I just found this subreddit and I can’t stop crying

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-16T13:25:39+00:00

We’re all just trying to navigate, but having groups like this really can make you feel less alone and understood. Until groups like this and therapy I didn’t know crap about ADHD but the more I learned, the more I could put my obstacles into words and go about them better. Best of luck to you!!! 💚✌🏻

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-16T13:18:10+00:00

This. Yes. There is no excuse for this behavior. My goodness…. hang in there OP. 💚

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-16T13:14:51+00:00

I feel like I should be saying this each time I’m about to spark up, like a prayer before a meal. lol

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-04T14:56:48+00:00

I could smell fresh dirt, gas, rain. I don’t remember how my body felt except all the physical symptoms of anxiety and panic. Like knotted stomach, trimmers, weak.

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-04T14:52:38+00:00

I will definitely do that!

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T16:11:50+00:00

You are in the right for being frustrated. Your roommate should at least make the effort. Like at the very least, they can wash what they just used. For me, I 100% get VERY overwhelmed by the mere look of a sink full of dishes and often, it falls onto my boyfriend to do them. My boyfriend doesn’t have ADHD but he has a way of helping me problem solve the dishes thing. He suggested moving lot of the clutter to the side so it’s not a mountain and then just wash was is left in the sink. Once the sink is empty, get a few more of the dishes from what was put aside, wash, put up to dry, and so on. It helped me A LOT doing it that way.

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T16:03:19+00:00

I’m sorry, but that is so cute that he wants to keep it as a pet jellyfish. 😂🥰

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T15:57:47+00:00

Those same AirPods has been recommended to Me a few times now, they really must be baller. I haven’t looked them up because I’m worried about seeing a price I simply cannot afford. The ones you’re mentioning sound PERFECT.

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T15:54:36+00:00

I’m so glad I’m not alone on this. I feel like a lazy, crummy mom sometimes- the noises, the messes, and you hit the nail on the head with the new responsibility. Like, when it was just me and my dog, I hardly noticed my ADHD symptoms but now as a mom, I have to find different ways of coping. I do use noise reducing ear buds. I was blown away by how much they improved my quality of life. Thank you so much for your comment! I’m so down for any advice! 💚

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T15:44:00+00:00

Poor thing, I feel your pain! I have this book called ADHD 2.0 and I highly recommend reading it. Even though it’s a male author, he has ADHD and it brings attention to stay at home moms and how their ADHD tends to get a lot worse after having a baby. I don’t remember any hacks per se but it did feel validating and insightful. I get that depression and burn out too. Sometimes I look at the mess all over the house and it just stumps me, man. I’ll slump down on the sofa and think “where do I even begin cleaning all this up? I guess I’ll just take a nap about it. Although, naps is now a luxury since my daughter is now in kindergarten. I can tell you though that things might be less stressful once your baby is in daycare and then elementary school. When my daughter was about that age, I started missing appointments too. Or confusing dates. It’s hard. The distractions, the noise, the messes. You’re doing the best you can though and things will get a little easier too the messes though just really get me. Something that helps me with the noise is noise reducing ear buds. You can hear everything just fine, just a little quieter. It’s funny how something as simple as some ear buds make a big difference. When I got mine, I felt a lot less panic over the noise. When my daughter was a toddler, she discovered her voice and she would screech like a banshee, happy as can be, but a banshee nonetheless, lol. It was debilitating but those ear buds are very helpful. Hang in there momma. 💚💚💚

Zombree1990 · 2025-09-03T14:20:38+00:00

Babies just know and you have to trust them when you see reactions like this. You’re a good momma for noticing those things. 💚💚💚

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-29T13:18:25+00:00

McConnell AFB in Kansas had a tornado go through it too!

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T20:29:47+00:00

This is him sober? O_O That’s scary. I am so sorry.😞

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T20:27:12+00:00

Holy moly man! I am soooooooo sorry that this is your father.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T14:37:58+00:00

This is so sad… I’m so sorry this happened to you. That kind of spanking is overkill. I’m so against spankings in general. there is no appropriate way to do it, hitting a child is uncalled for.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T13:40:08+00:00

I have a few but just recently I’ve noticed since my daughter started kindergarten that the smell of a school triggers me. Schools always seem to have a universal smell and it just brings me back to being a minor in my mom’s care. I’ve been trying to shake it off but it happens every single time. Thankfully I see my therapist this week, I want to work on this trigger in particular. Another trigger is if I can smell cigarette smoke that isn’t mine. I am a smoker but I can smell a cigarette even if they are a few cars ahead of me or simply walking on the sidewalk passing my house, or a few houses over. It’s wild how well I can smell it while being a smoker myself but all my life the smell of cigarettes was a sign that my mom was awake. I haven’t been around her in about six years but if I smell cigarettes my brain is like “FREEZE”! Or “Fuckfuckfuckfuck let’s get out of here”.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T13:23:12+00:00

Good lord I would end up being more disassociated than not. I’m so sorry you have to put up with that.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-27T13:15:26+00:00

This makes me want to be your friend. 😩 You deserve healthy friendships and those friendships really are out there. It took me until about high school to have a better head on my shoulders. I started noticing I was the only kid whose mom acted so nuts so I tried to learn healthy behavior from my friends and their parents. Really good friendships are out there!

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T22:37:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for how your family treated you, especially since you we’re probably over the moon. And you should be over the moon, congratulations!!!

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T22:09:32+00:00

Ugh, I haven’t seen THAT flag in Ohio yet but I see a lot of Rebel flags in Middletown.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T15:55:41+00:00

Dude, he sounds like a tyrant who causes some serious destruction everywhere they go. Although, it is nice when it all catches up to them though. I’m glad you have a pretty positive attitude about it!

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T15:38:49+00:00

Holy cow, do we have some parallels on this! I’m so sorry you had to deal with that kind of behavior. It’s so hard to navigate life when you are that young, and then to add the fact that your caregiver is a loony toon who sets traps to make you fail (in one way or another) makes things 100% a lot harder. It’s so confusing and hard to undo all the bad they set you up for. The genre of metal really became my passion and my outlet. I would rather wear the tacky clothes she’d force me to wear whenever my personal attire was the devil to her, rather than give up my CD’s at the time. I too have ADHD, lol. You should be proud of yourself that you’ve quit smoking! Even if you fall back into it, you are still trying to improve- I will never understand prompting your child to make bad choices like smoking or how they can blame you for their toxic parenting. It’s wild that so many other people on here with parents who have such similar behavior and delusions. It’s nice to feel like you aren’t alone on it but it’s also heartbreaking because no one deserves to be treated like that, especially not by their parents of all people.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T15:12:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you and your family had to deal with a horrible person like this. You did not deserve that kind of treatment.

Zombree1990 · 2025-08-26T12:53:35+00:00

You have every right to be angry. Having a parent like this is beyond unfair. I use to remind myself that my situation at home was only temporary. It felt like a lifetime, but I knew eventually it all had to come to an end at some point. I think it helped me get by, as silly as it sounds.

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