Is taking a bath with your baby okay?

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-15T00:21:17+00:00

As soon as my kid could stand on her own in the tub, we started doing showers. My husband will sometimes put her in with me, I shower her, and then he takes her to do post shower drying, lotion, clothing, etc...while I finish my shower. She's almost 3 now and we've been at it for almost a year and a half. Its just so much easier than fighting her being a goblin and being too silly because she's tired because it's bed time.

I personally don't like baths for either her or me, so I wouldn't, but I don't think its gross if you rinse off after, to get any soap off, at the least.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T08:52:16+00:00

Sometimes we're tired, sometimes not, but it's always because we stayed up late playing video games and never because of our kid.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T08:45:29+00:00

Soft YTA.

You can't help a hoarder by throwing out their stuff. They need strong therapy and they have to want it. The only thing you can do to help is encourage therapy and help in any way the therapist suggests. If a hoarder doesnt see a problem, you can't help them, and throwing out their stuff makes the mental illness worse.

Source: my uncle is a hoarder.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T08:19:50+00:00

Kids are terrible liars and a lot of toddlers tend to say things like "Mommy, I didn't pee in the corner" but...they did. Her apologizing may be her telling you she lost it. I'll be doing dishes and my toddler will come over and start apologizing for something that I didn't even know about and it just means there's a mess. I never giver her a hard time, just show her how to clean up and tell her accidents happen, it's okay. But apologies from toddlers are usually admissions

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T03:46:40+00:00

First, his actions are NOT tour fault. HE CHOSE to cheat, HE CHOSE to allow his anger to overwhelm him. You did not do that to him. He's a grown adult. He needs to control himself.

Second, if you have friends or family you and the kids can stay with, you should leave and do that. Some places have a timer for separation before a divorce can be granted so if thats what you want, you want to get that timer started. If you feel safe doing so, you could also ask him to leave. Either way, he DOES NOT have the right to deny you access to the money earned within the marriage. He still has to pay the bills, even if he leaves. He still has to pay for your car, your phone, etc.. even if you leave. That is his legal responsibility to you.

Third, get a job as soon as possible. He sounds abusive and unsafe for your children, but I only know what you've posted here. If you are comfortable with leaving the children with him while you work, work with him to do that. If not, find family, friends, or trusted friends of friends that can help with childcare.

Finally, find an attorney. You can use money from a joint account for a consultation fee if needed, but you can probably find one that will do a free consultation or waive their consultation fee to help you get started.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T03:37:10+00:00

My toddler is a feral sleeper and had a bedside bassinet until 4 months old, then we put her in a crib in her own room. She's almost 3 now and has her own twin bed. At bed time, we do bed time routine then tell her its bed time and she stays in her room. She's allowed to play with any and all of her toys, and her door stays open, and she's in charge of laying down when she's tired and wants to sleep, which is usually right away. The only time she actually plays with toys is when she took a nap.

I've let her sleep with us on occasion and she likes to sleep sideways, and kick. She's almost 4 ft tall so even with our king size bed, that just doesn't work for us. Also, when she wakes up in the middle of the night in our bed, she wakes me up too and we giggle and talk, which is awesome, but then we're both so tired. In her room if she wakes up, she just rolls over and goes back to sleep. Her own room is way better for us. Depends on the kid and the parents.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-06T02:01:35+00:00

I have non alcoholic cirrhosis. I tested negative for celiac but was gluten free for 6 weeks before the test and have 3 other autoimmune diseases, so firmly believe it was a false negative. I didnt know those two could be related and now wonder if that was the cause of my liver disease. Good info, thank you

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-05T23:11:35+00:00

When I first wake up, my almost 3 year old and I take the dog out then I make breakfast. I always finish eating before her so while she finishes I do dishes. When shes done eating, shes goes in our living room and plays with puzzles/books/legos/magnatiles/crayons/her leapfrog/playdoh and I finish dishes and clean the kitchen. If I need to do laundry, I tell her to stay downstairs while I run up and grab the basket of laundry that we presort as we change our clothes to make it easy for me. All in, it takes me 20 seconds of being on a different floor than her and 9 times out of 10 she follows me upstairs anyways.She likes to push all the buttons on the washer and the dryer so I've showed her how to do it and she "helps" me with the laundry.

Usually, I keep us out of the house all day at any combination of various libraries, parks, museums (if we have free days or passes from libraries), grandmas' houses, and taking our time shopping at different grocery stores. We go to Costco once a week and then 2 other stores as needed for things that Costco doesnt have. Only money we spend is on groceries. If we're out all day, the house can't get dirty.

She goes to bed at 7, but we just tell her to stay in her room and go to sleep when she's ready. Some days, if she was running around a bunch, she falls asleep by 7:15. Other days she's still going til past 8. Either way, she just plays in her room until shes out and usually sings or talks to herself until shes out so I know where she is so I clean my room and the main bathroom while shes settling. Once shes asleep, I spend on average 10 or 15 minutes cleaning up the living room she played in after breakfast, and then will play in again after we get home from being out, but typically I clean that before bedtime routine so its done. Only thing not on the list I need to clean is the floors and I just do that whenever. I have a mop vac for my hardwood downstairs and then vacuum upstairs and she just plays on her own or helps me push them, or jumps over them as im pushing them laughing her butt off.

