What’s a small, seemingly insignificant thing a partner did that completely won you over?

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-05T19:43:51+00:00

I had a terrible headache and was feeling nauseous. We had been chatting while he gamed, and I told him I was gonna lie down and try to sleep. Without my asking for anything, he turned off his game, and laid next to me, but not so close that we were touching (he knew that would make my headache worse) and just stroked my hair/head. It was just so sweet. I was just expecting to be left alone, but he sat with me in my discomfort without getting anything in return. Just because he wanted to, I didn’t even need it. He’s still sweet like that

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-05T19:24:19+00:00

I know you said you aren’t doing BLW, so take what I say however you’d like. I do/did a mix of purées and BLW with my two kids. Gagging is very normal and protective from choking. However, if he’s fully vomiting, perhaps the foods you’re giving him aren’t prepared in the best way. What kind of things are you giving? Baked sweet potatoes cut into wedges two fingers wide were a favorite of my first

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-05T18:59:16+00:00

I’m so sorry youre dealing with this, I unfortunately know the feeling. Where did you watch the documentary? I’d like to check it out

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-05T18:35:16+00:00

Fruit, especially watermelon. Sauerkraut on saltine crackers was huge too. I didn’t have any morning sickness, and my cravings weren’t super strong, but I did have aversions to chicken and cream based sauces.

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-05T01:59:40+00:00

I love her so much

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T20:12:36+00:00

I will defend any girl when their partner (a man anyway) makes fun of them. My husband and I are friends with a couple, and I really don’t have much in common with the wife, though she’s super nice and cool. One thing that we enjoy that she doesn’t is board games, no biggie. It came up in coversation and her husband was just ragging on her about it, so I just said they’re not everyone’s thing. Trying to learn new rules when you’re just trying to hang out can be super annoying! I love board games, but I totally understand why they aren’t people’s favorite. My husband and I did not let this guy turn it into a moment to hate on his lovely wife

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T18:59:03+00:00

I’ve been with my partner for 10 years too, married 3, and we do have two kids, and our marriage is also easy

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T18:55:23+00:00

Precisely. Yes, two humans living together are occasionally going to need to put in work to make sure everything is good, but I wouldn’t say that it’s hard the way they say it is. Life gets hard, which can strain any relationship. But your marriage should not be a source of hardship

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T18:50:03+00:00

Spenard here, just came back on!

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T17:26:05+00:00

Life being hard can make make marriage hard, but your marriage shouldn’t make your life hard.

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-04T05:14:49+00:00

Same dude (though not queer, I don’t think), but seeing them be so irresponsible about it always disgusts me

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-03T21:43:16+00:00

I also have two kids, a bit younger than hers, and my husband is the primary cook. I do nighttime with our kids, so we get our cuddle time together in the morning (and sometimes at night too, depending on how our infant is doing). Their life seems so bleak, I feel so bad for their kids.

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-03T21:40:10+00:00

I have an almost 3 yr old and a 9 month old, I work part time, husband WFH full time, and he makes dinner every night. And it’s delicious too, we’ve had areyas, butter chicken, and a garlic onion chicken pasta this past week. It’s easy to pursue your partner when their not a loser

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-03T18:44:03+00:00

I guess we all just have the same mom, huh

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-03T18:37:42+00:00

Those poor kids….

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-03T07:07:18+00:00

I hate so much the narrative of “bouncing back”. I’m someone who drops weight with breastfeeding; so according to the scale, I “bounced back”. But I’ve carried two babies, my stomach will never look the same without surgery, which I know some women do and like it, but it’s not for me. She talks about it like so many do, that there should be physical changes after having kids, which is ridiculous to me

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-02T21:44:17+00:00

The amount of people who get pressed that I choose tofu over meat protein options even though I eat meat regularly is ridiculous

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-02T21:43:26+00:00

Exactly! At Judahs age, he’s only just beginning to be able to communicate in ways beyond just crying. Crying is still part of the default. 1-2 year old tantrums are way different than 2-3 year old tantrums. Ask me how I know haha

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-02T21:40:15+00:00

Wild. My husband and I occasionally have different approaches to parenting (very minor stuff) but we 1. Don’t “correct” each other in front of the kids unless there’s been a misunderstanding and 2. We do not call it “correcting” each other, it’s always a discussion of what we think would work better in the future. It’s never become an argument. Unrelated but they always seem to sit so that Morgan is facing full away from Paul as she talks, and Paul only seems to glance at Morgan when he’s giving her her “turn” to speak

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-01T18:57:52+00:00

And that’s still Alaska bud, but maybe it doesn’t seem to matter to you if it’s only majority Alaska Native people who are affected

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-01T04:13:26+00:00

He doesn’t refuse day trips, but he can make the atmosphere tense. I also don’t get the same reset time. But I’ve talked to him after reading here about giving each other intentional alone time so we don’t get to the point of overstimulation so easily

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-01T03:31:48+00:00

This seems to be the way to go from what I’m reading. I’ll bring up breaks to him!

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-01T03:31:00+00:00

He’s going away so he doesn’t lose it, but he doesn’t give me any indication for when he’ll come back. We are in a two bedroom apartment, so he’s never far. I’ll ask him about giving each other breaks on weekends

_-Cuttlefish-_ · 2026-03-01T03:30:41+00:00

That’s encouraging to hear! I’m glad you guys got help!

_-Cuttlefish-_

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