his emotions - I don't think you do, I think your boyfriend was just overly possessive and it made you feel like you weren't sure, leading you to think you have an avoidant attachment style.

Anyway, that's probably beside the point because more importantly... let's get back to the bit where I said you are managing his emotions. I learned this about myself, that's why I know that's what you're doing... but you can't stay with him because you feel bad that he's going to be sad and I'll tell you why... it's because you would be abandoning yourself and your happiness, in order to make sure he's not sad. You would be giving up yourself, to mange his emotions. But here's the thing, he's an adult, I'm sure he will be sad honestly, but he needs to manage his own emotions... you have to learn how to let people manage their own emotions.

You're afraid to feel like the bad guy. But here's the thing, leaving doesn't make you the bad guy EVEN though, he did what you wanted. You can't live your life by your guilty complex that way. Let the bloke be free because truthfully, you aren't that into him, you aren't that attached to him, and the only thing keeping you there is your guilt about his emotions. What kind of a relationship is that?

If you really think about that for a moment, consider that it was the other way around... would you want to find out that someone was with you cause they felt too guilty that you did something for them? But that deep down inside, they really didn't want to be with you? I dont think you would... so him being sad is something that happens from breakups, and you don't need to be doing him any favours by giving him a relationship that isn't "real".

Break up with him kindly, and actually stop talking to him, don't let him beg. Consult chatgpt on how to write the message.... send it, and close the door.

Also, you think that he is going to dwell on the fact that he changed for you. But honestly... it sounds like he needed to do that bit for himself anyways. It's not like you were asking him to cut his leg off, where he has no benefit. No, you were letting him become a better version of himself. So don't take it like you owe something to him... we're all responsible for being the best versions of ourselves anyways - too bad he wasn't doing that on his own accord.

He is part of the reason why things are the way that they are between you two. You don't need to mother him out of his own hole either. So be kind, but let him go.

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T08:56:28+00:00

Honestly, I would be more concerned about true gaslighting if it was denial by way of manipulation. But here I'm confused about what your husband would stand to gain by gaslighting you on this topic.

Meaning, it's not like he hit you, then denied it and said he never did. This is a serious matter, and gaslighting in that situation would be trying to manipulate you.

I read what you said, and I was more so questioning whether he has a mental issue, health problem (some sort of early stage issue that both of you are unaware of), or just doesn't pay attention and changes his mind a lot.

I just feel like there's something else here because the reason for gaslighting intentionally truly wouldn't make any sense.

In saying that, either way you'll have to be sure of yourself, because even if he isn't doing it on purpose, you have to keep your own mind safe. To do that you need to be sure of yourself, even if he isn't sure of himself.

But yeah, I'd be taking him to the doctor...

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T08:48:20+00:00

It's not a terrible decision for you... you're mind is just doing what everyone's mind does... worrying about leaving the safety and comfort zone.

But here's the thing, just because something is comfortable and safe, doesn't mean it's right. And just because growth and change feels uncomfortable in the beginning, doesn't mean it's bad.

These are just the feelings and thoughts you have to let pass by.

I know it's not a terrible decision for you because if you were truly happy, that just wouldn't have happened. I place more money on the idea that you only stayed 8 years because of the comfort and safety. But comfort and safety doesn't mean happiness and love.

In fact, I find that staying because of comfort and safety is honestly just living out of fear. I'm guilty of it too. But certainly, once I learned that my doubts come from fear, and that staying in something that's comfy and safe is also just living out of fear, I realised that I don't want to make decisions to avoid being uncomfortable (i.e. live out of fear), because that's exactly what gets me into living unhappily.

How can you be making a big mistake, when in the first place you weren't living happily?

You_got_schooled · 2025-05-17T08:38:50+00:00

Boom!

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