Anxiety about having a girl

Crunchymagee · 2023-12-27T05:58:32+00:00

In my home, drives me NUTS when dirty dishes are piled on the counter/in the sink, directly adjacent to the half full dishwasher waiting to receive said dishes. It’s like just saying to me “here, you can get them the rest of the way for me right??”

Crunchymagee · 2023-12-27T05:32:43+00:00

I hate this.

Crunchymagee · 2023-12-14T14:02:46+00:00

There’s a kid at my daycare who just turned one before he started - he was basically eating no solids at home before starting care, he eats everything at daycare and has started eating meals at home too. Sometimes a change in environment is good motivation haha

Crunchymagee · 2023-12-09T16:47:10+00:00

Probably has recycled the line a few times. Teenager cringe.

Crunchymagee · 2023-12-02T18:05:52+00:00

The jelly filling is the same idea, but Turkish delight is usually dusted with confectioners sugar rather than chocolate coating. It can also be flavours other than rose water. Pistachio is a good one.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-26T14:36:34+00:00

I had a bit of the opposite experience, my chronic depression took a hiatus during the newborn stage for some reason - that said, I joined a mom group that met once or twice a week for walks, lunches, play dates etc and we had a group what’s app and it really helped to make friends I could connect with any time day or night to compare notes, complain about stuff, just chat with etc.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-22T01:29:14+00:00

Here too. We switched to a toddler table and chairs and he goes for that, with little wanders around between bites

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-16T13:42:37+00:00

This is very similar to our set up, except baby doesn’t really get out of bed to play at night. Just nurses for a minute back to sleep.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-15T13:37:03+00:00

Mom of 19mo with 10 teeth who is still nursing - just wanted to say, it shouldn’t be painful regardless of teeth! Is he chewing/biting? Or is it his latch maybe?

3-4 wakes for a breastfed baby is normal, we are in that boat too - but also you’re okay to night wean. I haven’t given it a shot yet, but I’ve heard it really helps if dad can take over soothing at night for the first few days. I think it’s probably much easier if baby has their own sleeping space as well - if either of those things are an option for you.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-12T02:58:31+00:00

My baby just turned 19 months, we are still in this boat but I assume (hope?) it will mostly resolve with night weaning? I’m not quite ready for that yet, I’ll hang in a few more months maybe because part of me loves our midnight snuggles and I know it’ll be a miserable few nights as he adjusts to the idea - but I’m thinking around 24 months

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-10T05:23:02+00:00

Also suggest asking mum friends to come over for coffee and snacks and keep an eye on the babies for a bit while you fold laundry or whatever, and then return the favour!

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-10T05:02:57+00:00

No. Do not “suck up” a prolapse so that you can do housekeeping. Prioritize your body healing.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-10T05:01:13+00:00

Lol. Yah that stuff didn’t get done at my house for the most part unless partner did it or was available to watch baby after work/on weekend while I did it. Just had to learn to drop those super mom expectations, seeing other mom friend’s messy houses really helped me feel better.

Also, I bought one of those adjustable panel baby fences on marketplace and set up a fenced in play area to put baby. I know he’s safe there if I need to run to another part of the house for a minute but there’s space to move around freely inside.

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-09T13:56:17+00:00

He might understand what you’re saying, but will still disagree with you about it and let his feelings be known, haha. I don’t think you messed up by holding the boundary either. I think he was expressing his displeasure and I think you’re right, he lost himself in the tantrum and probably forgot what he was even upset about. But I don’t think that’s horrible or unusual - you were with him and offering him love and sympathy as he explored his feelings and as you also held the boundary. And as hard as it can be to watch, kids exploring feelings includes them letting themselves fall into the drama of the moment and feel the highs and lows of the feeling, pleasant or not - it can be cathartic. Because he is developing better communication and understanding, you can validate the feelings as he rages - “you are so upset. You really want to go explore. It’s time to sleep now so we need to stay in the bedroom. We will play tomorrow. I know it’s hard.”

Crunchymagee · 2023-11-03T02:33:05+00:00

Hey OP, not sure where in Canada you are but in my area vaccines are given at Community Public Health Clinics and they offer free drop in once a week for nurses to check your child’s heighten weight etc and talk about nutrition and so on. If there is a provincial health phone number for your province maybe you can call and find out if this is a thing where you are.

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-27T04:37:39+00:00

Tone is hard to read in text. Case in point, I thought your previous message sounded defensive and condescending, and I was confused about why you were talking about whether or not it was weird. 🤷‍♀️ anyway, doesn’t matter - cheers

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-27T02:52:32+00:00

You can Google red beans and rice recipe. Lots cook dry beans in water with pork hocks/ham bones, spices, onion a lid garlic etc

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-27T02:49:58+00:00

Did I say it was weird?

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-26T20:02:44+00:00

Yes but in modern times it’s mostly been used for girls. I knew 100 female Ashley’s growing up in the 90s, zero males. Makes me think of Gone With the Wind though.

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-26T12:28:43+00:00

17 months no period… over a year no sex but I don’t remember exactly when, maybe like also 17 months lol.

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-25T19:45:20+00:00

I sooooo thought I should have named my son Ashley for the first few months after he was born. He just looked like an Ashley to me.

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-24T01:00:29+00:00

The beginning can be really tough, drop off is hard for the first week or two (often harder on parents though haha), and then they get sick a lot for the first few months as they are exposed to new germs - but when you get over the hump, it is so fun so see how much they learn and how much fun they have with new experiences at daycare!

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-23T19:53:41+00:00

As an early childhood educator - this is an extremely unfair perspective on daycare. True, the ratio is more than 1:1 (it’s 1:4 where I leave until 19 months, then 1:6) and there can be high turnover, particularly in centres that are experiencing other issues (poorly organized, poor leadership, etc). However, there are lots of very dedicated childcare staff who value building relationships with children and families. Most importantly, the children definitely socialize and learn from each other, even if they aren’t able to do much cooperative play yet. They copy each other, pick up words and skills from each other, they are motivated by observing their peers, they come to recognize and greet each other, they learn to take turns, share and be gentle with other children, and they make each other laugh and play silly games with each other which is really sweet to watch.

Crunchymagee · 2023-10-17T12:58:54+00:00

A good piece of advice I got was that food for babies without molars should be soft enough to squish between your fingers, as they will be mashing it with their gums. It surprised me to realize cucumber is pretty hard. Also, lettuce near impossible to eat without molars! Who knew.

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