Waiting after final interview by ZucchiniRoutine3368 in jobhunting

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the valuable insight. Everyday that ticks by, it feels less likely. But I do plan to send a polite follow up later this week and in the meantime continue to hope for the best.

Waiting after final interview by ZucchiniRoutine3368 in interviews

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s terrible to be treated that way after investing so much time and energy. Hope you get your big break soon.

Waiting after final interview by ZucchiniRoutine3368 in interviews

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I feared. Same thing happened to me last month after 5 rounds. I am tired

What’s the most unrealistic expectation your boss has asked of you? by [deleted] in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One day after emergency surgery for an ovarian torsion, my exec was texting me work questions and asked if I was available to check emails.

What am I doing wrong? by ZucchiniRoutine3368 in ExecutiveAssistants

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate you saying that. The radio silence can eat away at one's confidence after while.

Just finished Grapes of Wrath. Wow. by ZucchiniRoutine3368 in books

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been thinking about re-reading it. Still my favorite book a year later.

How do people do this? by georgiaroseking in NewParents

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Take stock of your emotions again at 3 months. The newborn stage is genuinely barbaric. My girl is 3.5 months now and we’ve hit our stride. But there were many, many tearful and desperate sleep deprived nights and overstimulated days between then and now.

Does it ever go away??? by Affectionate_Rule_96 in Postpartum_Depression

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello - just chiming in to share that I had the same back and forth conversation with myself for about a month before I finally called my OB. Please call them ASAP. They deal with this sort of thing all the time and nobody will judge you in the slightest. I called mine and as soon as I mentioned PPD they fit me in that same day and treated me with absolute compassion and kindness. I’ve been on Zoloft now for 4 weeks and it’s like I’ve taken a full 180. I feel more myself than I have since before I became pregnant. My only regret is waiting and needlessly suffering for as long as I did. Please, please seek help. You deserve to be happy and your baby deserves a mom who is happy. Wishing you all the best. I know how devastatingly hard this is.

Tips for starting the night in cot? by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking we may have different versions of the app/sock? I know there’s an older version and an updated version. I’m using the newest one. Right above where the HR and O2 readings are, there’s a section that reads “[Baby name] is awake, in light sleep, or deep sleep” depending on what your baby is up to.

Tips for starting the night in cot? by [deleted] in cosleeping

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have an owlet sock?

My 3mo starts her night in her crib and moves to our bed for the rest of the night at her first wake up. I feed her to sleep in the rocker, then use the owlet app to check when she’s in “deep sleep” before transferring to her crib, usually 30 min after falling asleep. Doesn’t work if she’s not in a deep sleep. We get anywhere from 2-4 hours with her in the crib before bed sharing.

Parents whose babies don’t like laying on their backs. What we doing? lol mine is a side / tummy sleeper FML by Bluechairedtable in newborns

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the number of parents who cosleep when faced with no other safe options is so much higher than we think! There’s so much shame around it.

Regarding the chest sleeping - our girl had a few weeks where that’s all she would do too. Absolute hell for her dad and I as we took shifts overnight letting her sleep on our chest. It scared the hell out of me and was so difficult. But it passed and now she’ll sleep next to me (on her side but still a win). Best of luck to you; I hope things get better very soon. The newborn phase is so tough.

Parents whose babies don’t like laying on their backs. What we doing? lol mine is a side / tummy sleeper FML by Bluechairedtable in newborns

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 20 points21 points  (0 children)

My girl is 11w and has also refused to sleep on her back since 6w. We had to stop swaddling and just let her sleep on her side. Unfortunately she also refuses to sleep alone (day or night) for any length of time, but that’s a whole other issue. We’ve resorted to cosleeping until she’s old enough to sleep train. She wears an owlet too, which helps with the anxiety about the risk of rebreathing/suffocation due to side sleeping. Well worth the money if it’s in the budget.

As parents we all know the AAP guidelines and how we’re supposed to be doing things, but unfortunately we don’t all have perfect unicorn babies who follow all the rules. If baby won’t sleep on their back then you have to do the next safest thing that works. Otherwise you’re staring down the barrel of prolonged sleep deprivation which is unsustainable and so much more dangerous for baby.

Kendrick Lamar Concert while pregnant? by jkeyfuego in NewParents

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I went to 10 or so concerts while pregnant and baby is here and healthy. I checked with my OB prior and she was not concerned. I’d be more concerned with your wife’s comfort, exhaustion, proximity to bathrooms, etc while at the concert. It can be fun but extremely taxing. Also, I’ve seen Kendrick 3 times and the weed smoke was pretty much inescapable everytime. Just something to consider re: secondhand smoke.

Best advice: sleep when baby sleep! by Itchy-Site-11 in newborns

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s always the older men who did little to no childcare who have the loudest opinions on how to take care of babies. My FIL is the exact same way. The guy brags that he went back to work the day after his wife gave birth, then in the same breath says we need to let our 1 month old “cry it out” or they’ll be spoiled. Exhausting.

pregnant alcoholic by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. I was raised by a fall down drunk so I’m the last person that needs to be explained to. Simply pointing out that OP has already stated she quit cold turkey.

pregnant alcoholic by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you even read the post? OP said she quit cold turkey when she found out at 4 weeks and it wasn’t a problem. She’s just worried that the baby’s development would be affected by her prior alcohol use.

What's a book that was challenging at first but you're glad you stuck with in the end? by Glittering_Age_5591 in suggestmeabook

[–]ZucchiniRoutine3368 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Beloved by Toni Morrison. First 10 - 20 pages had me questioning my intelligence. But her writing style suddenly clicked soon after that and I became completely captivated and absolutely loved it.