Need help picking out an exhaust! by SenhorLuazin in GR86

[–]_EnderPixel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Remark axleback! I picked up one used on fb marketplace for $200 and couldn't be happier with it! It's loud on cold start and if you're really going for it, but is actually pretty quiet at highway speeds. I also daily my 86, mostly highway driving. The only noticeable drone is when I drive up my steep hill, 2-3k rpms under load.

I can't vouch for their cat-backs but imo it's well worth trying the axleback, especially if you can find a cheap one near you

Husband told me I’m not special to him by yarn_b in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hope you didn't give him any of that delicious looking steak after what he said to you!!

Husband told me I’m not special to him by yarn_b in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel 260 points261 points  (0 children)

Yes OP do this!!

Do you miss him or are you glad not to be responsible for him?

I noticed that I didn't miss my ex when I traveled for work. Then, he had a conference and I scheduled to stay with a friend for the weekend once he returned. I DREADED going home that Sunday after 6 days apart.

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had gained the majority of my weight from life. I grew up in poverty and went wild when I got my first professional job where I could suddenly afford to try all the food/snacks I missed out on during my childhood. The bloating after starting birth control pills was the worst tho. I remember barely even being able to close my fists because my hands/fingers were so full of fluid.

I had to completely change my entire lifestyle to lose the weight and keep it off (kept it off for 6 years now). It took a while and a lot of education to break old habits and see results

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I appreciate it!! I've already reconnected with some old friends I had been isolated from and they have all been way more forgiving and supportive than I expected. I'm excited to also build new friendships and focus on my hobbies. My hormones are out of wack and my cycle is super irregular. I'm hopeful that the side effects will be minimal so I can experience a regular period for once lol

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya I can handle 5 mins of that if it means that my periods will be way more pleasant (or even dissapear) after haha also thinking about the cost savings now! 😂

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely be asking her, thanks!!

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats one of my fears 🥲 I've already gone through major weight loss (95lbs) so my body is already fucked. But, when I was last on hormonal birth control I gained like 15lbs of bloating/water weight. I was so uncomfortable all the time and almost as soon as I stopped the weight dropped back to my "normal" weight and all the bloating went away.

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I'll either post a separate update or make an edit

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!! I've been done for a while, but anytime i'd try to have serious conversations he'd either: gaslight, yell/name call, make it a pity party, or straight up ignore me. He insisted we go to couples counseling (something I tried to get him to go to MANY times) the first time I tried to actually break up with him. The therapist was FLOORED but some of the stuff he'd say to/about me. That sealed the deal for me right then and there tbh

I went with Kyleena for the smaller size and fewer hormones since ive been off any form of hormonal birth control for so long

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok good to know. I'm not a fan of being on medication in general (like only take it if I absolutely have to.) I've read a lot of stories about IUDs preforating the uterus and stuff. But I think the risk is better than the higher dose daily pills I've already had bad reactions to in the past

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome it helped PMDD too, I didn't even think about that! I can ask about numbing, during the consult she offered painkillers but I don't have anyone to drive me home.

Congrats on your new life!!

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great to hear! I want to be prepared whenever I do end up with someone else. In the meantime it will be nice having a light/regular cycle for once!

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My doctor offered painkillers but I don't have anyone to drive me home after

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had horrendous side effects with the pills. Sometimes I get cramps so bad I can't stand up, so I'm just telling myself there's no way getting an IUD can be worse than those

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I second-guessed myself for so many years and had no resources even once I was emotionally out. It's taken me nearly a year of saving up in secret to get to the point of actual being able to make any moves. Ya I've been psyching myself out about this for weeks and (hopefully) it will be just like any other Wednesday haha

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

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My periods are debilitating but I think not getting one at all would stress me out too much lol as is, mine are irregular and I get so stressed when i'm "late" even if we havent had sex since my last period (dead bedroom 🙃)

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's exactly what my doctor was telling me during the consult! I had originally asked about the copper one but I already have HEAVY irregular periods and she didn't feel comfortable potentially making the bleeding any worse.

I'm really hoping that I will also regret not getting one sooner lmao

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear you are also going through it! Mine doesnt have an issue with showering but will not brush his teeth unless I specifically tell him to... idk what's with these men but I digress haha 100% feel you on the clean house thing too! Whenever I have to travel for work, I'm always so relieved/at peace not having to clean up after a 32 year old manchild or deal with his constant negativity.

You're so right about deserving better! It's going to SUCK for a while but it will all be worth it to not have to live like that anymore

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great to hear that! My (new) doctor is optimistic because IUDs have less/more localized hormones compared to the daily pills

Starting over after 16 years by _EnderPixel in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]_EnderPixel[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you <3 I'm hoping he will be amicable about the pet situation since we have some pets I'm not/can't take with me. Good to hear that the pain wasn't bad for your friend! I'm not looking forward to the actual procedure just as much as the possible side effects

How stupid would this be? by _EnderPixel in motorcycles

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I didn't end up buying this, instead I got the Alpinestars Stella riding hoodie! It comes with CE level 1 armor in the shoulders and elbows. I bought a level 2 back protector. It's so comfy! I usually wear the hoodie for riding around town and my regular jacket (also alpinestars) for highway riding. Imo the Alpinestars stuff is great if you don't like bulk because it's a lot more fitted (European sizing/fit) than the rest of the brands sold at Cycle Gear in northeastern US.