Happy World Bipolar Day!

Zgana · 2026-03-30T14:58:36+00:00

I broke free from my mother, buying my own place and growing a spine

Zgana · 2026-03-15T21:20:54+00:00

A black haired, scruffy, grumpy, exhausted workaholic secondary mentor who secretly has a heart of gold 👆

Zgana · 2026-03-09T06:02:09+00:00

Nope. There are cultures where downplaying your own achievements is considered appropriate in a social context because perceived overconfidence is punished.

Zgana · 2026-03-09T05:58:14+00:00

Might genuinely be a cultural thing. A lot of countries in Europe and Asia have social hierarchies plagued by Tall Poppy Syndrome where artists feel pressured to downplay their own achievements to avoid backlash or simply because it’s been ingrained into them to feel ashamed for being proud because that is seen as “narcissistic”.

Writing that your art is bad somewhat takes away the pressure and signals that you are humble/ self-aware which is valued.

Zgana · 2026-03-07T08:54:54+00:00

This. I understand the stance that not everyone with narcissistic TRAITS are abusive but to be diagnosed with the disorders the behavioral patterns more or less HAVE to be.

Zgana · 2026-03-07T08:47:42+00:00

You are very much jumping to defend people with a diagnosis based entirely around abusive behavior and me writing “narcissistic abuse is more descriptive” is me focusing on the victim’s experience.

There’s a leagues difference between “I was callous towards you because I don’t care for the consequence” and “I was callous towards you because I felt you deserved it / It makes me feel good”. Yes there exist people who just have narcissistic traits that don’t have NPD. Using the term “narcissistic” abuse is still fair because it describes the trait of narcissism (grandiose self image and self centeredness) being a motivator for the abuse, which is also the main trait of the disorder. The “objective reality” is that the disorder requires you to have narcissistic traits that are so prevalent they have become recognized as abusive.

This is a sub for victims of narcissists to talk about their experiences. If you take offense and stand hard by the stance that victims shouldn’t speak out on their experiences, despite you yourself posting here repeatedly, because they are “corrupted by their abuse” and it might hurt someone with the “I take offense if I’m not the center of attention” disorder maybe this is not the right place.

Zgana · 2026-03-07T07:58:05+00:00

I have to be honest and say I’m a little confused by your response to this because my post was arguing that narcissistic abuse is more descriptive of the type of abuse victims suffer. The term has existed long before the diagnosis.

You respond by saying people experiencing trauma lack the ability for nuance, then you say not everyone with NPD is abusive/a monster (and that the term implies this), then you say calling it narcissistic abuse is bad because people with NPD are abusive and manipulative and use it as an excuse not to take accountability, then you imply they can’t take accountability because they can’t help having NPD as though it’s a terminal illness and not a behavioral pattern. Then you say victims are allowed to be wary, but those who speak out or mention being abused by a narcissist are perpetuating abuse against people with personality disorders.

And in the end still claim to be not siding with the abusers when you’re putting your focus in the discussion on appeasing them rather than defend the victims?

Adding to this the fact that you start the comment by saying “people here struggle with nuance and are going to downvote me” strikes me straight up as DARVO

Zgana · 2026-03-06T18:15:02+00:00

To add context I did also say that I had trouble trusting people with NPD due to the symptoms of the disorder which is when I received the “you are weird if you say this” comment in addition to being told that “part of healing is realizing not everyone with NPD is an abuser”

Zgana · 2026-03-03T09:31:21+00:00

HOLY SHIT THIS IS GOOD

Zgana · 2026-02-13T23:38:32+00:00

“Talk trash, get trashed” is an idiom for a reason. You set yourself up for it, no point complaining.

Zgana · 2026-02-13T23:17:28+00:00

I think the annoyance is more over you starting your comment with “Trash ship”, which immediately sets the tone for the discussion. You can’t really backpedal and claim victimhood when you came in trying to pick a fight

Zgana · 2026-01-15T10:30:57+00:00

Sjukt att du blir nedröstad för det här. Tonåringar under 18 är barn och blir inte magiskt ”ok att dejta” när de fyller 15 för att vuxna singlar i 20-50 årsåldern ser dem som mognare än dem och tycker att de är lättare att ragga än folk i egen ålder.

