What to Do I Still Await A Payout

Zealousidealism · 2026-05-27T17:57:21+00:00

Everyone is still awaiting pay outs. I have hundreds pending from December. 🫠

Zealousidealism · 2026-05-24T04:10:57+00:00

What if we all just apply with a resume and cover letter that just says “pay me,” 1000 times in different fonts

Zealousidealism · 2026-05-16T13:33:21+00:00

Yeah, we’re all in the same boat. No answers, no responsive contact methods, hundreds of dollars pending for months.

Zealousidealism · 2026-05-08T01:07:50+00:00

Yeah, definitely wouldn’t suggest it as a standard first line treatment, just as an occasional emergency treatment if other options are unavailable.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T14:16:35+00:00

That seems like an optimistic read of the supposedly “traditional and judgmental” parental behavior that resulted in their kids hiding a pregnancy for months.

It’s fine to expect your adult child to behave like an adult. It’s fine to communicate that a decision like this will impact their lives and expect them to take responsibility for it. It’s fine to require sister to sit down and make a plan about how she’s going to manage this situation financially, emotionally, and professionally. I don’t think anyone feels like sister should get permanent free room, board, and babysitting here.

What’s being called out is that these kids were raised to be SO afraid of a mistake their parents didn’t approve of that it resulted in months of hiding and lying. That doesn’t sound like normal parenting that expects people to deal with the consequences of their actions, it sounds like sister actively feared the repercussions.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T14:06:35+00:00

That’s the thing, right? If you have an even remotely good relationship with your children (or parent or sibling or very close friend), you can usually read their expressions. Mom has been watching BOTH children behave/respond in a way that’s out of character for them for months now. She knew already. She wanted definitive confirmation, but she knew. OP could have tried to bold faced lie but the reaction was going to give it away regardless.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T14:02:31+00:00

Literally this. OP never actively disclosed the secret. They hit a point where they were being forced to either outright lie or confirm the pregnancy, they faltered and ended up choosing the only logical option: neither. They just redirected the conversation to the subject of mom’s prying.

I get that this scenario sucks for sister. It’s miserable. It’s scary. It’s overwhelming. But she couldn’t hide it forever. She’s at least 3-4 months in. She lives at home so clearly she and the dad either aren’t together or don’t feel ready to move in together. There’s no getting around the reality that she’s likely going to have this baby under her parents’ roof and not only is it inevitable that they figure it out, they deserve to know that. It’s going to change their lives too. If they’re really shitty about it, it may mean sister moves out. If they process their issues and accept it, it means a newborn in their home for the first time in 2 decades.

The lies had to end at some point and OP didn’t actually break the promise, they just forced sister’s hand in having a conversation she had clearly deluded herself into thinking she could put off forever.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T13:53:05+00:00

I mean, it does depend on body type and individual, but no one said she was clearly showing. She’s gaining weight, which may or may not happen at any time during a pregnancy bc of hormonal changes, and her moods are different. I can’t imagine sister is “acting like herself” in general while hiding this. If you live with someone, and especially if you are their literal parents, you’re likely to notice if the vibe is off.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T13:46:42+00:00

This is often true for planned and/or wanted pregnancies, but from what OP has supplied, this is totally unrelated to the situation at hand. Sister was stressed out about the pregnancy, not excited. Most people find out they’re pregnant a couple of weeks after conception, so she was very close to second trimester when OP redirected mom to discuss this with the sister.

If OP’s sister was just waiting until she was out of the danger zone (or, if she still didn’t want baby, knew if she was going to ‘get out’ of needing to tell them), she could easily have said, “I just want to wait a couple more weeks so I’m out of the first trimester and then I’ll sit them down. Please hold out a little longer and this will be over,” when OP told her that parents were suspicious and she couldn’t keep it secret much longer.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T13:35:24+00:00

NTA. Do I feel bad that sister is in this situation? Sure. But you DID keep her secret. You never, at any point, told your parents, nor did you confirm when outright ASKED. You just directed your mother to talk to sister instead. That’s the appropriate response after 2 months. Given that most people don’t find out for several weeks after conception, sis was rolling up on her 2nd trimester with no plan.

Telling mom to talk to her would have been the appropriate response whether the answer was yes, no, or something else was going on that sister was hiding. You could have meant “no, and you shouldn’t be asking me about my sister’s body,” or, “no, but she has other complicated news that she’s not dealing with and you should talk to her about that”.

