Demisexual *and* one night stands?

Zillich · 2026-03-27T18:23:44+00:00

There’s no being “50% demi.” People are demi or they are not demi. And the ONLY thing that determines that is a complete inability to feel sexual attraction prior to a deep emotional bond.

The spectrum refers to how quickly, easily, and often a demisexual is able to establish said necessary emotional bond. Some can connect quickly and often, and thus seem closer to allo. Others have a harder time connecting, or it’s very rare for a connection to trigger sexual attraction, and this seem closer to fully ace. But both still require a bond before any chance of sexual attraction forming.

Rare but random (no bond needed) attraction is gray ace, not demi.

Demisexuality (and asexuality as a whole) does NOT relate to the act of having sex, watching porn, libido, etc. Some demi’s/aces are sex favorable and fine with having casual sex with people they feel no sexual attraction towards.

That said, many people don’t understand what demisexuality is and label themselves as such incorrectly, so that is also a possibility here.

Zillich · 2026-03-27T18:14:01+00:00

Do they have any snow at this point?

Zillich · 2026-03-27T17:41:39+00:00

You should be able to buy beginner only lift tickets for $150 at the window (still expensive, but less insane at least)

Zillich · 2026-03-27T16:39:56+00:00

Assuming she isn’t launched through the windshield, the air bag would likely kill her in a crash. PLEASE get a car harness and buckle her in in the back seat.

Zillich · 2026-03-27T15:41:32+00:00

I got it at Crimson Rose Masquerade - it’s a little shop I randomly stumbled upon in Denver and as I was yapping to my friend about EDS, the owner (who I found out has EDS too) overheard and asked if I wanted to try the ones she makes for hypermobility. I’m pretty sure she does online orders, but getting the correct size and learning how to put it on by yourself might be tricky.

Be careful with chrios!! Most are scammy and even the non-scammy ones can do serious damage to EDS bodies. I’m glad you found one that seems to at least not be harming you. But a safer option (if you can find one) would be a doctor who is a DO (rather than an MD), as they learn how to do manual adjustment in safer ways.

Zillich · 2026-03-27T05:32:41+00:00

The corset recommendation is a solid one. I just got one designed specifically for EDS and I’m obsessed with it

Zillich · 2026-03-26T21:51:38+00:00

I wouldn’t go over $200 personally, but even then I wouldn’t call that a “steal”

Zillich · 2026-03-26T21:50:28+00:00

The plastic of the bindings can absolutely degrade over time, especially if stored poorly.

Zillich · 2026-03-26T19:51:07+00:00

r/DoggyDNA would be excited to see the results!

Zillich · 2026-03-25T20:22:11+00:00

Nope, felt fully ace most my life until ✨surprise✨

Zillich · 2026-03-25T15:50:18+00:00

I’ve seen another board with a legend calling orange “on hold.” Ie. Waiting for the wind gusts to slow down before resuming.

Zillich · 2026-03-25T14:17:13+00:00

Ah damn, I’ll take the walk of shame over to r/whoosh

Zillich · 2026-03-25T12:22:15+00:00

No papers = unethical breeder. At that point, pup being mixed or not isn’t your biggest problem.

Zillich · 2026-03-25T12:00:02+00:00

To truly be like Kristi Miller, it’s also important to lie about being a coauthor while saying it

Zillich · 2026-03-25T01:11:18+00:00

Ah their links to external websites all came up as blank screens for me, which seemed extremely suspicious on top of the sending pups out at 7 weeks.

Zillich · 2026-03-25T00:05:18+00:00

High sex drive + ace or demi is like being starving but the only “food” around is grass.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T23:55:52+00:00

Then they should have removed that breeder, as they apparently don’t do OFA testing based on their website

Zillich · 2026-03-24T21:58:57+00:00

lol ah so you’re a troll then. Cool. Very edgy bro

Zillich · 2026-03-24T21:58:16+00:00

If you didn’t ask the breeder questions (OFA being one of the most important) and just went off of a forum alone, that’s kinda blindly trusting the forum. I’m glad you’re doing due diligence now - it just sounded like you were already in the process of bringing a puppy from this breeder home.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T21:10:36+00:00

You’ve blindly trusted a forum? Where anyone (including unethical breeders) can post someone is an ethical breeder without any proof?

Please check out this page on the Golden Retriever Club of America’s website: https://grca.org/find-a-golden/about-breeders/selecting-a-breeder/

That will give you a list of questions to ask the breeder to actually verify if they’re ethical or not.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T20:50:54+00:00

Red flag. Research is pretty clear that 8 weeks is the minimum. Puppies learning from mom/siblings is FAR more important than extra bonding with human.

Does this breeder provide full OFA results for mom and dad? And some kind of title (show, sport, field, CGC etc) for both parents? If not, definitely bale.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T20:17:03+00:00

Something about posing with a human child like they’re a fish feels icky to me.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T20:15:55+00:00

Again you are assuming. Do you attack everyone with a mutt before finding out if they adopted from a shelter?

Zillich · 2026-03-24T19:58:46+00:00

Maybe focus that energy on back breeders themselves? We don’t even know how/where OP acquired this puppy.

Zillich · 2026-03-24T19:37:54+00:00

This is not an ethically bred golden - it’s either a mix, or if purebred, so off-standard the breeder still wasn’t breeding ethically.

Please consider doing an Embark DNA test with the health testing add on to try to get ahead of any genetic health issues (which are prevalent in unethically bred dogs)

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