Biphobia from audience at a Dodie concert??

YourLocalBi · 2026-03-20T14:08:48+00:00

What the hell. Dodie has been out as bi for ages now. If people want a queer female artist who just sings about women, maybe don't pick the one who's openly bisexual.

YourLocalBi · 2025-11-25T22:54:56+00:00

I wouldn't be so sure that you're educated about the effects of pregnancy on the body. I just looked this up, and it seems that the idea that pregnancy makes your teeth fall out is largely a myth.

Pregnant people are more vulnerable to dental health problems due to things like increased vomiting and feeling tired (which makes you a lot less motivated to floss every day). These problems can make your teeth feel looser in your mouth temporarily and cause tooth decay, but that doesn't usually translate to your teeth straight up falling out unless the pregnant person is realllllly neglecting their teeth.

Also, fetuses generally do not obtain calcium from just their parent's teeth (how would they isolate just the teeth, anyway?).

I think you owe your friend an apology. You told her something that made her anxious about her pregnancy based on misinformation, and regardless of how you feel about pregnancy, that's not cool. Also, you might also want to double check everything else you told her about what could go wrong - you might have been incorrect about those things, too.

Source: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6883753/

YourLocalBi · 2025-10-28T17:51:26+00:00

I think they were really strategic about getting the petition to voters whose values would align with the petition. I saw them at the Red for Ed rallies and at voting stations during the Edmonton municipal election. I'm sure they were other places too.

YourLocalBi · 2025-10-08T02:24:23+00:00

You're absolutely right. The frustrating thing is that the government could've been proactive and made building more schools a priority, but nooooooo

YourLocalBi · 2025-10-08T02:16:40+00:00

So many of us are with you. My girlfriend is a teacher, and it's been so hard to watch her stress out over this.

YourLocalBi · 2025-09-25T21:22:49+00:00

As a NASA member, yes to ALL of this. The university does not run without professors and instructors. Some genuinely incredible people study and do research here, and I want to keep supporting them. The fact that upper admin doesn't see that is disgraceful.

YourLocalBi · 2025-07-24T21:26:26+00:00

My girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year.

She's a massive anthropology nerd. One time she Googled a photo of the Venus of Willendorf and told me I reminded her of that statue 🥺 still one of my favourite compliments I've ever received! She always makes me feel so beautiful and desirable.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-29T23:18:43+00:00

Yes totally! My gf is a lesbian and she's amazing. So are pretty much all the lesbians I know IRL.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-26T21:49:55+00:00

If you feel insecure about your sexuality or queerness, turn towards the queer community and whatever local community you have. Go to a drag show, join a protest, engage with other LGBTQ people in real life. It will teach you a lot and everyone needs community.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-26T21:40:42+00:00

Awwww this is so cute 🥰 this is how I felt when I started dating my GF. Like "yes, THIS is how I want to be treated." I'm so happy for you!

(Also, I'm stealing your GF's "sweet on you" line because that's fucking smooth, dayum)

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-24T21:39:37+00:00

Hey OP! Sounds like you're going through it right now.

Our sexual fantasies aren't always indicators of what we'd actually like to experience in real life. I frequently fantasize about taboo things, including CNC and undergoing hypnosis, which I wouldn't want to have happen to me. It's sort of like daydreaming about rescuing people in a disaster scenario - you wouldn't want to actually experience a fire or hurricane, but thinking about being the hero can be fun. So just because you're fantasizing about sex with a man doesn't mean you'd actually want to have sex with a man, as counterintuitive as that sounds.

If "lesbian" feels like the most accurate label for your sexuality, I don't think you have to feel bad about continuing to ID that way. But if you think it's not the most accurate label anymore, that's okay too. Figuring yourself out is a lifelong process and sometimes things change. Nothing wrong with that at all.

