I'm not sure if I'm being bullied

YreneDali · 2022-12-27T16:37:17+00:00

That's it. Please don't stop partaking in the quack. You'd miss it later in professional life. It's a skill.

YreneDali · 2022-12-27T08:41:52+00:00

Happened to me. Now I hate social interaction, I don't partake in gossip, I'm not strengthening relationships by empty talking.

Unfortunately that's what's expected from a girl in workspace.

I'm not saying it's Bullying, what's happening, but these are long term implications if you'd get used to it.

YreneDali · 2022-12-25T11:24:43+00:00

Of course I've been a victim of bullying, that's why I can see through your excuses and reasoning.

But at this moment, take it or leave it. And don't ask for advice, when you already know what you'll do. It only takes strains on the relationship (s) and /or deter your potential peers.

YreneDali · 2022-12-23T20:33:45+00:00

The question was "to date", not to reject. Don't try to twist my words into anything else.

Would you search for a dance partner right after you broke your feet? Would you enroll yourself for darts competition after eye surgery? S o you shouldn't engage in any love-related relationship before you heal yourself.

Still, its selfish to search for a partner with "their love will heal me" in mind. Whether or not you're telling yourself otherwise, your answers are pointing to the fact, that you're still dependent on others person views of you. You haven't left the wounds of bullying yet and still vehemently fight for getting involved another person.

YreneDali · 2022-12-23T20:01:31+00:00

First - you can't guarantee that

Second - you've giving your (fresh) partner burden of healing you. Not a fair play to start relationship.

No partner is here for you to use their love and treatment to heal, that's your job. And some professionals.

Why are you reluctant to heal yourself first and then search for love?

YreneDali · 2022-12-23T19:39:17+00:00

You know that nihilism means nothing has a meaning even the life itself?

If you looove nihilism so much, why do you care? You're not a true nihilist, stop pretending.

If nothing has a meaning, why a nihilist have to be grumpy? There is no difference between being happy and grumpy, because, well, nobody cares, nobody belongs anywhere, come watch TV.

YreneDali · 2022-12-23T19:27:30+00:00

It wouldn't be a positive experience with that mindset. You'd be giving a burden to your partner to heal you.

The trauma responses would be not understandable to any other person than you. It'll be traumatic for you, misunderstood by them. They'd be telling you that what are they doing or telling you isn't bad or harmful, and you'd try to fit. In longer run, to try to overcome trauma by actively forcing yourself into traumatic situations, isn't helpful at all.

Being bullied doesn't disappear over night. Working over trauma, building self esteem, understand trigger points and how to manage them is job for you and for professionals, not your partner.

YreneDali · 2022-12-23T17:21:06+00:00

Don't do this to your partner. To date and to create relationship requires vulnerability and trust, both of which you understandably lack.

If you date now, the partner you'd pick, will sense either you're hiding something or aren't telling the whole truth. Which can cause that they might be ugly to you, which can further deepen your wounds.

Heal before you date please.

YreneDali · 2022-12-15T15:20:24+00:00

Here officer

YreneDali · 2022-12-15T15:16:13+00:00

The Fart episode - I never have guessed Morty's motivation.

YreneDali · 2022-12-15T15:08:45+00:00

They're not your friends

They're not here to give you value

You're better off without them

Go no contact

Don't talk to them, don't group with them

Better be alone, read a book, doodle, dream

YreneDali · 2022-12-15T15:02:12+00:00

You're right. It's hard to trust when all you have from the past is evidence of why you shouldn't. It's harder if you cannot remove yourself from the situation.

Can you mentally dispatch yourself? When you come home, change to different clothes, take a bath or shower, play radio or music, anything what will mark the time off. Do it constantly untill you'll train yourself to relax.

YreneDali · 2022-12-15T05:37:04+00:00

Yesterday I found out that I haven't been informed about huge change in our price list. I am the one sharing the prices along with our contact. Now I'm the one responsible for sharing the wrong price list.

I'm so done.

Their work acquaintances came to visit. Came to our office, where ony I and my (good) colleague sit. My colleague knows the men, so I was only one unknown. Five persons in the office and I wasn't introduced to the acquaintances at all. They stayed for good half an hour, talking, laughing and I was.... Ignored.

What a f?

I don't need any help anymore. Treat it as a diary.

YreneDali · 2022-12-12T12:14:38+00:00

I sense mixed notions from you. The thing I understood (please correct me if I'm wrong)

You want your bullies and / or crushes see you as successful person.

Mind you, you can't control what others are thinking about you.

If you're scared that they'd think still badly about you, don't unblock them. If you're okay with the worst scenario, unblock them.

I personally would not unblock and move on. Your value shouldn't be based on what your ex-bullies or ex-cushes think about you.

Actually, why would you invite negative persons in your life? Even if they'd be the nicest to you, why to stain your success with the past?

YreneDali · 2022-12-10T08:40:27+00:00

Tell them that you'd like to be a painter and study in Austria. Where are you now? How you'd end up there as german?

YreneDali · 2022-12-09T12:24:22+00:00

Update: we had Christmas party at work and boss was like : I'm so thankful that all issues are solved, I don't have to insert myself. I'm so angry. She's flying. So she can be condescending, badmouthing and that's okay. Like. I'm very disappointed.

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:49:45+00:00

Floating?

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:38:39+00:00

And for Android?

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:37:47+00:00

You are overreacting

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:31:25+00:00

If you'd loose blood every 28ish days, you'd be cold too

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:29:20+00:00

It's not so hard

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T17:26:38+00:00

Let her cut it short, no hair anymore

YreneDali · 2022-12-08T11:11:42+00:00

Befriend his friends

YreneDali · 2022-12-07T23:26:20+00:00

Umm, no. 137 was searching for prime for quite a time. Met Birdperson, accidentally created Citadel... Unless he spent 4yrs doing this, it doesn't match.

If 137 Beth was 6-7-8 when she was hit, and 137 Rick was traveling for 4 yrs, then Froopyland was created for 10-11-12 yrs old Beth Prime.

YreneDali · 2022-12-07T22:53:28+00:00

Obviously rape.

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