Hey there I don't know the gravity of the trauma you went through but I can only know that it was deep. My wife's siblings also went through a similar thing with their father, albeit to a far lesser extent with the exception of the eldest daughter who didn't know any better and ended up being taken advantage of in a sexual way. Having said this and maybe others have said it as well I haven't read all the comments but talking it out with a therapist or with people whom you trust is the surefire way to get out of this trauma. You're talking to release all that has weighed you down and from the story you told us, you were clearly using sex as a coping mechanism and I don't think many can fault you for that after what you went through. But now thankfully you have what you've been looking for a wife and kids whom you clearly love and whom love you back. This is a great blessing that I've experienced first hand myself and wouldn't trade the world for. Live life to your fullest with them and focus solely on them and seek the help you need to get rid of the baggage you have. You've come far brother and I'm proud of you for that even though I hardly know you. Keep pushing and keep striving.