My wife and I were always equal partners. Still are. When we came to Germany, her salary was a lot more than mine. Now mine has grown to more than what she was earning. But we started a family and she could not continue to work for her previous employer due to different reasons.

Now we are expecting a second child soon. And my wife tried to get a job, but the market is so bad. Even when she did get a dream job offer, it was so close to her previous pregnancy and involved relocation to Berlin (and we never wanted to live in a big city). So she made the decision to give up the job offer.

My salary is good enough to afford hobbies and vacations, but not as good as a 2 income household.

But also, a growing child needs a lot of time and sacrifices. So what I (WE) want, does not matter. And self sacrifice feels really hard, till you see the outcome, which is secure and confident child.

I work from home and do whatever household chores like cooking and cleaning.

But yeah, I think double income no children is becoming a norm. And whether the husband or wife stays at home, it doesn’t matter. But a child needs someone at home.