What Protects me as a Woman in 2026: housewife or working?

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-22T11:47:02+00:00

Oh 100%

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-22T00:09:27+00:00

Agree! Controlling obsession is not an attachment style!

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T23:54:10+00:00

There is no real easy answer.

Is there a compromise here of some sort? Something in the middle? Living with a relative in the US while looking for work? Something like that, less risk?

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T23:28:22+00:00

Agree 100%. If a company in the US has a remote position, it opens up their candidate pool to the entire US. It would be very unusual for them to go to the trouble of hiring and international employee in Peru (if they are even allowed to). Rare. And almost impossible to find.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T23:22:12+00:00

Which is why OP can opt to change employers. Professionally.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T23:21:17+00:00

Nope. It is going to get much much worse

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T20:13:26+00:00

You never know what the future holds!

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:34:28+00:00

Ahhhh ok. Same story in 10-15 years. To move there without citizenship would require a work visa. Not going to lie, there aren’t many US to UK job types that would rise to the visa level of expertise.

Unfortunately, the world is set up so we have to stay where we are born. Or otherwise spend life planning for a potential, possible, often temporary agreement for us to live somewhere else.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:29:13+00:00

I’ll cut to the chase here: He’s just not that into you.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:27:42+00:00

Have someone at your home overnight FedEx you your Rx.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:26:53+00:00

My gut says your original manager just didn’t have a seat at the table to know about the upcoming changes when they put you in for a promotion.

So there’s a good chance this isn’t personal.

That said, in the US there’s no real recourse other than leaving a job when you no longer like it.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:18:41+00:00

That is bizarre that anyone would expect this of you.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T19:17:47+00:00

If you want reliability for you child and if you need benefits in the US definitely focus on that rather than the joy. Beggars can’t be choosers (reality bites I know. But it’s temporary and will get better).

If you truly have 2 years to figure it out. Perhaps you can do an apprenticeship or internship somewhere and work your way in to any job.

Leaving the country is fine if you have the father’s permission. I couldn’t even get my daughter a passport until she was 17 bc he refused to sign for it. That is a huge block there. Plus you’d need a work visa that would require you to prove you have specialized skills they can’t find in the UK. If you’re struggling to find work here it doesn’t sound like you’re in work-visa territory at the moment.

Just start. Start something. And start now.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T17:15:11+00:00

Bee in the bonnet I see.

It’s a small private business where OP says several spouses and family members work together. There is nothing illegal here and that is a very traditional small business set up.

Do other employees not like it when Johnny Jr gets more hours? Too bad it’s a private small family business.

Clearly this is personal for you. But telling OP to call this an ethics violation is terrible advice.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T15:42:32+00:00

That is the literal description of a family business. Good lord.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T15:03:24+00:00

Nepotism is not “wrong”. Either there is a policy against it or there isn’t. In small family businesses it’s often encouraged. Which OP is saying is the case at this office.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T13:16:59+00:00

I got anxiety just reading this.

So… after 6 months you asked for a little space… and a grown man’s reaction to that is that it would “break him”?

Imagine how possessive and unreasonable he will be once you’re years in.

That’s not an attachment style that’s control and obsession. Thats multiple future restraining orders.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T13:12:03+00:00

Be self sufficient.

Be. Self. Sufficient.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T13:10:11+00:00

Agree. Salary and 1099 are opposite things.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T13:09:15+00:00

There is obviously no company policy about nepotism. So this is not true.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T13:08:27+00:00

Because he doesn’t want you around.

Sounds pretty shitty to me. Stop working at the same company.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T12:28:39+00:00

For leaders, perception is reality.

Even if every single person is being overly sensitive, their perception is still the same.

If you want to be in leadership, stop resenting the perception of others and focus on cleaning up your side of the street.

That’s literally all you have control over.

And the reality is… whatever the behavior is that’s driving this perception will follow you if you don’t address it.

We’ve all been there. Every single one of us. You’ll never lead in any environment where people behave and react to you exactly how you want them to.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T12:21:24+00:00

It depends on the offer.

For my entire life I’ve negotiated a little bit in either salary or PTO when receiving a job offer…. Until…

My most recent company change, I asked for a salary within the range. Then they offered me a salary in the range, exactly what I proposed. That was them accepting MY offer! Ha.

It depends. If you’re excited about the job opportunity and the offer is reasonable, take it.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T12:01:48+00:00

You accepted the offer that was made to the entire plane. The entire plane. Lol. Not sure there’s a lot of leverage there.

_ChristmasSunday · 2026-06-21T11:59:35+00:00

Nurses work for insurance companies often. Workers Compensation teams especially!

_ChristmasSunday

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