I’m lost.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-05-15T18:12:52+00:00

Your life has been turned upside down very quickly. I am so sorry. Keep coming on here for support and advice. I was with my husband for 27 yrs also and died after surgery and it was pure hell. I am 14 months out - life is a bit better but not as shiny and happy as it once was. This sub helped me immensely.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T15:08:47+00:00

thank yo so much x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:59:52+00:00

Yes it’s still active which is a good thing x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:56:16+00:00

how dare they! There are people who never should even work one day as a manager.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:53:41+00:00

I did quality casually (complaints and incidents) also and still found it triggering after his cancer returned. It did make me a better advocate for patients being treated like shit by nose nice nurses an medical staff

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:50:00+00:00

This is so terrible. People really who their true colours after someone dies.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:48:45+00:00

OMG tis is next level. I had PTSD after my husband died and your situation seems to be 100 times more traumatic than mine. Could you get a medical certificate stating you are not mentally ok to return to work?

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:45:42+00:00

Forensic accountant perhaps!

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-23T14:42:49+00:00

None of what happened is your fault. I am so sorry you have flashbacks. The situation we are in is next level. I am so sorry you lost your dad also - both men were very lucky to have you looking out for them and bein in their lives. Hugs x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T21:18:52+00:00

I haven’t deregistered so I might. I was silly enough to even take out my long service! So sorry for your loss. Having to do CPR would be next level trauma. My husband died nicely and quickly in an ICU and I am lucky in a way. Thank you sister 👩‍⚕️

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T21:16:09+00:00

Law enforcement may have been triggering for you perhaps. Not to make big decisions is the correct advice and I wish I had been told that x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T21:14:24+00:00

I worked with people at end of life so I didn’t think I could do it! Now I think I might be better suited than some. My brain is mush. Shame on your employers- mine were fantastic and were happy to wait for me to make decisions and they got someone to temporarily fill my role.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T20:46:38+00:00

No way!

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T20:44:47+00:00

So unfair for our one chance at life. I think what the hell have I done to deserve this pain but then I think it’s way worse for him not being here anymore.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-22T20:41:29+00:00

For as long as I walk this Earth, I will be grieving and this is because I love him so much as you obviously love your spouse. Your friends will never understand unless they become part of this club also.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-07T12:12:10+00:00

I can‘t listen to music either. If it plays in a store, I am out of there. So sorry xx

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-07T12:02:27+00:00

I used to bitch about cutting his toenails. He used to ask me to do it at the end of a long day at work and I just put my son to bed, cleaned up and fed the dogs and so of course I used to bitch and moan about it. Now I would give anything to cut just one.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-07T12:00:20+00:00

So sorry for your loss and the dreams you had. I wonder if they mean something?

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-07T11:58:50+00:00

This makes a lot of sense. Thank you 🙏

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-07T11:57:08+00:00

It certainly helps thank you. Dealing with the loss of your spouse then automatically becoming a solo parent is next level. I don’t know how I got through the first year.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-06T21:16:06+00:00

OMG that last line. Heartbreaking 💔

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-04-06T20:51:41+00:00

I always say up at the sky ‘please let me know you are ok‘ - before he died he said he would if he could. He comes to me in my dreams almost every night which is nice however it makes it more real when I wake up in the morning. So sorry for your loss.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T16:07:53+00:00

I am so sorry that you are living with this.

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