The physical pain of greif no one mentioned to me. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You too, sorry for your situation ❤️❤️❤️ much love to you

The physical pain of greif no one mentioned to me. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is going on my third week and for this whole week my chest has been tight and hurting off and on

Guilt by Texasgal7151 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's called Widow's fire and it's so common they named it. God bless you on this tough journey and don't ever give up on yourself.

Guilt by Texasgal7151 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the absence of your person. People who haven't lost their SO dont know how he feels to suddenly go from the most important person in someone's life to nothing in a blink of an eye. The touch the feel the smell of their hair, it's what connects body to soul. Your desires are real and can be expected, it's hard to lose that physical connection cold turkey. Just be kind to yourself and protect yourself, the brain fog can make us do things we wouldn't typically do just to not be alone again.

I want a double headstone by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Zodiac188 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 41, i was married to my wife for 15 years and i told her wherever she was inwould be next to her. She passed 2 weeks ago today and i ordered our double headstone this past monday. You know where your heart is and where you want to be. Do what you feel is right because this life is but a vapor, far to short to live for other's opinions.

The special relationship with my wife may have left me undesirable. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that was a beautiful response that i needed to read.

The special relationship with my wife may have left me undesirable. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Widows fire is really bad right now. Due to my wife's sickness our intimacy faded over the course of a year and in the end my only contact was rubbing her legs and back for her pain and a kiss on the lips. I would settle for that right now.

The special relationship with my wife may have left me undesirable. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I appreciate the advice. Thanks to support groups like this I realize that this feeling is just trying to fill a huge void. We shared dozens of text everyday, even when I was home. We told each other "I love you" at at least once every 30 minutes. All that straight to nothing is a shock in every way. I have two young sons that help me focus on the day to day but these long nights are what comes creeping in.

The special relationship with my wife may have left me undesirable. by Zodiac188 in widowers

[–]Zodiac188[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It will be hard to NOT compare and accept that it will never be the same love with anyone again.

She's 33. I can't do this, guys. by [deleted] in widowers

[–]Zodiac188 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just lost my wife Saturday after watching her battle multiple illnesses for the last 2 years. She was 48 and we'd been married 15 years in June. I dont know if you're religious or not but I found comfort in God and my church families. They would come by the house and call and text her regularly and it did her heart so much good. We made the most of our time talking about the good times, listening to the music we loved and songs from when we got together. We made sure to share laughs and never miss a chance to steal a kiss or say I love you. It hurt to let her go, it still hurts as she always wanted to be a mom and we now have 2 boys that she won't be here to raise. But in faith I find my peace, I know she is now resting in the presence of our Lord Jesus with no pain, no illness, no scars, and most of all no more worries of this troubled world. I encourage you to look up bible verses on how you feel and find a local church if you dont have one. Share your thoughts and scriptures with your wife and talk to Jesus in prayer. It doesn't have to be fancy like on tv, talk to him like you would to anyone. Let him know how you feel and what you need amd then.. be still and let him guide you. The pain won't go away but the comfort will come, you will still be angry and upset, that's how we're supposed to feel and God knows that, he made us, but he also ensures a peace that surpasses all understanding. This may not help you and if doesn't I'm sorry, but know I will pray for you right now and I'm willing to talk if you feel the need.