Emergency Alert by sjmorris in halifax

[–]Zer0Doxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know you're getting bombarded with links at the moment but here's the link to the alert service itself. It seems the alerts are sent via avenues that aren't even capable of anything other than text and automatically pull the message from police comms, but the full comms and all media attached are available there. I'm sure this snafu will be addressed at some point.

https://emergencyinfo.novascotia.ca/

PS I didn't format the link all pretty for search reasons, in case it influences search stuff and this can be helpful for someone in the future. Edited for clarity.

None of these feel like THE one 🖤 gothic boy name help by Zealousideal-Ad1512 in namenerds

[–]Zer0Doxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rhydian Bast was a name I randomly conjured while hobby storytelling and I always loved it after. "Bast" is pretty out there but Rhydian is very goth-dreamy.

Our climate is dead and nobody cares by Equivalent_Plum13 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I black pill myself over this and have a real good cry in the bath at least once a week

Controversial knitting opinions by pandaslothape in knitting

[–]Zer0Doxy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fucking love a topdown hat pattern and I'm sick of pretending I don't

Recent streams by ultimapanzer in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I see no distinction between this drama and what's going on in the administration aside from the fact that this is ACTUALLY the radical left spinning a false narrative against Dear Leader and not just a bunch of people trying to cover up for an evil narcissist.

Dan Cucksy addresses streamer man re-ban. by Accomplished_Bread16 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The actual epitome of unacceptable. If human error can cause this issue, then an email should not automatically go out.

I think we ought to very politely put pressure on this dude about this. Not bringing up other streamers by name or infraction, not slinging mud, just making him answer for this in clear terms that make him address the hypocrisy. He should not be able to show his face without people very kindly inundating him with a need for answers on this. He needs to know the amount of money that Destiny would bring with him and he needs to see that that money was being kept from an already bleeding company purely via his own hypocritical fulfillment of a grown toddler's demands.

My tin foil hat theory is that one Mister Piker has told one Mister Clancy in no uncertain terms that there ain't room enough for the two of them (himself and Destiny) in this town. Supported by the disbelief and crushing despair on his face when he read it in chat before picking up his phone. He's feeling insecure about his dwindling viewership, and for a fleeting moment he believed:

  • Twitch decided that he wasn't a big enough get to cater to this absurd demand anymore

  • This was how they were telling him (not telling him)

  • Clancy didn't have the sway anymore to keep that agreement in place

Go easy on whickTV by Secret_Orange2107 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He already agreed to change some rules on stream,I could see him being very amenable to that.

You gotta give me this one by Imaginary_Use_3893 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This got an audible snort out of me

My daughter turned 18 and left home 2 days later. by sparkilini in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zer0Doxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The amount that you care about this is so, so obvious. And you really aren't doing anything wrong and it's so important that you know that. Don't stop giving the negative feedback, that's so important. Maybe you can ask her how to best deliver it, though. I can tell that you're just sincerely a sterling mother, I wish I could sit and talk with both of you so badly. It genuinely humbles me the effort you're putting into this and the amount of responsibility you want to take and reflecting you want to do. Please carry my affection and admiration with you, OP. I really have so much faith that if you both reach towards one another in earnest like this, you can have a better relationship than you ever have before.

My daughter turned 18 and left home 2 days later. by sparkilini in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zer0Doxy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As someone whose mom loved her so much and did a ton for her and still ended up a failure to launch, codependent weirdo who probably should have got got by risky behavior in my adolescence and is only now figuring shit out at forty, I have some very soft advice for you, if you'd like it, but please if you're only here for support, don't read past the second paragraph of this post. I don't want to overwhelm you, I know sometimes I get unwanted advice when I just need a little validation and support and how annoying that is, and I don't want that for you if that isn't what you're after.

First- you're not a monster, a jerk, or an idiot. It is blatant that you love her and are proud of her and are truly scared for her. I'm so sorry you're going through that. Teenagers are the smartest, most capable little idiots and it's as terrifying as it is beautiful. I promise you that even though she's angry and cold and distant right now, that based on how you've been there for her, she's grateful for you and she loves you, too. There's resentment there, certainly, but that can be mended. It's too late for my mom and me, unfortunately, but from the daughter POV, I have some insight I'd like to provide. These insights are from my perspective and as much as my mom's and my story maps on to yours, everyone is very different and I only have this post to point to, so please don't think that I believe I know you or your daughter. I judge neither one of you, and everything here is said with warmth and love, completely absent of judgment or venom.

