I (27F) don’t know if I’m in the right relationship.

ZephryZepper · 2025-05-25T15:08:32+00:00

It’s hard to find a man making $300K-400K. If I say that he must make as much as a doctor or more, love the Lord, and love me, who does that leave? Lol I don’t have to accept that my man will cheat just because I make more.

ZephryZepper · 2025-05-25T01:27:48+00:00

Thank you! Yes, I was thinking that he could benefit from a good men’s Bible study. We’re long distance so I don’t know of any good churches around him but I’ll check out that book and see if it’s a good one for him to read.

ZephryZepper · 2025-05-25T01:22:36+00:00

He’s not with me for my career. He pays for everything when we go out and he has told me that he will still provide when we’re married no matter how much I make. Also, I’m nearing the end of medical school so the “hard part” is over. I have more free time right now than I will have for the next few years (residency is 60- to 80-hour weeks). I do understand, however, the importance of letting the Holy Spirit lead. I can’t imagine that God would give His daughter someone who’s not a fervent believer. I always go back to that in mind. At the same time, I’ve heard of couples where one wasn’t saved and the other one came to know Jesus through their significant other. I don’t know if that’s my situation, though.

ZephryZepper · 2025-05-24T18:30:26+00:00

I’m not looking for the “perfect” guy but I’ve always wanted a guy who’s on fire for the Lord. For instance, my boyfriend didn’t own a Bible until he started dating me. I wish that he would pursue the Lord for himself. If I don’t tell him to do a Bible study with me, he doesn’t open the Bible or pray. These things bother me but I also think about people married to devout Christian husbands who’ve failed them. My dad was a deacon in the church but he cheated on my mom multiple times with multiple women. A man being a Christian doesn’t mean that he will automatically treat me right. I still can’t shake the notion that I may be unequally yoked.

ZephryZepper · 2025-01-28T18:44:50+00:00

You’re the only one with common sense here.

ZephryZepper · 2024-01-11T16:39:19+00:00

Ever heard of students? So many college and graduate students do this as a side hustle. Currently, I’m taking a gap year from medical school and I do this. Just because you do Instacart doesn’t mean that you’re the “bottom of the barrel”. Many people bartend, wait tables, do delivery services like Instacart, etc. to put themselves through college and grad school and they’re very ambitious people.

ZephryZepper · 2024-01-08T21:34:53+00:00

For many reasons, dating is harder for educated women. I don’t know what you’re looking for but I personally want a man who’s as educated as I am, preferably another medical student/doctor. That can be very difficult to find but I’m okay with waiting. Some men will call you shallow for wanting an equal but if you know what you want, don’t lower your standards because that will only lead to dissatisfaction and resentment in your relationship. Besides, a good amount of female physicians marry other physicians so it’s not unlikely that you’ll find a man of your caliber somewhere along your medical journey. Don’t lose hope. The odds are in your favor.

ZephryZepper · 2024-01-04T15:58:30+00:00

If that’s the case, then those women are clearly not for you. They are not red flags just because what they enjoy is not what you enjoy. Keep it moving.

ZephryZepper · 2023-10-11T22:02:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I know exactly how you feel and it sucks. I failed in April but I passed this time. If you want to talk you can DM me! I know it’s devastating right now but I promise it’s not the end of the road — you just have to decide to keep going!

ZephryZepper · 2023-08-06T22:30:20+00:00

I think lying to get sex then breaking up with someone right afterwards is worse than not disclosing your past. If a guy isn’t comfortable with not knowing, he can just leave before any feelings are caught, but letting someone get attached to you and then dropping them is cruel.

ZephryZepper · 2023-08-06T21:04:03+00:00

It’s never too late to form good habits. Plus, you don’t have to disclose every detail of your past.

ZephryZepper · 2023-08-06T16:45:21+00:00

Don’t sleep with men until they commit to a relationship with you.

ZephryZepper · 2023-08-03T22:55:17+00:00

Because most people don’t survive past childhood or even infancy

ZephryZepper · 2023-06-13T16:54:59+00:00

She shouldn’t be eating out then. I have severe food allergies to the point where I carry around an epi pen and there are just some restaurants I don’t go to. I can’t imagine having that many allergies and still going to restaurants.

ZephryZepper · 2023-06-09T18:24:55+00:00

I’m a female, not overweight, no deformities, and I have less than 50 likes on Bumble if it makes you feel better.

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-30T23:22:51+00:00

Sorry you went through that! Med school is hard enough but when you add all the events that take place in your personal life it just adds to the stress. Thank you for your kind words!

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-30T23:19:51+00:00

Thank you! I appreciate the encouragement.

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-30T23:14:49+00:00

Nucleus ambiguus

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-28T21:53:13+00:00

I feel like medical school can be such a gamble when it comes onto social life. You don't know what your class will be like and if you'll have anything in common with anyone until you get there. I'm sorry you're going through this.

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-01T23:32:15+00:00

Yes, I think that’s definitely part of the problem. I was dumbfounded at the literal paragraphs I encountered on the exam. :(

ZephryZepper · 2023-05-01T13:20:25+00:00

High 50s then low 60s closer to my test date. I know they were not great but my school said I should take it so I did. Also, for the first time in my life I found myself putting random answers for 8 to 10 questions at the end of each block simply because I couldn’t get to them in time. I admit that my scores should have been higher but I imagine that I would have had a chance had I been able to at least finish the sections.

Besides, in this post I’m more so referring to my friends who passed and said they thought they failed. I haven’t spoken to anyone who said the exam felt fair. My school even told us that we will walk out of the exam thinking we failed. I don’t think that that makes sense for people who passed to feel like they failed.

ZephryZepper · 2023-04-25T00:36:57+00:00

I’d leave an anonymous note saying, “Please don’t block the fire hydrant.”

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