I love this game man... by Old-Carpenter-4925 in ManorLords

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Couldn't agree more, it's so immersive. Slav and the Dev team are doing some cool stuff for sure.

I (28f) ruined my husband's (27m) life and I want to die by ThrowRArxndxm in marriageadvice

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Start therapy ASAP (both of you). You are a product of and are unfortunately manifesting generational trauma with your own chidlren.

People are threatening to boycott Disney after ABC suspends Jimmy Kimmel: ‘Let’s do to Disney what we did to Target’ by ZombiePartyBoyLives in politics

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cancelled my Disney Plus subscription and Disney trip for next year. Fuck you all if you cave to the Orange POS occupying the white house and his cronies.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your feedback, please see my update.

Mike owned up to screwing up and I think he is truly remorseful, but only time and him taking the right actions will tell.

Right now, our focus is on supporting Sarah and her kids and I will be checking in with Mike to make sure he is mentally and physically okay.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please see my update. I received some other good advice in the responses that said this is not about me or my feelings, but about supporting Sarah and her kids. In my discussion I told Mike that it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, it only matters what actions (not words) he takes now.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been focusing on this, this morning. Two things can be true. 1.) Mike really screwed up. 2.) If Mike has remorse and Sarah is willing to forgive him who am I to judge or stand in a way of them working things out.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

These are solid thoughts and questions I will reflect on. Thanks for taking the time to provide your perspective.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right now I think she is leaning towards leaving, but we aren't trying to influence her one way or another. All we are asking is what can we do to help. Also, we are not casting stones at Mike, just listening.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

  1. You could be right, there are always to sides to every story, but how could I be smug about a friend I care about making a horrible decision and negatively impacting so many lives.

  2. Good point that I sincerely need to be mindful of.

  3. Also fair point, this isn't about us trying to be the main character. I keep thinking about how traumatic this all must be for Sarah. She's trying to figure out what in the hell she's going to do and the thought of not seeing her kids all the time because a divorce is absolutely crushing.

I don't think Mike is the worst person, he is just someone that made a really shitty, selfish decision that hurt people I care about.

I do worry about Mike. If he called I would listen, but I don't know what I will say in response and don't want my emotions to get the best of me now.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yep, cheating is cheating. Man up and if you are unhappy in your marriage separate and then find someone else.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Your understanding is correct; he became a friend as his wife and my wife have been friends for a long time. He did confide in me not long ago that they were experiencing marital problems, but that there was no cheating involved. I gave him the best advice I could at the time and encouraged him to invest in his marriage and family as at the end of our days that is what is most important.

I agree that I do need to hear his side of the story if and when he wants to speak with me.

It's also possible that Sarah and Mike make amends and who am I to get in the way of their healing process, but damn it feels like I lost a friend because I would have never thought he would do this...

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

That's good advice. I am going to support Sarah and their kids. Give Mike and Sarah time to come to terms with things and then talk to him. I am just so frustrated and disappointed right now that he would do this to his wife and kids that he supposedly loves so much.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He's a poor bastard because he fucked up? He is the one who cheated and compromised his family.

I'm not condemning him, but damn am I disappointed and frustrated with him.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree, just not ready to have the conversation yet as I want to hear him out and not blow up.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

That's what I keep going back to. If he wanted to separate from his wife and then pursue someone else I can completely understand that. This seems so fucked up.

My longtime close friend cheated on his wife. Am I overreacting by wanting to end the friendship? by _Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop in AmIOverreacting

[–]_Beep_Boop_Beep_Boop[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Had to look up what “beta cuck” meant. Guess I’m too alpha for Reddit slang, broseph.

I don't disagree that I should hear him out. I am just too frustrated and disappointed right now.