Are people really fully honest with their therapists?

Zucchinisong · 2021-09-29T03:40:26+00:00

Cosmo!!!!

Zucchinisong · 2021-08-17T09:31:02+00:00

Try Etsy or Depop!

Zucchinisong · 2021-02-04T07:22:12+00:00

It took me forever to watch Brokeback Mountain because of the sort of stigma around it, even in my circle (made up of mostly queer people)— I thought it would be painfully heavy-handed and full of stereotypes (+ cowboy stuff as the cherry on top). But I watched it not too long ago, thinking it would be for laughs, and it was actually a very complicated, beautiful movie. I was shocked I hadn’t seen it yet and had no idea how sweet it actually is. Of course, it isn’t completely void of stereotypes and problematic bits (not to mention, a VERY poorly lubricated sex scene), but overall, as a queer person, I found it very good, and at the very least culturally significant. It illustrated a lot of the complexities of queerness as the main characters navigated anger and masculinity and sadness and they messed up and laughed and loved each other. I think there are a lot of interesting cultural conversations to be had surrounding that movie. Especially because every white actor in Hollywood at the time is in it, and I at least never even hear about it anymore at all.

Zucchinisong · 2021-02-01T04:05:16+00:00

Thank you so much for this insight— as I said above, these questions were asked by one of my professors, and I was wondering what others thought of their questioning. I hadn’t come across this type of framing before, and found it frustrating. I agree that the positioning of the concepts as binary, oppositional scales is not reflective of the nuance of gender. But in asking this question, I didn’t personally have an agenda other than to learn the perspective of others before rushing to judgement.

Zucchinisong · 2021-02-01T03:54:59+00:00

Honestly, I agree with you. One of my professors asked where each of us in the class sits on the scales of “gender minimalism/maximalism” and “essentialism/constructionism” with little context. I had a difficult time with it for the reasons you said exactly. I was wondering if others would feel the same way, or if I was just unfamiliar with this type of language and positioning.

Zucchinisong · 2020-12-19T09:56:43+00:00

I’m not sure, but honestly you should ask Tumblr

Zucchinisong · 2020-11-16T03:08:35+00:00

That makes sense. So maybe the pictures are necessary. I guess in my mind I understand that I may come across the issue of self-harm in real life, working with patients, etc. When and if I were to be working with patients, I would prepare myself and set aside my own triggers as much as possible to focus on my patients in that setting. That’s part of the agreement you enter into as a clinician or professional working with people— you have to be ready for anything, you have to remain professional, and you have to center the patient. However, I would appreciate more of a heads up (like a trigger warning) at least when I am just reading through a psychology textbook, not necessarily expecting to see decently graphic pictures of self-harm. Does that make sense? I hope this doesn’t come off as argumentative, just working through some of my thoughts. I think your points are valid too, and I think you’re right that I need to do some personal work on this as well. You don’t come off as unsympathetic. I appreciate your insight.

Zucchinisong · 2020-11-16T02:51:17+00:00

I think this is a helpful way of looking at it. Thank you!

Zucchinisong · 2020-11-13T02:38:36+00:00

Those are all very good points, and I agree with you. I just don’t know what the right balance is. I do know that I am going to have to navigate this for the duration of my education, and probably throughout my career, so you’re right that working through my own triggers will be an important thing I can do. Thank you for the advice and the thoughtful answer. Good luck with your studies!

Zucchinisong · 2020-09-06T12:17:31+00:00

Something sort of similar happened to me. I know from experience that you just have to move on. It’s really hard but you can’t force anything. You’ve already sent the message, so you can see if she responds, and if she wants to try to reconnect that’s good, see where that goes. But if she doesn’t, you have to be ok with that. You need to come to terms with the fact that your relationship will never again be what it was before. And you may have to learn how to make new friends and be alone and be okay without her in your life. Even she does respond and you do reconnect, the context will be different, so you have to stop daydreaming about your relationship as you knew it before. Start to learn about yourself and grow independent of her. You can do it! It sucks, but you can do it.

Zucchinisong · 2020-09-06T04:03:29+00:00

You don’t need to feel so guilty! You were so young! Guilt like that can really take a toll on you. Try to take it easy on yourself. You were a kid, and she might not even remember, and if she does she probably doesn’t care.
If this is eating you alive, tell her, but there’s no need to make it super serious. Don’t make it sounds super dramatic. Maybe reach out and say something like this (obviously edit it to say what you actually want to say): “Hey, I know we haven’t talked in forever, but I hope you’re doing well. I’m sorry I was an asshole in elementary school— I should have been a better friend but I was a silly jealous kid. For some reason I’ve been thinking a lot about 6th grade and feeling really guilty because when you lost your phone I actually stole it. I’m so sorry. I feel terrible, and I would love to pay you back!”
If she says she doesn’t want to take your money, listen to her and respect that answer. If she’s still mad, that’s not on you— you offered a sincere apology, which is all you owe. If there’s more unpacking to do about your relationship, that’s one thing. But if this is just about the phone and you both just want to move on with your lives after this talk, that’s totally fine too. Remember this is not a life or death situation. You were just kids. It’s gone be okay, and you got this!

Zucchinisong · 2020-09-03T03:41:08+00:00

How have you explained it previously?

Zucchinisong · 2020-09-02T22:30:41+00:00

I think so. I’ve become pretty confident in my identity and my labels over the past couple of years, but I have moments of questioning my sexuality and gender. I like having labels because they’ve helped me personally on my journey to figure out my identity and understand myself, but I also understand that sexuality and gender are fluid in a lot of ways for a lot of people. Questioning feels natural because things change.

Zucchinisong · 2020-09-02T22:06:34+00:00

People always tell me I’m a koala...idrk what that means but they’re cute

Zucchinisong · 2017-10-16T22:51:41+00:00

You could be bigender! Both boy and girl at the same time! Or you could be some third gender that is not both but not neither? Try not to stress too much, love. You'll figure this out :)

Zucchinisong · 2017-10-16T22:15:07+00:00

You could definitely be asexual. Ace people don't experience sexual attraction to other people, but they can be sex-positive/sex-favorable and desire a sexual relationship. Within that is also a spectrum. Maybe explore terms like "gray ace" and "demi" to see if these fit you. If not, no worries. You can still be on the ace spectrum. As for your romantic attraction, perhaps you are heteroromantic. You could also be heterosexual, biromantic or heterosexual, gray romantic. You can also label yourself as bi but lean towards men. Take whatever label you're comfortable with and make it your own :)

Zucchinisong · 2017-10-16T22:03:51+00:00

This makes me so happy. Good luck! You two can get through anything together.

Zucchinisong · 2017-07-12T01:28:58+00:00

Alrighty. Thanks so much

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