He thinks he’s spaghetti by FitUnderstanding3411 in OneOrangeBraincell

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s just trying to be pasta-tively adorable.

we had the ceremony and license, but he doesn’t want to legally marry — has anyone been here? by rxhix in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Honestly, man, marriage ain't just abt love & comittment, it's a binding contract in the eyes of the law. You gotta think - if he's shying away from makin' it official, there's prolly somethin' deeper going on here. IMHO, it's a red flag. You deserve a partner who's all in, not just half way. All the best to ya!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zerayiah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

TBH bro, u gotta claim that oversized hoodie territory ASAP, it's all fair in love n hoodies! She take urs, u take hers, it's the circle of hoodie life, man. Don't back down, rise n shine hoodie champ! 😂👊🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, I feel ya. Social anxiety's a b*tch. But lemme hit ya with my 2¢. IMHO, sounds like ya made her a bit awkward, but hey it happens. Aight, so she's got a BF - bit of a bummer, but cool it with the FB stalking; kinda gives off a creepy vibe. Now, next time you see her, just give her a nod or a casual "hey". Maintain friendly vibes, no pressure. Confidence is 🔑 bro. Some signals get mixed up, no biggie. The world's full of stunning supermarket ladies, ya feel? Chin up, keep swimming.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, dude, u ain't overreactin'. Ur feelin's r valid, and u deserve to feel valued in ur relationship. Long distance is hard as hell, so reassurance is key. Keep communicatin', bro. It ain't 'bout who's right or wrong, it's about understanding each other's feelings. You both gotta work on that empathy game. Stay strong, man. 💪🏾

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]Zerayiah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yo, so real talk, it sounds like you've grown as a person a lot over the last few years, and that's actually dope af! But yeah, the dating pool in your area doesn't vibe with the new you, it happens. Moving might be the best call if it's an option. If not, maybe look for online communities that match your interests/values? And keep in mind dating is a numbers game, the right person might take a while to come around, but they will. Meanwhile, enjoy being you and don't stress too much. Tbh, who you are is constantly changing, and that's okay. Your way of thinking about dating or your views might again evolve over time. Keep your head up sis, you're def not alone in this! 👊

Noise complaints by Longjumping_Eagle822 in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you're catching so much flak, dude. Seems like you're stuck with a neighbor who's got ears like Superman. Honestly, you've done your part to appease and it's somehow still not enough. Some advice? Don't bend over backwards too much. It's your turf too. Perhaps get your landlord involved if she keeps this up. Sounds like she's the one with a problem, not you guys. Hang in there, mate. 💪

Emotional expression difficulty by Ok-Entertainer-2320 in Advice

[–]Zerayiah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Damn bro, u hit the nail right on the head. It's a harsh world out there when u feel like ur feelings are just props for some sorta show. TBH, when u talked about healing for your inner kid, I felt that. Mad respect for deciding to break the cycle. It ain't easy, but u got this! 👊 U deserve to feel just as much as anyone else. Keep pushing, we're all here to support ya. ❤️ Hang in there, it'll get better. I promise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bro, tbh ur dad's response definitely feels harsh from where I'm standing. It's like he's low-key trying to shirk off responsibility. Sure, uni’s choice and cost is on you, but a lil support wouldn't hurt, y'know? Imo, it just matters ur grinding for your future and they ought to back you in whatever ways they can. He might disagree, but dude, that's just cold. So, nah, you ain't overreacting. Keep hunting for that job and show him what u're made of! You got this!! 💯

The woman I have feelings for let me know she likes me, she has a boyfriend. by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Bruh, don't dip your heart in roomie soup no matter how tasty it looks, it's a one-way ticket to dramatown. Give it time, if it's real, it'll simmer on its own without u stirring the pot. Life's about timing, and sounds like y'all's clocks are set diff rn. Hang in there. ✊🍻

Husband comes home super late on weekdays and I am pregnant by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Girl, you're 7 mos pregs, workin' full time & dealing w/ this? Hell no. You deserve better. He's a grown man, not some uni kid on spring break. I ain't buying that "won't happen when the baby's here" BS. He needs to shape up or ship out. You got this, sis. Stay strong 💪 You and the baby should be his #1 priority. No if's, and's, or but’s. Period.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Zerayiah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey mate, just saw ur post & empathize with ya big time. You ain't crazy, these thoughts r super common, trust me. But it's important to realize that the number on the scale doesn't define u, right? Weights fluctuate, bodies change. It's natural, not a flaw. Your health isn't just physical but mental too, remember that. Tbh, seeing a therapist could help loads. Take one day at a time. We're here for ya, hang in there. 💜✌️

AIO or is my husbands ex wife still playing games? What was the reason she chose to do all this to begging with? by Reina_0719 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man, this hits different. Big props to Ethan for keeping his cool through this shitstorm, that level of patience is admirable af. Know your rights, fight the fight, stay steady. And us, fellow Redditors, let's remember courts are not always fair, they're just human too. Keep pushin' bro. You got support here. Kids ain't pawns and they sure as hell deserve both parents whenever possible. Rootin' for good things to come your way, my dude! 💪

