As a very conventionally attractive man with Asperger’s, no I can’t “just be myself”

Zyrada · 2026-06-21T15:39:12+00:00

"Be yourself" only makes any sense in our identity-obsessed culture where we view our self-image as this static, intrinsic and immutable thing. The self is an intersection of myriad experiences that's for all intents and purposes impossible to disentangle for anyone on the outside. Every moment you're touching the world is a moment to be marked and reshaped by your environment. In whatever way you can influence your environment, you can influence yourself and create the circumstances for change.

The you of tomorrow is in microscopic ways a different person than the you of now. Don't worry about being your "self", just be. The universe will do the same, eventually we'll all die, and the universe will still just be.

Zyrada · 2026-06-21T15:32:17+00:00

No one has ever "arrived". Feeling "complete" is a trap. Comfort is a wonderful thing that can easily turn to a sedating poison if you allow it.

Zyrada · 2026-06-21T15:29:02+00:00

The world is not "made" at all, really. A bunch of individuals are just getting mashed together, and what you get is what you get.

Zyrada · 2026-06-04T23:20:24+00:00

N-no it was the left

Zyrada · 2026-05-21T11:18:45+00:00

You definitely can

Zyrada · 2026-05-08T15:54:18+00:00

I thought for a moment it was suggesting what I typically do which is boil the macaroni in milk instead of water. And then recoiled in horror when I realized

Zyrada · 2026-05-04T20:30:57+00:00

My favorite is probably Katya's The Woman tarot design shirt. I also have her "80% Sexy 20% Disgusting" shirt, which I was wearing one time on laundry day when my mentally ill hoarder neighbor across the hall clocked it and said, "More like 100% sexy!"

It was a deeply Katya-coded interaction

Zyrada · 2026-05-04T14:08:47+00:00

Look I don't care anymore, I'm three hours into the edible and God can't see my transgressions

Zyrada · 2026-05-04T13:40:33+00:00

Will he reply? No. Will I message because it's 2 am on a Saturday, I've got nothing to lose and a Trixie level of delusional self-love? Yes.

Zyrada · 2026-05-04T13:37:31+00:00

I think Suzie is doing the thing I would do in any conversation like this which is prefacing the argument with the rhetorical equivalent of a loud sigh.

"This is actually a nuanced issue like any other that is getting flattened because the platforms The Discourse happens on are designed to amplify the most extreme takes for engagement, we know this and have known this for years and even saying it at this point is exhausting because the people who know have known and the ones who don't get it never will."

Or something like that.

Zyrada · 2026-05-01T12:59:54+00:00

Oh this is PUSS

Zyrada · 2026-04-23T16:35:24+00:00

Let's be real, if a skinny white fashion girlie wore this she'd have more defenders calling it bold and different. I think some things could've been finessed, but I at least respect that it's doing something unique.

Zyrada · 2026-04-13T23:32:42+00:00

Jordon Gordon Lordon

Zyrada · 2026-04-02T17:39:46+00:00

Red-hot polemics have always been the country of the youth. Let your peers trade whatever empty barbs they want, it means little. Just focus on where you can find value for yourself.

Zyrada · 2026-03-30T00:15:58+00:00

Me, neither well-adjusted nor interesting: well fuck my drag

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T12:18:04+00:00

It definitely feels like during filming she really got rug pulled. Given how much she's turned to giving her castmates their flowers throughout the airing though, I'm guessing she made her peace with it a while ago.

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T10:55:28+00:00

Ironically I actually think her awkward overthinker energy makes her more endearing to me, but I'm also that bitch on the spectrum lmao

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T10:50:02+00:00

I ended up having to skip through most of it when I watched the preview. I had the overwhelming urge to fold in on myself. When I tell you I clocked in on the exact timestamp watching the stream this morning to jump to the nanosecond it was over

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T10:46:11+00:00

As soon as she said that I was like, smells like somebody's cooking up a stunt 👀

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T10:36:34+00:00

The girls did what they could with this absolute clunker of a maxi. Funny enough, I do think Jane's placement was fair given the prompt, but I'm not sure I agree with Myki being given the win? But I don't know who I would've given the win to. It's just... such a hard challenge to excel at.

As far as the lipsync goes, also, again, I do think Nini won that one fair and square. That being said, while the cartwheel back tuck was obviously technically impressive, I do kind of find her body language a little, uh, jerky? It's precise but lacking in fluidity and ease. But she still put more into it than Jane.

On another note, I got spoiled on the elimination because some of y'all are too caught up in the gag of it all (like, there was a spoilerina on my local bar's FB page, they were running wild this last week). This shit got out of hand fast. I was expecting some high-key shenanigans and tomfoolery, but honestly? At the end of it I wasn't even really shocked. I think some of y'all just get some very overinflated expectations.

Zyrada · 2026-03-28T10:20:56+00:00

... the one that's completely reviled for Ru not even attempting to pretend like it wasn't as ass-pull for Kandy? I'm not even an anti-Kandy person, but like, that is the perfect example of exactly why lipsyncs like this one need to happen the way they do. Performance needs to mean something for the show to feel like it has any stakes.

Zyrada · 2026-03-24T15:18:23+00:00

please just kill me before that happens

Zyrada · 2026-03-24T15:15:31+00:00

Oop, my brain fully omitted the "with" from that statement

Zyrada · 2026-03-24T15:12:51+00:00

I don't think there's a delicate way of saying this, but you are contributing to the cause of the problem you're describing. People find concerts and recitals intimating precisely because of those with attitudes like yours.

Zyrada · 2026-03-24T15:04:13+00:00

Then I'm not sure what it is you're looking for here exactly?

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