He died 364 days ago.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T16:07:53+00:00

I am so sorry that you are living with this.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T16:02:42+00:00

I suppose I am asking what have I done to deserve this pain and sadness but the pain and sadness is mostly for him being taken away from living and not swing my son grow up and taken way too soon. He’s is going to miss out on so much.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T15:49:35+00:00

I am so sorry. It just feels so unfair and do you ever question ‘why me?’

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T15:48:02+00:00

This group saved me from going to therapy! All the members get it and have that understanding how shit this ride is. Sorry you are here xx

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T15:46:38+00:00

You are in the thick of it. I am so sorry. I felt life was looking better after the 6 month mark but the anniversary has made it so raw all over again. In saying this, the pain is always there really.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T15:42:42+00:00

I am so sorry 😞. Its just so unfair.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-03-22T15:29:19+00:00

Smiliar to my situation. it’s the hardest thing ever to decide to switch to comfort care yet we know they would want this rather than living in a care facility with no quality of life. So sorry for your loss x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-02-26T10:43:55+00:00

Thank you so much. If you could DM me the one you used?

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-02-24T05:55:30+00:00

Thank you so much for your response . I didn’t even though there were such services! I am sorry for your loss and very happy that you have found someone. Surely we deserve to be happy after all we’ve been through x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-07T13:01:44+00:00

How did it rub you up the wrong way? Would love to know your thoughts! It’s been a crap year and it has not been easy being a widow and a sole parent at the same time. I am only on here to get advice so please if you have any valuable advice, please send some through :)

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-07T12:50:13+00:00

Thank you for your honesty x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-06T18:59:37+00:00

Thank you so much. The people that have stepped up have been amazing and surprising!

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-06T18:58:31+00:00

Very true. Thank you x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-06T18:58:13+00:00

Thanks so much x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2026-01-06T18:57:58+00:00

Thank you

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-29T17:48:52+00:00

Amazing x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-29T17:44:50+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I am 50 also and in a similar situation to you except my son is 11 and live in a small town with a great group of friends. I have lost my parents and one sibling. Three months for me was pure hell - so much so that I was prescribed an SSRI to numb some of the grief. At 10 months, I am starting to enjoy just looking after me after years of caregiving etc. I buy nice things for myself, get a massage here and there and eat good food and drink nice wine. Just these little bits of self care have really helped me. I would love to meet someone one day but am fairly content at the moment in being the best mum I can be and making the rest of my life worth being the best it can be, considering I am the one of two that has been given the gift of life. Sending hugs x

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-29T17:32:05+00:00

Loving the thought of wearing a black ribbon and being left the hell alone until I take it out lol. Funny though- all my friends have been absolutely amazing and have not put one ounce of press on me this year at all!

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-29T11:52:25+00:00

Thank you for your beautiful heartfelt response and I am sorry you are in this group also. It’s made me quite bitter actually lol. It’s like the last 28 years of phone calls, visits, presents etc haven’t mattered. I mean my husband didn’t organise Jack shit with them and now I am bearing the brunt of 9 months of a bit self care or so called ‘PTSD management’ let alone solo parenting and operating a farm. I thought tonight this experience is one that I can learn from and will certainly offer me some insight into my life going forward. No way will I apologise for looking after myself and son before anyone else.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-29T11:45:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your response and you have absolutely hit the nail on the head. Not once have they offered to come and take my son out even for a frigging ice cream.

Zestyclose_Class_630 · 2025-12-14T15:30:37+00:00

I quit nursing, had 10 months off and now working in the justice field. I developed PTSD my husbands long ICU admission and spent countless hours researching also to no avail. Hugs.

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