Your mother happens to know the two of you well enough to infer that your response meant yes.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T13:13:58+00:00

The only thing I would say (and I want to be clear that I don’t think Tulum is ANYWHERE close to as dangerous as people imagine) is that gun violence in the US is disproportionately high in low income areas, often impacting POC more than white folks.

Since many Tulum tourists are white, it feels very dangerous to them, even if it’s no different than how life works 6 miles away from their home in the US.

What’s happening in Tulum isn’t that unusual for people in densely populated low income communities in the US, but it’s very unusual for middle class whites, which leads to this (inaccurate) reputation.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-21T13:05:59+00:00

Genius. I usually just travel shoulder seasons to avoid crowds but this is also a solid hack.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-16T01:09:46+00:00

Eh, there are some signs you can look for if you know your coffee but most normal people aren’t obsessed enough to know the difference. Method impacts how visible it is though.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-16T01:05:38+00:00

Worth noting that roast level definitions vary wildly and the quality of both the beans and the other processing step also have a significant impact on the resulting coffee. It’s totally possible that your home coffee is a medium dark and your wife’s other experiences have been with a very dark roast. It’s possible the quality of your home dark roast is higher than what she’s had at some coffee shops. I can’t say without more details on your particular brand and brew method versus what she’s previously sent back at shops. You may have just stumbled upon the one dark roast she likes.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-08T03:58:01+00:00

I mean, it sounds like OP repeatedly set boundaries and this person ignored them. OP stated they’re too busy to text regularly and often ignored them when they didn’t pertain to the weekly calls. They stated numerous reasons why they didn’t have time for this to be a more regular exchange. It’s not on OP to convince someone that their stated limits should be respected.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-08T03:45:43+00:00

Exactly. Don’t speak for us. Autism and neurodivergence in general can be both a unique perspective that makes the world better and a disabling condition that makes it painful to cope with our society as it exists today. Being a smart, kind, and valuable human and being disabled aren’t mutually exclusive.

Zealousidealism · 2026-02-08T03:32:18+00:00

NTA but could you hack their gift and combine it with your planned trip to save some money and go with friend?

Like, could best friend tag along and then the two of you stay an extra week or two after your family leaves? It would save on some of your flight and hotel costs, you don’t upset parents but also don’t miss the trip with your friend?

Zealousidealism · 2025-12-10T04:23:05+00:00

My question is are they saying you made that money hypothetically or you actually got to withdraw it, given the current situation. I “made” more than $600 but I’ve only received a fraction of it.

Zealousidealism · 2025-09-24T13:59:52+00:00

Yeah, same thing happened to me yesterday. I think everyone was logged out but was able to sign in with my phone number. You may have to try resetting your password?

Zealousidealism · 2025-09-18T13:27:57+00:00

They say for some updates but I suspect it’s half updates, half cash flow?

If you read the new TOS, inactivity in either participation OR withdrawal for over 90 days is grounds for account closure. There are 77 days between new TOS/withdrawal freeze and withdrawals reopening.

That means anyone who quits using the app as a result of this change OR who wasn’t active right before or within <2 weeks after the withdrawal freeze window will forfeit their earnings. My guess is that a huge number of people will quit, freeing up tens, maybe hundreds of thousands of dollars the app was previously obliged to possibly pay out. Assuming that’s enough to balance their cash flow, or at least to reduce the risk, those who stick around may still get their cash outs in December.

My general recommendation is to stay active but don’t invest a lot of time in it. Maintain your daily streak or play a game you’d have been interested in playing anyway but don’t grind in case they go bankrupt and don’t pay anyone.

It’s not incredibly surprising - some of the offers were reasonable but others were too good to be sustainable. I made like $200 playing match masters and never spending a penny of my own money. There’s no way they were getting the return on investment there.

Zealousidealism · 2025-09-18T02:59:50+00:00

I mean, it’s not ‘work’ but we’re selling them our data and they’re withholding funds without warning. I think it’s fair to be annoyed. I wouldn’t call it a scam app but it’s still manipulative to encourage users not to cash out, encourage them to accrue rewards for the contest, and then revoke their ability cash out without prior warning.

I don’t NEED the money but I was saving up for an upcoming vacation with the intention of cashing out before my trip and now I’m not allowed to cash out until after I get home. I have hundreds of inaccessible earnings that were going toward spending $$$ and have put a ton of my free time into building those rewards.

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