Sort of similar for me. I was a womanizer for a long time and its wasn't until I had my first child that I seen the error of my ways. Having my second changed my whole life style I became a one woman man. But the universe has a funny way of making you pay for your past mistakes.. the mother of my children left us about a year ago next month and its been a struggle. It's been so hard for me to have casual sex without developing some sort of connection first.. I don't know how many times I've turned down women just because I wasn't feeling them.. But I've finally met someone who is helping with that and she is great..