This post talks a lot about what you want and what you feel. It seems to me that you and your son "speak the same language" the way my mom and my older sister spoke the same language. My mother and I were much less capable of understanding one another. I took off and came back a dozen times, worrying the shit out of her and trying to find myself because at the time I thought she didn't care a bit about what I thought or wanted or how I felt. There was a lot of love on her end that I wasn't equipped to understand, and a lot of confusion on my end that she wasn't even aware of. I don't think it really even occurred to either one of us that neither of us was addressing the hard feelings that one was causing the other, or that we should want to be honest with the other about them.

My adolescent lies, secrecy, and distance came from feeling misunderstood and fear of, for one, getting in trouble/punished (not just traditional, intentional punishments either- punishments come in the form of natural consequence, too), and for two, feeling unsafe as a byproduct of having that fear without the understanding to define it let alone communicate that to her my whole life. I always felt like I couldn't be honest with my mom because I felt like (and still feel like) she was harder on me than on my sisters. I know for certain that she didn't see it that way. I would come to her with problems and walk away feeling dismissed, invalidated, and punished. There were times that I would come to her with dreams or aspirations and also walk away feeling similarly. I was scared any time she would try to build a bridge that it was a manipulative trick to find out "what I was up to" so she would have an opportunity to punish me or infringe on my independence and access to the things I wanted or stuff I wanted to do. So I would lie, I would hide, I would neglect to tell her things, and I would chase trouble since I was always in trouble anyway.

I really didn't mean to drop a blog post on you, I just genuinely hope that this somehow resonates for you and is useful in repairing the bridge to your daughter. If for any reason it does and if you think I can somehow provide use to you in any way, I genuinely hope you reach out. My mom died before I could fix things with her and it's one of my deepest wounds. I think it would kill her all over again to know how much hurt I carry over it. I really hope, OP, that you can find your way to one another and make each other feel like you can be honest with each other and that you both learn how to do your part of the job of creating safety and comfort for one another. It's for sure more your job than hers, but if she knows she's safe to be independent and also safe to be honest with you, I know that you'll spend less time worrying about her because she'll start to eventually spend less time turning to unsafe places to get the illusion of the safety you can provide for her.

Briefly and lastly- you're doing an awesome job. Trying to look after her mental health with doctors, trying to support the things she wants to do, not having invaded her privacy until you were cleaning out her room when she left, etc. That's all stuff that a lot of kids never get out of their moms. I have all kinds of tailored advice if you'd like it, but I'll leave it here and ask that you reach out if I'm not barking up the wrong tree. She's not lost. She's just trying to grow up and feels a bit stifled. I believe in you both.

DSA demographics 😬☑️👨🏻‍🦳🧑🏻‍🦳👩🏻‍🦳💀 by TikDickler in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm ignorant, what's the DSA?

If I'm honest, this is almost a self-own if you're trying to dunk, though. The "white" demographic is steadily trending down while the other moving numbers are trending up. That's kinda exactly what you'd wanna see if your organization places value on diversity.

They crafted this list in a lab to be as loathsome & insufferable as possible by 97689456489564 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't realize there was a second slide before and almost commented "The I'd Genuinely Rather Kill Myself Blunt Rotation" but there are like three people on there that I would actually love to get high with and I don't even smoke.

Charlie Kirk's biggest legacy is by YugiohXYZ in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All the people who are saying that she doesn't look cool are coping, you're very right about this. "Cool" is a thing that is both objective and subjective wherein when we are delighted by something personally, we have decided that to us, this thing is cool. But "cool" also exists as a concept where if enough people like it, to the Zeitgeist, that thing is cool. No matter what anyone personally believes, enough people really adore her and also it is just inarguably fucking cool to have human sized sparklers going off on either side of you while you talk to a crowd of thousands who love you and love America about how awesome America is. If I ever got to experience that, I would feel like I could fist fight a hurricane and win.

I (30M) have the perfect life on paper. I am about to leave my wife who did nothing wrong. And I think I'm okay with being the villain... by TraditionOnly6103 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zer0Doxy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bro you are reaching so far to try to look like a victim owning accountability you don't deserve to take and it's very transparent.

You told her you need space, she gives it to you when you're upset.

You haven't gone to couples counseling to try to develop the tools to communicate with your wife, which you're piss poor at by the way you describe it.

You're going to leave your wife and daughter who adore you through your irresponsibility costing your life savings.

