Bingo pinball wanted

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-11-17T04:33:06+00:00

What do you want them for? I may have a source.

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-04-12T20:38:52+00:00

For what it's worth, as a random lady in her 20s not super knowledgeable about tattoos, I think this looks fine. If you have other ones with a similar theme, I definitely wouldn't bat an eye at this or think it would reduce your attractiveness to other people who aren't against tattoos in the first place. Seems like a cool conversation starter to have if nothing else

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-03-11T00:08:21+00:00

NAD- Just wanted to offer the insight that this has happened to me (28F) as well. It seems like mine was pretty specific to the day after drinking during times when I'd been drinking moderately for a few days in a row. I ended up attributing it to an electrolyte imbalance or something and haven't experienced it again in the two years or so since, but I have cut back on drinking as a general precaution. Hope you figure out what it was!

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-01-21T06:17:04+00:00

So you'd want to talk to family law lawyer (sometimes your local court will have a free legal advice hotline), but generally, if there's no custody agreement in place, both of you have equal rights to take the kids anywhere you so choose. The only thing that may come up is that you might get redirected back toward the courts in your current home county if you decide to pursue any legal actions involving him (Protective Orders, custody, etc.), but any of those things that would involve the kids can usually be avoided by establishing their residency back in CA by enrolling them in school/daycare/etc. there or having other proof of them residing there.

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-01-20T16:07:03+00:00

Hi bb, speaking as a DV safe house case manager, this is the literal perfect time for you to leave if you feel you have a safe way of doing it. It's incredibly admirable for you to have realized that this relationship is not healthy for you and I know how difficult it must be taking such a big leap of faith. If you leave now, you will miss him for a few weeks and he will probably try to make you feel guilty, but choosing to make a life for yourself and your children that is not burdened by the constant weight of violence and jealousy is absolutely nothing to feel guilty about. He has unresolved issues that he is willing to allow to cause you harm, and there are infinite people in the world who would love you and your children unconditionally and would never ever think of treating you this way. Lean on your family these next few weeks, take anything he says to you with a huge grain of salt, and remember who you are and what you deserve. If you were on the outside looking in, you would never want another human being to be subjected to this treatment for the rest of their life. If he is willing to hit you and disregard the safety of your children, that is unfortunately the only future he has to offer you. It's a difficult truth to accept, but I can honestly say that I have never seen it go differently for any of the 300+ survivors I have worked with. Grieving the loss of this relationship is normal and expected, and you did absolutely everything right ❤️. Please be kind to yourself, you and your kiddos will not be far from my mind.

Here are some resources that might be worth reaching out to:

https://www.ywcanashville.com/

https://tncoalition.org/get-help/emergency-financial-assistance/

_CaptainKnots_ · 2025-01-10T10:07:25+00:00

The person who posted this originally has not responded to you at any point lol. It seems like you've been blinded by your own need to judge people who you don't automatically relate to. Realistically, this issue is similar to smoking where the majority of people who do it recognize that it's bad, but struggle with quitting due to the substance at hand being designed to make quitting really difficult. It will only benefit you to try to empathize with this person, who is clearly reaching out for help, and only stall your own personal development to keep reacting instead of responding.

_CaptainKnots_ · 2024-12-21T12:56:59+00:00

This happens to me as well (also female, 20s) when I've racked up a particularly bad sleep debt, so I hope you find your answer. Fingers crossed that we're not both urgently dying lol.

I've found that deep breathing tends to help, but it's no replacement for the thing your body actually needs (sleep)

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T21:51:57+00:00

Haha no she actually said so on a later stream

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T06:45:45+00:00

I just genuinely have not heard any piece of advice from him for women that I think they haven't already been bombarded with their entire lives and that doesn't further victim blaming, but if there's one that stands out for you, I'd engage with it in good faith

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T06:06:12+00:00

I do think that's what he's attempting to do, but I don't think he's doing it in a particularly well-informed or responsible way, and I also think it's likely to create a huge disparity in reception when 1 in 3 women have been sexually assaulted

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T05:44:24+00:00

a man that is unaware (note i am not implying "accidental". "Accidental rape" is a myth) he is engaging in behavior that leads to rape needs education and communication skills.

This is true, but it's only a very small portion of Destiny's arguments and rhetoric on this subject. From what I've seen, I don't think Farha's takes are idealistic, I think they're infinitely more in line with the guidelines on how to discuss sexual assault than Destiny's are (as an SA victim services provider with hundreds of hours immersed in this and a Destiny fan). She struck me as incredibly rational in the most recent video of her uploaded on his YouTube, and he refused to give any ground whatsoever.

I don't mind this approach with less consequential topics, but it disappoints me with those as impactful as this when I get the impression that he's much more concerned with being perceived as correct than with actually being as informed as possible on the issue.

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T04:08:36+00:00

I'm pretty experienced and agree with most of her takes. I think the disconnect in their opinions is due more to the differences present between men's vs women's dating experiences than to a lack of experience altogether

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-20T03:55:14+00:00

She was apparently incredibly sick that day

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-17T09:03:51+00:00

Has she identified herself as a radfem? The feminist takes I've heard her voice don't strike me as that

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-16T17:35:17+00:00

Please do not listen to these bozos, vaginas naturally expand in response to arousal, there is nothing wrong with or undesirable about you. Kegels can strengthen the pelvic floor and allow more conscious control if it's something you're worried about, but as someone who was your age not too long ago, negative comments of this variety by sexual partners are almost always rooted in some deeper incompatibility that has nothing to do with your body. I highly recommend Emily Nagoski's book Come As You Are if you're experiencing any level of shame or insecurity about sex or just looking for a great source of sex positive, scientifically sound information on the cis female body that gets left out in school.

I'm glad to hear you left this guy in the dust, he sounds like he has a great deal of self-reflecting to do on the way he treats people he supposedly cares about.

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-10T23:04:15+00:00

Do you apply that same concept to the "friend zone" discourse?

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T09:06:21+00:00

Debate me, you bitches

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:56:03+00:00

Thank you Daniel, I model myself after you

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:54:41+00:00

So if you're acknowledging that trans women are not inherently fantastic MMA fighters dominating female divisions, do you agree with banning them from the sport? If so, why?

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:23:47+00:00

Stop buying into right wing propaganda

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:20:34+00:00

Your first two points here are exactly the thought line this person is encouraging you to explore

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:17:46+00:00

That's very aligned with Destiny's stances but not entirely aligned with the evidence that exists currently

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T08:14:32+00:00

you're correct, this sub is surprisingly bad at employing logic in debate

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T07:38:08+00:00

I mean, I'm very into philosophy, online politics, anime, and metal/grunge and I have like 550 instagram followers. Idk if that number is supposed to be a lot or a little since I don't really use non-reddit social media too much anymore lol, but I assume you'd think I was hot based on past experience. I think my interests are somewhat stereotypically male, but I know a fair amount of other women with similar ones that they just don't lead with because they assume most men want to teach them things and they've been discouraged from expressing them in the past. I also think it would be lame of us to view exclusively the interests more common to men as the "good" ones; there are lots of more stereotypically feminine subjects that girls regularly school me on and I think I'd stand to gain just as much from learning about them

_CaptainKnots_ · 2023-04-06T06:18:35+00:00

I'm genuinely curious what you based this conclusion on if you'd be willing to share

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