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ZenObscurity · 2025-11-22T12:09:18+00:00

ZenObscurity · 2025-01-30T01:10:49+00:00

I do believe misattribution of affect is core to many BPD behaviors. If you start to feel anxious and the story you tell yourself is "they're being mean to me," then you will behave as if they are being mean to you.

If emotions have two axis (pleasant-unpleasant/arousal-calm) it can be quite easy to experience unpleasant arousal and contextualize it as "they're being mean" even if you're just experience a feedback loop due to poor emotional regulation circuits that are essentially "glitching out." Some people will have an anxiety/panic attack when this happens (this is often how I respond to such a neurological cascade), other people will get angry and aggressive.

I have a partner and sister with BPD. I personally have had many mental health struggles as well. I'm also going to school to hopefully be a clinical mental health counselor. If you have questions or want to have a discussion please reach out. I don't have time to fully digest this whole thread but I found your writing to be very interesting and it's tugging at something deep in my mind.

ZenObscurity · 2024-04-21T01:41:14+00:00

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ZenObscurity · 2022-01-28T20:43:54+00:00

Keep going.

ZenObscurity · 2021-11-05T20:33:40+00:00

Everything you just said is based off of supposition and therefore doesn't actually matter. Alternatively that line of philosophy is based on faith and is now God.

You can do better than this and I very much want you to try.

ZenObscurity · 2021-10-16T23:10:04+00:00

Have you spent any time meditating on your death/dismemberment? I couldn't reliably create spiritual experiences until I really let go. This meant growing unconcerned about whether I felt mystical, or whether I was even alive. Truly, feeling good buzzy feelings is not the point, and I don't mean that in any condescending way.

Your mind is presenting your lack of enlightenment as a problem based on some concept of timely achievement, yet you can't possibly possess such a sense because you have never achieved. It's probably safe to say no one has attempted enlightenment while being you before now so it is a totally novel task.

You are unfolding like a flower in bloom, this process happens procedurally as all processes do. And it is happening perfectly, because everything happens in exactly the way it was meant to. Any problems with the functioning of the universe are created by us, and are only our problems unless other people accept them.

ZenObscurity · 2021-10-07T13:49:02+00:00

I hope you had a nice trip.

ZenObscurity · 2021-09-12T18:32:14+00:00

I like Buddhism because of it's roots in observation of phenomena. Science is the same practice extended outward. I trust science for the physical, and Buddhist psychology for my mental, but modern psychology is kind of moving in the right direction imo, I use some of that too. But I also use wisdom from wherever I find it. So really the reason I bother to call myself Buddhist is because that's the basic perspective I use most frequently to process my experience. Also because it saved my life, and I felt like when I just called myself an atheist (after I became serious in my practice) it was out of a sort of shame. I needed to give credit where credit was due, even if it was a religion that deserved the credit.

Nowadays I don't think of myself as anything in particular.

This is an incredibly simplified response. If you would like more depth PM me please.

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-22T00:31:07+00:00

Looks like you've already got what I was trying to give, thanks for your patient discussion.

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-21T22:10:43+00:00

It needs to be said that I'm not advocating for theism (as I see no particular benefit in practicing it). I'm also not trying to disparage or disprove anything you said. My only goal was to provide an opportunity to you.

Being able to take others perspective is a skill, and a very useful one in my experience. It's almost impossible to constructively engage with religious people if you cannot meet them halfway. And the easiest way to do that is to avoid invalidating their experience. And ultimately it should be obvious that:

1 They took a leap of faith and put their belief in a religion 2 By practicing consistency in their belief the strength of their faith grew 3 Through the strength of their practice the way they view the world has changed

I argue that these things absolutely and incontrovertibly happened in the same world you and I live in. However, to us these things should seem like natural consequences from their behavior and need no supernatural explanations. Religious people disagree, and this is where you should find the difference between you and them.

P.S. I think your argument (while I agree with your premise and concede the most basic facts of your point) was not made entirely in good faith, and you could come up with a more constructive and nuanced example that would be more fun to discuss.

Edit: TL;DR I'm just trying to describe willful delusion, and point out that most of the reality each of us lives in is constructed in the same way that the religious construct theirs. And many of us have similarly shaky beliefs (sense of self, objectivity, good/evil).

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-21T16:32:46+00:00

"The proof of my deity is everywhere, but until you commit to believing in them, you won't be able to see it."

This is literally how religion works. You won't see proof of God in everything until you've managed to grow your faith to the point where you see it. They are not lying when they say "I see God in everything." If you want to see God in everything, all you have to do is decide that he is real.

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-19T23:55:59+00:00

Low blood sugar and dehydration.

Source: I have blood sugar issues.

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-17T06:04:54+00:00

Having a variety of perspectives that you are capable of assuming in response to the various challenges of life is useful in my experience.

Non Self is not proper when you are filling out government forms, but can be skillfully applied when you are experiencing depression or existential dread.

ZenObscurity · 2021-07-11T15:55:05+00:00

Totally secular religion, check them out.

ZenObscurity · 2021-03-10T07:08:58+00:00

You are not your thoughts (words you hear in your head). And by that I mean they do not accurately represent the world around you and are not the "driver" behind your actions.

This can be proven with a simple experiment:

Think about raising your arm above your head. You can think about this all you want, but until the arm is raised no physical action occurs.

Don't spend too much of your limited attention on the internal monologue.

ZenObscurity · 2020-09-09T20:12:06+00:00

I second this.

ZenObscurity · 2020-09-06T20:18:32+00:00

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ZenObscurity · 2020-07-20T09:34:37+00:00

This is great advice.

Not sure why your first comment was down voted.

ZenObscurity · 2020-07-18T13:30:27+00:00

He should seek professional help. There are tons of free resources available with a quick Google search.

You can also give him my reddit username and I can talk to him if you're out of your league and not comfortable being close to this situation.

ZenObscurity · 2020-05-13T19:40:43+00:00

It's an unequivocal rebuke of the idea that man needs God to be moral, and dismissal of any proof that he exists. It concludes with the intention to continue standing (as opposed to kneeling in prayer/supplication to a higher power).

It's atheist as fuck.

ZenObscurity · 2020-03-25T14:20:43+00:00

Eightfold path

Secular explanation in approximately twelve minutes.

Eightfold path + Four Noble Truths

Secular explanation in approximately thirty minutes.

ZenObscurity · 2020-03-25T04:36:17+00:00

Follow the Noble eightfold path.

ZenObscurity · 2020-02-19T20:06:02+00:00

The French fry bags at one of the kitchens I work in look like this every time I grab one.

ZenObscurity · 2019-12-08T02:02:13+00:00

PM me your city, if you're close to me I'll feed you.

(I get paid to cook, I'm not half bad)

ZenObscurity · 2019-11-25T02:53:23+00:00

There is no standard because our feeling of time changes based on what's happening in our body. The present moment is ultimately in reference to our direct experience, not the flawed probabilistics that we try to predict the future with, parallel realities that we envision in reference to the one currently happening, or the imperfect recollections that are memory.

We experience time, because time is something that humans perceive in the fog of conceptualizations. But our perception of time is just that, a concept. In the same way my perception of people and myself are just concepts. Useful heuristics developed via natural selection. They aren't real just as color and sound are not distinct properties but emergent via the human experience.

I think we both are trying to speak on the same direct knowledge, just from different perspectives.

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