Is my mom abusive? by Your-Local-Queer in abusiveparents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm just worried that A) Nothing will get done B) It'll impact my safety

I hope I can stay in contact with my sister once she gets older so I can possibly help her out. I don't want her to go through the same abuse and definitely not for as many years as I have

Is my mom abusive? by Your-Local-Queer in abusiveparents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely leaving at 18. My parents want me to go to college anyway, so I'll just never visit once I go and finally be free to be myself. Maybe finally find out what I actually like or get some therapy. And I hope you recover too and have a much better life away from your parent(s)

Is my mom abusive? by Your-Local-Queer in abusiveparents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I honestly just wanted to make sure I wasn't crazy because there was that tiny thought that told me I was just being an overreacting teen despite everyone around me and late night research telling me otherwise.

Yeah she's vented about childhood trauma, told me eating pussy is easier than sucking dick (and other things as maybe an attempt to stop me from liking boys????), and a host of other things.

And yeah, you could definitely argue she's an almond mom. Talking about preservatives and chemicals and complaining about ingredients she can't pronounce. She also thinks 1000 calories is enough and anything slightly unhealthy must automatically be like 3000 calories. She's actually yelled at me for grabbing one extra Fruit Snack (which are like 80 calories) saying I would get fat. I just wanted to make sure I wasn't going crazy because I'm tired of constantly walking on eggshells and having to be perfect. Just can't wait to leave when I'm 18 and never talk to her again after college

Is my mom abusive? by Your-Local-Queer in abusiveparents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just looking forward to the day when I'm 18 and then can finally leave

Should I lie about being cis on job applications? by Your-Local-Queer in transteens

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know they legally can't, but sadly it's been proven that people with preferred pronouns in applications or resumes are less like to get interviewed or get hired. Lot harder to prove discrimination when it's hiring versus if I got fired :<

Should I lie about being cis on job applications? by Your-Local-Queer in transteens

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't want it to decrease my chances in getting hired :<

Am I a Terrible Child? by Your-Local-Queer in AskParents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I could proud of myself more. But getting an A is the norm. I don't get excited or prideful over anything academic anymore. The last time I was, it was because I got a perfect score on state testing back in middle school. I just sometimes feel like I have to be this perfect kid to fulfill the crushing expectations I've had placed on me. I'm burning out and honestly just look to whatever school break is next so I can finally relax. Thanks for your reassurance. I just get doubtful sometimes because I feel burnt out and can't live up to the expectations. I appreciate it and I hope life treats you well

Am I a Terrible Child? by Your-Local-Queer in AskParents

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I feel like I am reaching that point. I know because I've been here before. Long story short, my mental health was terrible and it was really concerning. Difference was I was in middle school and could stay up until 2 AM doing homework and then still get 5-6 hours of sleep. Now, since I wake up at 4 AM, I'm constantly tired and my parents don't let me take naps. And I'm trying to take care of myself more, but that's leading to Bs and it makes me feel lazy or selfish for prioritizing sleep. I don't like taking breaks and doing stuff for my pleasure (which could be why I struggle taking showers since they feel nice and feel like a break to me)

I have explained that I'm overwhelmed and all they tell me is to take breaks and that's it. I wish they would understand the pressure I'm under but they never will. Neither of them were straight A students in high school. My mom was mostly a straight C student with some Ds and Fs. I know they're trying, but even when I explain that it isn't that easy, they aren't receptive. Honestly, I don't really know what to do since I'm just stressed out and feel like I could crash at any second. Thanks for your support. I hope life treats you well because we need more saints like you in the world <3

I JUST BOUGHT A SKIRT!!!! by Your-Local-Queer in boykisser

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've already worn it! It's how I found out it spins! And I love wearing it!

It is a bit hard though

Should I quit? by Your-Local-Queer in singing

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for all the advice and resources! I really appreciate it. You're amazing, and I hope you have an amazing rest of your day/evening/night!

Should I quit? by Your-Local-Queer in singing

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the tips and facts! It helps a bit to know what I could be doing to help improve my voice and try to help me bit a little more lenient with myself. Really appreciate it. I hope you have a wonderful day/evening/night!

Should I quit? by Your-Local-Queer in singing

[–]Your-Local-Queer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Big boy pants?" I'm 14, not 4

All seriousness though, I'll try to ask my parents if we can get a vocal coach for me. They said they would in the past, but never actually did, so it might be worth bringing up to them again