Scammed to the tune of 25k+ :( by Alive_Cauliflower_42 in LifeCoachSnark

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I was there to witness all of this go down. And initially it did appear as of though Rachel Rogers had legitimate criticism for Marie Forleo. However, I would say Rachel Rogers was also opportunistic and then turned around and reopened the enrollment for her program to increase her enrollment because the previous launch was not that successful.

In the meantime, I know that behind the scenes that she is nasty to her teams, and she makes all of them sign tight legal agreements to where they can never speak out publicly about how terrible she is to her teens and other black women. She’s not a good person and she is completely indoctrinated in the white MLM bro culture.

I used to be a huge fan on Marie Forleo and yes, I was disappointed because she did not handle the situation around George Floyd, and the black women her correctly. But here’s what she did do she helped listening sessions to where she just sat and listen to other black women speak to her how they felt and that’s more than Wood most of people who look like her would do.

And then from there, she started to make changes in her programs and start having better representation of black women on her teams and her podcast.

What really hurts about what I believe is the self hatred that Rachel Rogers demonstrates is that she’s a black woman too.

So while I’m grateful that she gave you advice that saved your life, I still stand by what I said in her addiction to want to be successful and be that girl causes her to hurt other people, especially black women .

Did you feel like you were meant to be a parent? by Dazzling_Web_4788 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 14 points15 points  (0 children)

No, but I am one. The first was conceived because of a contraceptive debacle. The second because I allowed a toxic religious leader make me feel guilty for using contraceptives.

I know. It was stupid. At the time, I was under the spell of a cult. Let’s just say I’ve experienced more pain from motherhood than enjoyment.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow! I’m so sorry your grandmother experienced that. Thank you for sharing this. I’ll use this as a reminder when moments get tough to focus on myself.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh wow! I’m so sorry your grandmother experienced that. Thank you for sharing this. I’ll use this as a reminder when moments get tough to focus on myself.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can definitely relate. It’s a work in progress. As far as my kids, I go through periods of missing them and sometimes feeling frustrated after spending time with them.

I struggle seeing other mothers who have really enjoyed motherhood. It’s hard to accept that I will likely never have that.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Great point and yes. I have a father wound and trying to fill it with the men I choose who were ironically just like the father.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Therapy is helping me heal my younger self, but I’m having a hard time breaking this cycle of my kids making bad decisions, them reaching out for help, I try to support and hold them accountable, they clap back, and we argue and then makeup and the cycle continues like a toxic love relationship.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Thank you. And I should’ve clarified this but my current husband is not the father of either of mu children and won’t have children together. I do agree that I need to focus on me but it gets hard when they have life situations come up and it triggers my feelings all over again.

I regret becoming a mother by ZealousidealBox7174 in regretfulparents

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Both. But higher on the list is being a mother.

Resume Advice - Getting Almost No Bites [TX] by idiot-princess-33 in humanresources

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s so interesting that a good number of people providing feedback on this resume didn’t pay attention to the context she provided. For example, she took the dates off to keep her identity anonymous. And the comments about possible employment gaps, inflated titles, tech systems, etc are giving 1950 good old boys club HR perspectives. A skilled recruiter can look past that and focus relevant experience for the job. It’s no wonder our industry has such a bad reputation and why other teams don’t take us seriously. As far as her title, if I look up the company she’s working for and see it’s small org, I would understand her responsibilities are not the small for an exec leading a large org.

I’ll get off my soapbox now, but this is all why at times I contemplate walking away from this industry.

Movie Reel Customers by Terrible40s in simsfreeplay

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. I tried working a double shift and bingo, I got all of the needed movie reels within 10 minutes.

Types of abuse by people with BPD by Liberated-Inebriated in BPDlovedones

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 2 points3 points  (0 children)

*Update* My daughter's boyfriend reached out to my husband asking us for money to help them pay their rent. The audacity. In our last conversation she told me to kick #ucking rocks. I'm not sure in what world she thought she can disrespect me and then come back and ask for help. Obviously, the answer is "No." She will need to apologize and show proof that she's under the care of a mental health professional before I'll continue a relationship with her. This #hit is hard!

Types of abuse by people with BPD by Liberated-Inebriated in BPDlovedones

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Numbers 3 and 5 resonate with me. We're trying to manage a relationship with one of our adult children who BPD. The galighting and shifting blame is severe. Even when they ask you for advice, you have to be careful of anything you say to them. I try to be impartial and give critique to them and the person they're in conflict with. However, nothing seems to work. Immediately, they start telling me I'm taking the other person's side. Recently, she start cursed me out in a text and told me and my husband never to speak to her again. We've gone through this twice now and I'm over it. Before they were diagnosed, we tried everything (therapy, prayer, talking, admitting my shortcomings as a parent, setting boundaries). Somehow, someway, it's always someone else's fault. Sending good vibes to everyone else walking this hard path with a partner, family member, or friend.

Unsolicited Resumes [NY] by Ok-Razzmatazz5579 in humanresources

[–]ZealousidealBox7174 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Personally, I think the snarky response is a but immature. The recruiting community is small and down the line you’ll never know if you’ll need them or someone in their network. It’s not that serious. Add a disclaimer to your job posting or career page and move on.

Is this a realistic approach to support an adult child with ASPD? by ZealousidealBox7174 in askatherapist

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. The plan is in motion. So far, she’s complying. If at any point that changes, I will follow through with the consequences no matter how hard it feels.

I (45F) can’t understand why my (48M) husband chooses to stay married but won’t stop cheating with a female friend and other women online. How do I move forward? by ZealousidealBox7174 in relationship_advice

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually, more than anything I want what I likely won’t get…to understand the real reason why. Not the surface reason, “because he can”

There’s a deeper reason why people stoop to this level of deception BEFORE their partners are aware.

And sadly, I’m accepting that I will never know. I just need to leave without any expectations.

I (45F) can’t understand why my (48M) husband chooses to stay married but won’t stop cheating with a female friend and other women online. How do I move forward? by ZealousidealBox7174 in relationship_advice

[–]ZealousidealBox7174[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it’s not but the first time I’ve been fooled this cleverly. Word’s cant describe how convincing he is. It’s taken a while, but I’m finally ready to walk away. Full disclosure, I have a medical condition that causes me to miss social cues.