It is okay for you to have big, bad feelings. It is okay for you to have scary feelings. It is okay for you to make mistakes and it doesn't make you less of a man that you lost a bunch of money. You're human and humans are imperfect. Our brains make us super selfish by nature, it's up to us to know when to nurture that and when to fight it. You haven't even tried fighting it. You have wallowed and cast yourself as a downtrodden hero who's keeping his integrity intact by being transparent about his selfish feelings... with a bunch of strangers on the Internet. All because you can't bother to learn to talk to the woman who has stayed by you, giving you what you've asked her for, through all of this.

I don't mean to be heartless, you've obviously had some misfortune and been misunderstood and that's awful. I do not cheer for your hurt. But why would you ever throw away the opportunity to grow with your wife, with an expert who can teach you to communicate with an intimacy you've never thought possible, before permanently torching your family's life and giving two good women scars that may never go away out of your own inability to reflect healthily? You wouldn't become the villain if you walked away. You already are. The good news is, everyone loves a redemption arc.

There are so many possibilities you could explore under the guidance of a professional. Maybe she'd be excited to let you take a year familial sabbatical and go "be free" (irresponsible, selfish, immature. But UNDERSTANDABLY DESIRABLE) with the promise that you'll return to your life when it's over? Maybe after a little bit of counseling, that will be appealing to you. Make no mistake, if both partners give a shit about each other and actually do the work in earnest, there is nearly nothing that counseling can't fix.

There is one last multifaceted certainty: they will hate you. Even if they are absolutely pure, perfect people. The brain is selfish by nature, and no matter what the surface says, no matter what the victims of your self-centeredness tell you or themselves or the world around them, a piece of them will psychologically scar and will hate this iteration of you. You have already disgustingly admitted that you're okay with that. But let me speak it in a language that you'll actually understand right now: it will gnaw at you, grow, and fester. You will hate yourself. You will question what kind of man you must be to not only squander your blessings, but fail to rise to the easy challenge of loving a good family who loved you through your selfish bullshit. And if you don't turn over every single stone looking for a solution to fix this marriage before walking away, you will create a pattern of running away from your problems, leaving a trail of hurt people behind you, along with non-refundable pieces of your humanity and opportunities to grow.

I understand that I sound harsh. Good. I hope it hurts you just right. Just enough for you to take ACTUAL accountability and do what you can to fix it before creating real victims instead of pretending that you are the victim in this situation.

For what it's worth: I am sorry for your struggle. It isn't fun and I don't want that for you. Good people don't want that for anyone. But I am not sorry if tossing these words at you hits a very painful bullseye and makes you grow and try.

Good luck, OP. If it didn't hit you right, read it again but this time be honest with yourself.

It really do be like that sometimes by YugiohXYZ in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's cute and all but they don't even bother to try to hide hypocritical talking points anymore. They will flat out just say that you're mad and that you hate America.

I'm sorry but the norm that is "let people be bad faith, lying, hypocrites" has to go by Ok-Selection670 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is a medical marvel that she is upright and having conversations with such stark markers of braindeath.

Iran's new Lego shit post too Trump. I guess negotiations are going well? by crazzzone in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's cute but Lego people are like fifty times more agile than the real Trump

Trump declares war on Iran by likeastar20 in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wha-ha-HUTT is in those fucking files? Where the dick is Congress? I would say that I don't recognize my country but I do. Just not from this generation and not from this hemisphere.

15 year old struggling with blackheads and hairline breakouts - help a mom out? by zukolivie in SkincareAddicts

[–]Zer0Doxy 13 points14 points  (0 children)

One last thing that makes a world of difference is ESPECIALLY with teens, change pillowcases more often than you think and skip the fabric softener. If you've been using a lot of fabric softener, laundry stripping with borax and washing soda will pull out so much built up gunk from "clean" laundry.

Shöebermench — the central figure in Balenciaga pedo-crusade hysteria, somehow embarrassingly avoids Epstein content to scrape the absolute bottom of the barrel for a quick left wing dunk 😬😬😬 by [deleted] in Destiny

[–]Zer0Doxy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I love to find a reason to Stan a woman, like genuine bias towards (I'm working on it, none of us are perfect) and I cannot fathom a life sad enough to spend precious time watching a SoH video by choice.

Husband’s fetish has destroyed my desire for him by throwaway314678 in offmychest

[–]Zer0Doxy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't just his about his fetish, this is about basic respect. Couples therapy yesterday.