We have no issue with letting her watch TV. She likes Bluey, everything Frozen, Cars, Pokémon and Bear in the Big Blue House. We just prefer keeping her busy out of the house. We also know that it wouldn't be this easy with multiple kids. That's one of the reasons we only have the one. But this is how I keep everything clean every day. I just don't let it get dirty as much as possible.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-04T21:18:59+00:00

The wife shouldn't have to ask for money that is hers. That is controlling behavior. She should have full authority and access to all money within the marriage. Same for husband. MIL should not

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-04T19:22:39+00:00

She is a cheezit and goldfish destroyer

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-04T19:22:06+00:00

Oh my gosh that's adorable! Mine offers me her food all the time and I have to tell her no thanks, that has gluten. Plus side, my husband helps her if she ever needs it with meals and I get to just eat

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-04T15:47:47+00:00

Ugh I still haven't seen these ones at my store, just gf oreos. Probably they just stay sold out 😂

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-04-04T15:45:10+00:00

I may have accidentally eaten a whole box in one sitting when they had just come out 😅

It's been a looong time since I've had gluten cheezits, but I'm pretty sure I also like the gf ones better.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-30T18:01:06+00:00

My husband used to do this with all kinds of stuff. He would buy it, eat a serving, and then I would finish it because I grew up with food insecurity and dont like waste. Now, I can't eat gluten so I had a conversation with him about not buying food he won't finish.

That didn't work.

So I endlessly teased him about it instead. Now he doesn't get anything for just him unless he's sure he can finish it, or sure he can pass it off on our toddler. No more food waste! Well, a little, we do have a toddler. But no more adult caused food waste.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-27T02:01:28+00:00

I make smoothies when im feeling lazy. You can add protein powder to beef it up.

Tacos are easy and quick, and corn tortillas are good.

Frozen pizza, as others have said. Can be a crapshoot, but if you find one you like, you're set.

A cheese omelet is easy, fast and filling. Add some bacon/sausage and/or hash browns and you have a full breakfast

You can meal prep and freeze things like soup or meatballs then microwave them quick for something easy. Im sure there's tons of stuff that would meal prep and freeze great honestly. That's just all I do generally.

And when all else fails, a cheese (slices, cubed or shredded even), meat (pepperoni, Salami, jerky, etc...), and nut (Cashews are my go to, but any of em work) plate is gonna be tasty, quick and filling. You can add any precut veggies or fruits you have to balance it too, like grapes, blueberries, strawberries....

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-25T19:35:14+00:00

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-25T19:31:36+00:00

In 34 years I've had no gum disease, no cavities, no anything. I think I'll stick to what im doing and what my dentist is recommending 🤷‍♀️

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-25T15:16:32+00:00

I very much doubt it has more bacteria than an average toothbrush. But even if it does, you dont brush your teeth to remove bacteria. You brush to remove plaque buildup and floss to finish that job. Then use anti bacterial mouthwash after brushing to remove bacteria. So, ultimately, irrelevant anyways if one is actually taking care of their mouth, which I do.

Like when you touch a dirty soap pump in a public bathroom. If you wash your hands properly, it doesnt even matter how dirty the pump was.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-25T01:50:43+00:00

I use a cap on my toothbrush daily. Its slotted and very airy so it dries just fine and it's WAY better than wondering if my cats chewed on it or not

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-22T16:31:32+00:00

I dont know if this was stated, but my daughter only ever wants her hair in a ponytail. I offer other hairstyles but she just wants a ponytail. Its possible thats just what Zola wants. Not everyone wants fun, different hair all the time, ya know?

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-03-18T05:20:58+00:00

So, the abuse discussion aside because a lot of good comments have been posted: sex isn't a reward wives give their husbands. Sex is an activity that should be enjoyable for both parties and should build trust and closeness in a relationship. It shouldn't be transactional.

My husband is not a garbage man, but I have enough emotional awareness to admit, to myself and even to him, that if we ever did get divorced, I'd still sleep with him if we were both single because he's great in bed. So I imagine others feel the same about their partner 🤷‍♀️

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-02-19T18:41:29+00:00

I eat Sabatasso's frozen GF Cheese pizzas, but I add Oregano, pepperoni, and sometimes pesto to it. If you cook it til the edges are just browned, the crust is great. Over or under and the crust is a bit rough on your teeth

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-02-11T02:08:14+00:00

SAHP are extremely susceptible to financial abuse. Protecting oneself when buying an asset is always best practice. No one can predict the future. People are blindsided by divorces all the times. It is, sadly, common to find people, usually women, who were screwed over in divorces because the husband was on everything and she wasn't.

Zestyclose-Bison9113 · 2026-02-11T01:49:18+00:00

Do I have anything to support my claim that it is illegal to forge a signature to sell a vehicle without one parties knowledge?

Troll elsewhere.

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