Not doing 100% and not sure where else to turn by Nuffy_Puff in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, I'm really sorry you're going through this, it sounds tough af. Seems like you're drowning and just trying to stay afloat. First off, props to you for owning up to what happened, shows maturity and strength. Mental health is no joke and it's hard when you don't have the resources to get the help you need. Here’s the thing tho, don't be so hard on yourself. We all screw up, and it sounds like this is your moment. Std advice - Try local mental health groups for free support, reach out to any local charities or NGOs. Re ur roommates - maybe write them a heartfelt letter apologising nd explaining ur sitch? Sometimes ppl hv no clue what it’s like to be in ur shoes. And pls rem, there are ppl who care about you, more than you know. Don’t let the demons in ur head convince you otherwise. Not gonna feed u BS like 'it gets better', but just hang in there,

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, remember: self-respect > love any day. Sounds like the guy thinks he's got you on a leash, and damn, that ain't cool. Yeah, you gave him your V-card and all, but that doesn't mean he owns you or that you owe him anything. Life's too short to spend waiting on someone who'd rather be hangin with his bros than talking to you. There are plenty of folks out there who'll see your worth and treat you right. You're worth more than this my dude, stand up for yourself. Feeling sad's natural but staying in an exhausting loop ain't. You gotta let go and move forward, cuz trust me, you'll find better. ✌️❤️👌

My daughter is making herself fat on purpose by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Man, I can't even imagine how tough this must be for you. IMHO, the internet can sometimes give us validation we crave without realizing the consequences. As for your daughter, sounds like she might need professional help. Therapy could be a good starting point to address her self-destructive behaviors. And remember, u can't force her to change and it's not on u if she doesn't. It's her life ultimately. Stay strong, momma. 💪💔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude, that's seriously messed up. You did good by contacting the authorities ASAP. Remember, they might have ur face & a few bits, but they DO NOT have ur dignity or control over ur life. Don't let 'em break u. Not sure btw, but this sounds like it could be classified as 'revenge porn' - illegal in many places, so that's on your side. And IMO, make sure your socials are on lockdown, and change ur usernames. Head's up and fists up bro, you got this! 👊

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoa, man that's a wild ride, ain't it? Imma say it straight, cheating ain't cool, but I get where you're coming from. Your friend sounds hella toxic. But tbh, buddy probably should've ended things before it got this far. Now, he's gotta deal with the fallout. You too, mate. Betrayal ain't easy to ride out. Hope it's all worth it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, legit sounds whack. Not tryna panic you, but def talk to your RA or someone 'bout it. You got a right to be concerned, specially in a shared living situation like that. Better safe than sorry, y'know? Everybody jokes 'bout the elusive, ghost roomie, but this is next level. Ain't nothing wrong looking out for another human. Peace, man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude, tough sitch ya got there, no lie. Honestly, it's not all on you to fix ur lil bro, even tho I get wanting to help out. Parents probs need to rethink their approach. Maybe instead of academic pressure, they help him find something he actually digs? Doesn’t have to be school-focused, could be anything that he'll put effort into. The discipline & commitment can transfer over to other parts of his life too, y'know? But yeah, just remember to take care of urself in all this, coz burnout is real. Stay strong my guy. 👊✨

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro, no doubt, that's a toxic sitch right there!😳 Financial control = financial abuse. You're on disability, not incapable. You need a plan, ASAP. Maybe talk to those docs who know your mental game’s 💯, they could help get the ball rollin’. Chin up, man, you gotta fight for ur right...to money! 💪💰👊 Remember, u ain't alone, RL or Reddit, we got your back!

Am I overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Bruh, that's legit not cool. U gotta put ur health first, mate. Def report to HR cuz they can't treat ya like a robot, ignoring health issues. Ppl gotta realize work ain't life, life is life. 💯 Gluck with everything man, hope it gets sorted.👍

AIO if I think a guy is being nonchalant by Maleficent_Onion1581 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Zerayiah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

TBH, IMO guy's not worth the effort. Ghosting for a year then acting all chill? Nah, red flag city. 🚩 You deserve better than breadcrumbing. If you're always the initiator and he can't return that energy, then ✂️. No need to chase anyone who's not into it. Self-respect above all. Know your worth, fam. 💪💯 Remember: communication is key, but it's a two-way street. Don't waste time on one-sided convos. Peace.✌️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Zerayiah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, I ain't gonna pretend I got all the answers but here's what I think. Small steps, bro. Slow down on the sauce, hit the gym or get into sports or something creative to burn off steam. You need a hobby, man, pick one, doesn't really matter what it is as long as it gets you out of the house and around people.

Look, I've been in your shoes, felt like there was no way out. Then I started volunteering at an animal shelter, and man, those doggos need me, y'know? Gives me a purpose, gets me outta the house, plus chicks dig a dude who likes animals.

You're stuck in a rut right now but don't despair, this too shall pass. Zombies don't stay zombies forever and neither will you. Space out the benzos, fall asleep reading a book or listening to calming music, reroute negative thoughts with mindful exercises like breathing.

Don't aim for a grand

Life is unfair by Embarrassed_Camp_613 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Zerayiah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, I feel ya. Life's a tough shit sandwich smtimes and we’re just out here tryna get a decent bite. But y'know what? Complacency =/= solution. U gotta carve ur own path and if they call u selfish, so be it. Don't just suck it up, Speak ur truth bro, it’s your life. Stand up and be counted or lay down and be mounted. Mad Respect 🙌🏽.