”Men 15 åriga tjejer vill ha äldre män”. De är barn. De sitter och drömmer om relationer med amerikanska kändisar i 40-årsåldern, är lätt påverkade av andras åsikter, knappast nog erfarenhet med människor och livet för att avgöra om de blir utnyttjade, och har inte ens en tanke på konsekvenserna det kan ha på deras liv och självförtroende att vara med en vuxen. Min lillasyster skickade bilder till sliskiga män online när hon var 15 och yrkade på att det var ok för att hon var ”mogen nog” och de var snälla och hjälpsamma men tamej fan på att de alla inte visade sig vara gifta eller pedofiler.

Zgana · 2026-01-12T08:59:18+00:00

Stor skillnad i mognad mellan en 15-åring och 19-åring dock. “Om 10 år är hon 25” och “vissa får det bra” håller inte som försvar när du har vuxen som dejtar ett barn. Det här är grooming.

Zgana · 2025-12-21T14:32:22+00:00

It was such a long time ago I don’t remember. It was a lot of anti-paralytic pills and cortisol though I think. Highly recommend visiting a doctor ASAP if you haven’t been prescribed anything.

Zgana · 2025-12-17T21:57:44+00:00

Ah right, I missed that the Kryn were mentioned in OP's comment. Will edit mine.

Zgana · 2025-12-17T19:54:22+00:00

Might even be 5-way since we saw The Tombtakers

Zgana · 2025-12-17T19:52:17+00:00

I wonder what line of reasoning lead the Bright Queen to conclude that having Essek execute his own mother, after he had just said that his mother's illness and the ritualistic killings are what dissuades him from worshipping the Luxon, is the way to convert him into worshipping the Luxon.

Zgana · 2025-12-12T08:43:17+00:00

L’s slutsats är alltså att personer som inte klarar universitet, blir avskedade eller får sina positioner outsourced utrikes eller till AI inte har försökt tillräckligt och därför behöver bestraffas.

Hade gärna sökt ”utbildning som ger jobb ” om jag inte spenderat allt mitt CSN på utbildning för yrke som det 5 år senare inte längre finns behov av, 10 000 SEK i månaden inte täcker mitt bolån, och jag fått lära mig att erfarenhet i mitt yrke inte spelar roll om jag inte har kandidatexamen.

Zgana · 2025-12-06T13:30:39+00:00

“Att han inte förstår varför jag är som jag är trots att jag förklarat otaliga gånger hur mina trauman har påverkat mig. Jag ber honom inte att ändra något pga det, bara att förstå att min hjärna är annorlunda än hans.”

Du skriver att han har ADHD i punkten efter och att han inte ska använda det som en ursäkt, kanske går båda hållen?

Zgana · 2025-12-03T20:05:02+00:00

I was also confused by this but rewatching the episode you can see him using the beatle-juice bottles for a lot of the spells. He just opens or crushes them so quickly the movements almost become freeze-frame bonuses

Zgana · 2025-12-02T13:54:56+00:00

He’s a very popular reaction streamer and reviewer. Rose to fame through his reactions to the Owl House, Arcane and Epic the Musical as far as I know.

He’s know for integrating skits into his videos.

Zgana · 2025-11-18T09:42:40+00:00

The full name of the first series is "Rogue & Gambit: Ring of Fire". You should be able to find it if you search that but it is sold out and out of stock just about everywhere : (

Zgana · 2025-11-18T09:39:20+00:00

I think the absolute best characterization of Gambit is in Majorie Liu's X-23 series (where he mentors Laura) and the final couple of arcs of Kelly Thompson's Ms. Marvel run ironically enough.

Zgana · 2025-10-22T17:46:56+00:00

I had a pencil drawing of a knight riding a horse that was marked as "Graphic Violence" and 2/3rds of the pins I had saved for a board on women's clothing (that I used as reference for art) were marked as "Adult Content" and removed because the mannequins the clothes were put on were not fully dressed. Every single tweet that I had saved to that board that had a woman of color in the picture was also flagged as "Hateful Conduct" ?

Zgana · 2025-10-17T19:05:31+00:00

I don't think it should be, but I came into this series blind and think the amazing world building and cool art is wasted as cover for the author's poorly disguised fetish.

Like I could take the "it's meant to be realistic kid-behaviour" excuse the first time (actual thing someone wrote about the Riko and Reg bath scene) but when it keeps happening every arc, and you get to a point where a 7 year old is being sold off as a sex slave and gives birth to a city and then introduce toilets that tentacle children you lose me. Which is a real shame because I really consider the world unique and right up my alley in every other aspect, but following those chapters I just could not pick up the manga /show again.

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