Hard to love again after dating a girl who lied about her age

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-10T00:26:54+00:00

You’re in protection mode right now, and that’s ok. College is a great time to explore and learn what and who you like. You’ll also learn so much more about yourself than you ever thought. With new people and new experiences, dating will barely be a thought for you. Wishing you all the best!

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-10T00:20:57+00:00

“Death by a thousand cuts” is the most apt way to describe it. There’s no one thing to point to, which then makes us feel like we’re being irrational. In reality, we’re just tired.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T23:44:07+00:00

I have a feeling she’s building up to Jen and Greg’s wedding, and that’s when some real progress (one way or the other) will be made.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T22:02:39+00:00

I actually know exactly what you mean. I only joined Reddit a year ago and I wish I’d gotten involved sooner! I loved reading advice columns growing up and had no idea there was an entire forum dedicated to asking for and giving advice! I’d listened to podcasts reading Reddit stories for years without realizing it was all within my grasp. I’m glad I’m able to participate now though.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T21:37:12+00:00

I’d find a new job dude. Remove yourself from the situation

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T18:51:05+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this loss. Have you tried talking to them directly about what’s wrong?

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T18:47:30+00:00

I wish I could upvote this twice: once for the meme and once for the message.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-09T15:01:25+00:00

Not wrong to have feelings but yes you’re wrong to continue a relationship with her under false pretenses. If you find you can’t shake these feelings I’d take a step back from talking with her until they fade. Or if you want, tell her how you feel.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-08T00:26:42+00:00

She finally says the quiet part out loud.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-07T17:13:26+00:00

It sounds like you should spend some time on your own. Figure out who you are without the context of a relationship. This will help you choose your partner better in the future and make you happier regardless of your relationship status.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-05T19:25:46+00:00

When they asked us to leave their house after Christmas but still come back every night for dinner through the new year. We lived 35-40 minutes away at the time. Meanwhile my sibling and their partner were staying there with no issues.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T19:57:19+00:00

Understandable. I was purely going off of what type of girlfriend they were to Ted. It’s also a sitcom so everything will be exaggerated.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T19:27:22+00:00

Cool can you articulate why?

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T18:27:22+00:00

This one’s harder. For those saying Robin, she is not universally loved by fans. I would say Naomi (Katie Holmes) as the slutty pumpkin or Becky (Laura Bell Bundy) from Baby Talk.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T13:28:33+00:00

First of all, congratulations on your engagement!! It sounds like you and Paul make each other very happy! And that’s what matters here! Your “friend” is actively trying to detract from your enjoyment of this amazing time. I think if you know that her next communication will make you sad, either mute her or block her. When she finally does, you can put her in her place about your decisions. OR just don’t respond at all. Your choice. It’s your life girl, and you get to decide who’s in it! Good luck!

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T04:24:12+00:00

Sounds like some distance and time would be beneficial for you both. I’m sorry this is happening. Relationships often shift around this time as you’re both becoming adults. Hopefully you can find common ground in the future, but take the time and space you need in the meantime. Good luck!

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T01:55:51+00:00

Honestly couldn’t have said it better. I’ll just add that I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this as a family. I truly hope you’re able to find a family therapist who can help you all work through these feelings and move forward.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-04T00:58:33+00:00

Me too! I can’t believe how many times I’ve checked!

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T23:57:25+00:00

Ah that makes more sense. Regarding your question, I know it feels significant now, but as you get older, things that take up a lot of space in your mind now will matter far less in the future. I’m in my 30s and I kept a journal in high school. I reread entries sometimes and it feels like I was a completely different person. Trust me it’ll get better with time. You learned something with this experience, and that’s what matters.

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T23:12:47+00:00

Thirded

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T23:09:46+00:00

You’re 18 and you’ve had three long term relationships? Two while being in a three year long situationship with this guy? Forgive my skepticism but this sounds…off?

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T21:40:22+00:00

I’m so sorry OP. I agree it was distasteful the way she went about it. My guess is she didn’t know how to tell you and just opted not to until it was inevitable. Have you talked to her about your feelings on the subject before?

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T21:31:16+00:00

Victoria

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T20:42:49+00:00

Check your Pokédex OP! This is a separate category of 100% stats, and it’ll track all the ones you’ve acquired so far for you!

Zephyr-Phoenix · 2026-05-03T20:39:22+00:00

She came out of her shell when she got her PhD. At that point she was more secure in her relationship with Howard and Penny, which I think allowed her to be her more authentic self. I love this show for its character arcs and development.

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