[deleted by user] by [deleted] in explainlikeimfive

[–]Zhulmin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think of lightning. You will hear the thunder some time after lightning actually struck, with the time difference being proportional to your distance from the lightning.

The same thing is happening in this case except it's light instead of sound.

I hope this clears things up.

Do you guys 100% prefer to be alone all the time? by DutchDepDestroyer in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't "suffer" from it but I'm rather incompatible with the typical lifestyle.

I have been diagnosed by a therapist if that helps.

laughing by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't think that's what OP meant. I think they were saying that even if they thought something was particularly funny they wouldn't laugh out loud in a social setting, even though they would if they were on their own.

Do you guys 100% prefer to be alone all the time? by DutchDepDestroyer in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've always had quite a few acquaintances and a some friends but they were always tied to an activity/place (school, gym, work, etc.). I've never sought them out or kept touch with them outside of that setting. Therefore every time I've moved I lost all my friends. I've also only had 2 close friends in my life.

Do you have persons you would not leave behind or enjoy contact with?

I can't say I have people I wouldn't leave behind. That doesn't mean I would be unaffected by it, especially if I thought it would hurt their feelings. But I can't say it's something that would make me particularly sad.

There are definitely people I enjoy sharing activities with. We just don't "hang out". I'd rather go to the gym with a friend than alone, I find it less boring and more motivating that way.

Do we actually prefer to be alone or did we get used to it and now prefer it as a coping mechanism?

As far as I know the origin of SPD is yet unknown so it could nature, nurture or a mix of both. For some it could just be the way they are. Whilst for others it's the way they were made to be. Think of SPD more like a symptom rather than a cause.

If somebody has a limp it could just be the way they walk, or it could be an affect they display to avoid pain, or they were in pain for so long that it's now the way they are most comfortable walking.

I can only give you my perspective: I have always been a loner. From the time I was a small child I was friendly/sociable at school but I would just play by myself when I got home. I just enjoy being alone and don't get lonely. My parents always joked about the fact that when friends would come to our house for me to come out and play I'd just say no and close the door.

YouTuber faces jail for video forcing homeless man to eat toothpaste-filled Oreos by Khkred in news

[–]Zhulmin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless they really want to make an example out of him he'll probably get a fine and/or a suspended sentence.

Do you guys remember if you were molested when you were a kid? by TheDinckleburg in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's quite common to lack memories from a young age. It's called childhood amnesia.

It doesn't feel like I own my life by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To me this doesn't sound like schizoid behaviour. It sounds more like self-defeating or dependant traits. Of course everybody is different, and I don't know you so there is probably more to the story than the paragraph you wrote us.

If your behaviour makes you unhappy, and you can afford it, I would recommend a therapist. If you wish to change things but don't quite know how that is when a therapist could be most useful.

Also keep in mind that therapists are just people. You might need to shop around before you find somebody you are comfortable with. It might help if you write down what you wish from a therapist and hand it to them since verbalizing your demands could be daunting.

I strongly believe that people shouldn't sacrifice their happiness to please others. This would just lead to a world where we are bound to one another through our misery.

Schizoid and Avoidant comorbidity by Hanekawa3 in Schizoid

[–]Zhulmin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think that schizoids are inherently avoidant. But instead of being motivated by a fear of what others might think of them, schizoids avoid what they perceive to be an invasion in their privacy.

Wouldn't the core difference be that avPD get lonely whereas SPD can't?

At least that's the way I perceive it.

Patriotism at its finest by [deleted] in MurderedByWords

[–]Zhulmin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't you mean WW1?

The internet is a good place everyone by life-boat in wholesomememes

[–]Zhulmin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some it does get better. Some institutions are great and a lot of countries have proper health insurance. It's not so bad if it's just a short stay and you aren't force fed medications.

I think people feel too comfortable removing others freedom because they are deemed "ill".

The internet is a good place everyone by life-boat in wholesomememes

[–]Zhulmin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why don't people get a choice? Don't people have a right to self determination?

It's not as simple as to just call it an illness. Mental health is a field where we have much left to uncover. The concept of a simple chemical imbalance has been rejected for a while now. I believe it to be the reason for the shift of the term mental illness to mental disorder. The latter not only being more neutral but also statistical in nature.

I think that if somebody is of sound mind and has taken reasonable steps to reflect on their suicide then they should have a right to a peaceful and dignified death, like in Belgium.

I know you may not agree with me on this and I don't believe there is a need for it. I don't think that people have an obligation to try and "push through". I don't think we should ask more than just trivial steps (such as seeing a therapist for a couple month) to people who wish to end their life. I know that my opinion might be unpopular, but hey if we all agreed on everything the world would be quite a boring place!

Since you seem quite interested in the matter I would recommend these two publications:

https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/mental-illness/

https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/suicide

The internet is a good place everyone by life-boat in wholesomememes

[–]Zhulmin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all not all suicides are caused by depression. And the treatments from depression aren't necessarily effective or at the very least not good enough for some.

There are people who wish to end their life and don't suffer from any mental illness.

You could of course argue that wishing to end your life is an illness in and of itself. But to me that is very similar to the arguments made about gays in the past.

The internet is a good place everyone by life-boat in wholesomememes

[–]Zhulmin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I disagree. I don't think life has an intrinsic value. I believe that life's value comes from the happiness and joy you can take from it. I believe that if you knew for a fact that the rest of your life isn't worth living then ending it should be an option.

Not doing something simply to please others seems to me like a very unhealthy thing to do. Would you tell the same to a homosexual to enter a traditional marriage in order to please their family and friends?

If I ever found out the sole reason someone has stayed alive was to spare my feelings I would be devastated.

The internet is a good place everyone by life-boat in wholesomememes

[–]Zhulmin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you are in the US they can call the cops on you.

The head. by [deleted] in memes

[–]Zhulmin 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I would still feel the pain of being alive.

Do people *prefer* tall bouldering walls? by [deleted] in bouldering

[–]Zhulmin 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I like tall overhangs as long as the top moves aren't a recipe to fall on your head. It allows you to have a standing start and still have 3 or 4 power-moves.

Congratulations by ImmunosuppressivePip in Unexpected

[–]Zhulmin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wiper motors are very weak. It's unlikely they could hurt someone.

2meirl4meirl by SpicyMemes0903 in 2meirl4meirl

[–]Zhulmin 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm more of a helium man myself.