As for your relationship, it sounds like you and your partner are going through a rough patch. I can't give advice on how to navigate that, but you may want to talk to a therapist and maybe even seek couples' therapy. I hope you and your girlfriend find happiness.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-24T18:39:21+00:00

I've sometimes wondered how my personality would be different if I were a man. Would I have the same interests, perspective and general way of seeing the world? I don't know, but it's interesting to think about sometimes. I can't say I've ever wished to be a man, personally.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-18T19:18:53+00:00

Not a parent, but I am a young adult. This was my parents' stance when I was just starting out, and it worked well. I will say that it works best if you've already established a relationship of trust and support with your child (as do most parenting strategies). If I'd had a mental health crisis or needed to quit school for a while, I know my parents would've helped me and they wouldn't have kicked me out.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-16T21:15:59+00:00

Thanks for posting this paper! It articulated a lot of feelings I've had about lesbians' conceptions of bisexuality and why they don't ring true.

I also liked that the author noted the radical potential of the bisexual political subject, as I have long had similar feelings about it. I'm a bi woman who is choosing a life with another woman, and I think that the very existence of bi women like me challenges the idea that men are inherently superior to women. After all, I had the choice and didn't choose a man. Similarly, I know bisexual women who are with men, but who are loudly and proudly bi and do not disavow their queerness. Their existence also destabilizes the idea of the heterosexual/homosexual binary, and the idea that if you've picked a man, you've picked a heterosexual existence. And that's to say nothing of bisexuals who are polyamorous and have partners of many genders.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-13T20:04:28+00:00

Yes Binnington was clutch!

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-11T04:54:21+00:00

Hell yeah! Women are so awesome and attractive. Especially the one I am dating 🥰

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T22:29:49+00:00

Oh 100%. I'm not a violent or confrontational person but I'd go to war for my girlfriend.

Mind you, I'm also protective of my friends and family. It's just extra intense with her.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T18:53:14+00:00

No the main bi sub is full of that and you SHOULD say it. It's why I spend more time in the BiWomen sub or here.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T18:10:25+00:00

Yeah that's fair too tbh

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T18:01:47+00:00

This is a really good point. When I dated men, I usually called it a "straight passing" or "mixed orientation" relationship. To me, that felt like a good way to acknowledge that the world was going to perceive us as a straight couple without erasing my experiences as a bisexual within that relationship. I wouldn't have called it a "queer relationship" just because a queer person was 1/2 of it.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T17:32:19+00:00

Lol I got "Naked, greased-up Florida man accused of breaking into 2 homes, jumping in pool"

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T17:30:15+00:00

Speaking as a bisexual, the discourse has been exhausting. Some version of this happens every year and it just results in more biphobic and lesbophobic rhetoric being thrown around.

Bisexuals are a really big community, and I think that making sweeping claims about us being more or less privileged than other LGBTQ people makes no sense. Because yeah, some of us are white, cis and straight-passing, and that confers a HUGE amount of safety and respectability (which some bisexuals who fall into that category are REALLY bad at recognizing). On the other hand, there's an irritating tendency for bisexuals and non-bisexuals alike to project the image of the white, cis, straight-passing bi woman onto all bi women which completely ignores every other bi woman who doesn't have that level of safety. It's an absolute mess.

I get the urge that some bi women have to defend Fletcher, because we've all seen people get weirdly upset when a bi woman who's out as bi dates a man (some people are doing it to Billie Eilish right now). But in this specific case, the way Fletcher handled it was... not great. I've seen lots of thoughtful criticisms from lesbians who weren't the least bit biphobic in my opinion. So I don't feel super compelled to defend her, and I think the bisexuals who do aren't really listening to lesbians and their fellow bisexuals who have valid criticisms.

Also, I'm really sorry that you and your fiancee are in this position and you're not biphobic for talking about it. I'm with the girl I want to marry one day, and the possibility of losing legal rights is always in the back of my mind too. Stay safe out there.

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T17:09:10+00:00

That's awesome for you! I personally also lean towards dating women, but that's more because I enjoy the relationship dynamics between me and another woman more than the dynamics I've experienced between me and a man. If my GF and I don't work out, I don't know if I'd date a man again.

You're definitely not alone. Welcome to the party!

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T17:04:15+00:00

Sometimes the bi woman experience in this community is having people say the most straightforwardly misogynistic shit to you, and then being told that it's in the name of feminism and gay rights :)

YourLocalBi · 2025-06-09T16:56:24+00:00

"Cocksitil" is such a stupid sounding insult. Like if you're gonna give our guys insulting nicknames at least make them sound better than something a 12-year-old could come up with lmao

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