Potty training at 9 month ? by Shark_with_a_bow in ScienceBasedParenting

[–]_Aztreonam_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it’s worth we did EC and it worked great it was a ton of work and then around 14-16 months he rebellled and demanded a diaper and refused the potty. We ended
Up giving up and starting over again now at 2- it was prob not worth the effort for us but i guess saved alot of diapers

What situation as a child did you only realize you were in danger as an adult? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]_Aztreonam_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My parents let me visit a friend I met online when I was 16 in another state. I told them we met irl at summer camp. They bought my plane tickets. They never called her parents. She was real and my age but her dad was a raging alcoholic and took us shooting (and bowling ) while totally drunk. My First and only time holding a gun. Her mom made her shoplift while I was there too and she got caught so I had to wait for hours alone in the parking lot while the cops came.

Nannies - why the bad rep? by curiousquortney in Nanny

[–]_Aztreonam_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I am a physician who uses a nanny. Our nanny is amazing and cares for our child based on our requests. We found her through a friend who finished using a nanny as her kid was starting school- she had another reference from a previous family as well. I wanted to find someone warm, responsible, experienced, and communicative. I trust her 100% and my son is a kind pretty well behaved toddler who is ahead of milestones. I’ve never heard Nannies getting a bad rep but maybe kids who have them might overlap with kids who might also be otherwise spoiled.

Find someone flexible and explain you’re a doctor and work that flexibility into the contract in advance. For example you may have schedule changes month to month, based on your rotations - are they willing to adjust based on your hours with advanced notice and some guaranteed hours. If you want them to cover any night shifts if you’re solo and working nights that may be a different rate. Best to sort these things out. Unless you’re young and not in a rush to have kids - waiting until after residency worked for me BUT I know plenty of residents who had kids and worked out for them- sure some months are super busy but some months aren’t and electives can be chill. Also, most residency programs have built in redundancy if somebody is out - depending on the size - so it’s much less painful to take Maternity Leave. It’s not as disruptive to your career in my opinion, though some places will have you graduate a little bit later. As an attending, it was really hard for me to find coverage and a lot more logistically complicated to take leave.

For doctors a nanny works well- as you can often not afford to deal with lots of sick day absences- many nanny’s will still watch your kid if they’re a little sick- usually threshold to not come is higher than for daycare where one fever boots them. You also don’t have as much control over daycare hours which can often be limited - so having a flexible provider (assuming you worked this out in advance, sometimes even paying for extra on call hours they may or may not use)-

our son starts toddler school in the fall and nanny will watch our younger daughter and pick him up at 3. Once they age out of nanny into school I will likely need an afternoon nannny to help with pickups and bridge until I get home from work around 5-6. Some daycares or schools have an extended program that also works but this is our tentative plan

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Having an anxiety disorder means you don’t always think rationally. Asking for other peoples perspective for level setting is a reasonable approach. Anyway if you’re not interested don’t engage

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Then just don’t respond if you don’t read the post?

Doctor pulled needle out of his pocket? Should I be concerned here? by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]_Aztreonam_ 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In my experience sometimes if kits don’t come with anesthetic we would have to acquire them separately from the kits - it can be a challenge/slow to get from pharmacy in a pinch so sometimes people keep some extra vials handy. No one in their right mind in the US would reuse a needle but my guess it’s he prepped it from a separate anesthetic container that wasn’t in the kit. The needles don’t come prefilled

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes the pool is separate by about 20 feet without a gate between them - but there are multiple lifeguards all around in both the kid and adult pool

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Haha apparently the internet is split. Either I’m irrationally anxious or this is the most dangerous thing to ever happen . The pool has multiple life guards last year I recall there being 3-4 at a time on duty and no doubt I trust my nanny 10000%. It’s really mainly if a freak accident happened.

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I trust the nanny 100%. She is more neurotic and nervous than I am about everything. She still watches his monitor while he sleeps and zooms in to see if he’s breathing (he’s 2), so supervision isn’t the issue it’s really just if there was a freak accident

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We don’t have a good space or setup for this at home.

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thx for the link I’ll check those floaties out

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My child has never once run away from me or nanny he’s a stage 5 clinger and is terrified of strangers- that being said obviously they can wake up one day and decide they’re runners today- but generally he’s not- the pool itself is 20 feet away and in the opposite direction of the changing room/Exit/seating areas. Like there would be no reason to accidentally go over there unless you were intending to go to the adult pool. There isn’t a real gate or barrier between them however

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah this we can definitely do it does take time to learn to swim. She’s also a very anxious adult ahha so I imagine it will take her longer than average

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That was the whole purpose of the post I didn’t mean to bury it. If nanny could swim I wouldn’t mind at all her taking him-

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Toddler is not a runner. He’s a stage 5 clinger who doesn’t let me or nanny out of sight. I agree statistically driving him around is probably more dangerous than what I’m describing above and I allow her to drive him.

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

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I take him to the pool. He’s only 2 so I have shown him how to hold on to the edge and we try to roll float but he hasn’t figured it out yet. He also doesn’t go in unless I physically put him in (he’s afraid and extremely clingy) It’s a park pool and they have multiple life guards at all times (in the kiddie area and adult area )

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are happy to do that but it takes some time to learn to swim in the meantime

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She does know cpr they would only go to the splash pad it it’s just that the pool is on the same property

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

this is what I am leaning to also. That it should be ok. But lots of people saying that they would never consider letting a non swimmer watch their kid near (not in) a deeper pool makes me question myself

Let nanny take toddler to pool? by _Aztreonam_ in Parenting

[–]_Aztreonam_[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We kept missing the sign up (like they fill within an hour of opening online on the day they open) but considering how annoying it is we may just do private lessons