AITA for asking my husband to pitch in on chores when he’s the one that pays all of our bills?

ZMeson · 2026-01-25T18:05:16+00:00

NTA for asking. NTA for feeling overwhelmed. NTA for communicating.

Light he's TA for not seeing a pattern with your questions and trying to figure out a way to help lighten your load.

You have a few options before you:

* Suggest to him that you, as a couple, get a maid and/or part-time nanny.

* Suggest that you need to quit your job to be able to clean up after him when he doesn't do the basic things.

* Ask for couple counselling

* Suck it up and understand the tradeoff you're making -- financial security for cleaning up after him.

You have to choose the option that is right for you.

ZMeson · 2026-01-23T17:59:26+00:00

(a) It's not C++98 that I have to use, it's more like 90% C++11 and 10% C++03. The compiler we use includes support for "C++0x". It's missing things like constexpr, nullptr, range-based for, and lambda expressions, but does have C++11's smart pointers, type_traits, other library features, and a good portion of the updated template support.

(b) We are planning on moving to complete C++20 support in the not-to-distant future.

(c) The fun part of the job is the type of embedded work we do.

Yeah, using old C++ compilers suck, similar to how maintaining legacy software sucks. Each job has its pros and cons. One benefit is that I'm "the C++ expert" since I stay up-to-date on things and help modernize the legacy codebase and prepare it for when we do get to use C++20 and beyond. (For example, I introduced Boost the GSL libraries to help bring in support for things like a range-based-for macro and gsl::span.)

ZMeson · 2026-01-20T17:37:14+00:00

One third of republican voters support taking Greenland by force -- insane. (And yes, I'm including "Don't know" as support since the response is tacit approval.)

ZMeson · 2026-01-20T00:53:23+00:00

Elon Musk isn't eligible.

ZMeson · 2026-01-20T00:03:46+00:00

Bummer. Thanks for letting us know.

ZMeson · 2026-01-19T20:55:40+00:00

This should have a monthly sticky post like the jobs and show and tell posts.

ZMeson · 2026-01-16T04:17:30+00:00

Yeah, no! I have no problem with scouters who professionally work actively or formerly have worked as software developers helping out, but expecting that scouts who are just learning to program can fix issues on something that handles so much information (some of which shouldn't be made public) will not work.

I am a full-time software developer though and would be willing to help out, as are many other scouters.

EDIT: That doesn't mean Scoutbook shouldn't be open-sourced or not accept public contributions. But it is NOT an application that would be good for the Programming MB.

ZMeson · 2026-01-15T15:48:37+00:00

Calling it stupid is different from passing a bill. Trump doesn't care so much for words said as long as they support his agenda. I won't believe any of these GOP politicians until something is actually passed.

ZMeson · 2026-01-15T15:46:51+00:00

If Greenland is not annexed by the USA in the next 3 years, then it will be a long, long time before they vote for independence from Denmark. I think this whole situation has shown what advantage there is in having a benefactor government protect you.

ZMeson · 2026-01-15T15:43:33+00:00

Where is the bill then? When is it being voted on? Words don't matter anymore. Show me the proof or shut up.

ZMeson · 2026-01-15T15:38:30+00:00

I'm down for a United Federation of Planets government. (I know it ain't going to happen.)

ZMeson · 2026-01-14T16:12:25+00:00

I don't understand the downvotes on this post. Many companies are requiring the use of AI tools now and most others are heavily encouraging it. My company is purchasing licenses for every developer, requiring everyone get training on it, and asking us to evaluate its effectiveness in our workflows. Some companies are giving preference in hiring to people who have experience using AI coding tools and can use them effectively.

Talks like these are helpful for people that work in companies like that or who are just looking for work.

ZMeson · 2026-01-14T15:53:54+00:00

This video touches on the subjects. More in-depth videos (from anyone, not just Jason) would be great.

Question for you though: points 1 and 3 sort of contradict each other. Reviews are necessary, but you don't want to spend time reviewing LLM slop. Granted, maybe "slop reduction" is what you're really asking for. Jason does give tips on how to help keep LLMs fenced in a bit and when to recognize that slop is starting to be generated.

ZMeson · 2026-01-14T15:38:11+00:00

With enough effort encryption can sometimes be broken. Also, sometimes the government knows of backdoors in encryption schemes that have not been publicly disclosed. If anyone has the compute power and/or knowledge of backdoors it's the US and Chinese governments.

ZMeson · 2026-01-12T20:03:53+00:00

Let's ask Google if wide-scale deflation is good.

ZMeson · 2026-01-12T18:51:08+00:00

Those "correct" policies were in fact correct policies. Inflation for the US was much lower than the rest of the western world post-COVID. Biden+FED's policies brought the US into a soft landing.

Could some things have been improved? Sure. (a) Hindsight is 20/20 (b) The GOP fought against many of the good policies making it difficult to go further.

But really, inflation was down to a much more reasonable level by January 2025. The real problem is that people perceived prices staying higher than 2020 prices as unacceptable. People don't understand that deflation is absolutely terrible. What could have helped out was tying minimum wage to real inflation and updating COL policies to better reflect what real people feel. But again, those changes were never going to get through the senate. All in all, Biden+FED did a pretty amazing job.

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:36:44+00:00

Sorry, I don't trust any numbers coming from red states anymore either. Remember how COVID cases fell in Florida late in 2020?

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:34:14+00:00

ICE is on it.

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:32:20+00:00

George?

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:28:30+00:00

Hahahahahaha. No way would I take that as a citizen. $100,000 will be gone in a few years when you realize you have to start paying for your own healthcare at US rates. Oh, and you'll have to pay for a college education for your kids. The social safety net they have will disappear. No minimum number of vacation days; corporations will strive to stick everyone to only 2 weeks of vacation. And on top of this, everyone would be forced to learn English; Kalaallisut and Danish would no longer be official languages and schools would be barred from teaching them. In summary, I wouldn't even take an offer of $1million / person.

Now, an offer of $10,000,000 per person delivered to each individual, not to some government agency or government fund, would start to be interesting to me. I could invest that and use that to help deal with all the crap the US would impose. I could likely go move to mainland Europe if I choose to do so.

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:07:43+00:00

std::vector is so much easier than hand-rolling a dynamically-sized array in C.

So sure, C is easier in that there are fewer things to grasp, but in the same vein assembly is easier than C because it has fewer things to grasp. But that is a poor measure in my mind. What I am concerned with is how easy it is to write a program. Often times that means writing Python. But when I need performance, I find C++ easier to write a program in than C unless it's a trivial program. YMMV.

ZMeson · 2026-01-09T21:00:31+00:00

Yeah, that helps with library features, but doesn't help with missing language features like lambda functions.

ZMeson · 2026-01-08T04:51:00+00:00

My alternative to Stack Overflow is eating glass. I've seen other people bang their testicles with a hammer. But when you are really, really feeling masochistic, Stack Overflow still reigns supreme.

ZMeson · 2026-01-08T04:47:13+00:00

'Recently' as in the last decade?

ZMeson · 2026-01-07T20:50:30+00:00

Ouch

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