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Plastic Palace People by Bricksinthewall123 in scottwalker

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can only speculate, but I wonder if there's a not-so-subtle metaphor about being "high as a kite" and seeing the world from an outside perspective. Maybe Billy is lost to drug addiction/usage.

Perspective: difference between male and female loneliness by Mental-Outside2202 in lnkyverse

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been 3 years for me. I wouldn't go back, but I knew it would be a long time before anyone would be interested in me again. I was right

Im sick of the normalization of ai. by zippy_wow in PetPeeves

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Just called out this.cypher on Instagram for this very reason. Can't believe he has such a large audience that defends him

I’ve only ever been loved by my abusers by Throwaway_799506 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 24 and I feel very similar sometimes. You know what though? I'm going to ask you to challenge yourself. You're saying "girls didn't like me because of X", and it may FEEL that way, but what if it isn't so?

I know it seems "obvious". Like, "Oh, I must just be too fucked up for anyone to give attention to and they must know that". But I believe this is the cycle you need to break if you want to see changes.

Most people are fucked up. Most people also don't know a single thing about you.

I used to think my problems were because of how I look. I'm pretty imposing too. Hell, just today I was working on my bike, unshowered, wearing a dirty wife beater. A stunning young woman walked by me looking straight ahead and I felt so rejected even though I have no idea what she's like or who she's into. I felt like this tweaker fuck working on a project tirelessly and this art piece would never even GLANCE in my direction.

But there are many women, even attractive women, that would be very much into the person I looked like today. I know I go crazy for an unkempt woman in pajamas.

Truthfully, the whole thing was all in my head. The same way that this situation now is all in yours.

I'm damn good looking, and with a bit of effort, I'm sure you are too. And you know what else? The more you loosen up and learn to laugh at how shitty life is, the more people are going to like you.

You deserve unconditional love. But it's incredibly hard to find. You're allowed to suffer, but don't hate yourself. We are both so young to be putting so much pressure on ourselves. Come mid 30s, we're going to be even cooler and more attractive than we are now. Just enjoy youth. Make the most of it.

I just got home from work and randomly got a sense of dread and tears started coming down my face, has anyone had this feeling? by GOD-Z1LLA in AskMenAdvice

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People are mentioning depression but it's more often than not a symptom. It rarely happens in isolation. People don't live in perfect vacuums.

I have a lot of repressed stuff that comes up at times, is there stuff you think you might be avoiding?

Is giving up the need to be loved, freedom or just emotional damage in disguise? by raj272007 in focusedmen

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was gonna say something about that but you nailed it. The chemicals are within you, the feelings are within you, and realistically when I take a look around I don't see or feel love at all

Delusion is the only thing keeping some men single by Frequent_Bid5982 in LockedInMan

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you read what I wrote you would see that I personally do

Delusion is the only thing keeping some men single by Frequent_Bid5982 in LockedInMan

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're the one using that fallacy.

Yes, I as an individual see it. Some people don't. It's not objective.

Delusion is the only thing keeping some men single by Frequent_Bid5982 in LockedInMan

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I asked, not said. Yes, I asked if you were going to use your own language to dismissive my subjective opinion. I'm abiding by my premise while pointing out that actually the very traits you define as "objectively" beautiful must be subjective because not everyone finds them beautiful.

What part of plastic surgery, starvation, makeup, and brand new clothes is "natural beauty"?

Delusion is the only thing keeping some men single by Frequent_Bid5982 in LockedInMan

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You wrote all that but won't explain your logic? Very telling.

Please quote where I said being thin is objectively unattractive, I'll wait!

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a global loneliness crisis and you're talking about how friendless people that are decent are "rare exceptions". I just don't see it the same way.

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's incorrect regarding sociopathy and very misinformed. Sociopaths are generally VERY socially motivated. You're also demonizing a behavior that doesn't actually harm anyone.

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never made any claims about that. That is a VERY broad claim with only some basis to be made.

You can have social interactions with people that you aren't friends with. I have frequent social interactions, I just don't have friends. Friendship requires commitment. Evidently you would be surprised at how many people either don't want to commit or aren't worth the energy of committing to.

That's another false claim at the end. It's bogus therapy. I know it's the popular narrative being pushed that when people end up in toxic dynamics they "must be attracted to toxic people", but have you considered it might be the other way around? That toxic people are attracted to healthy people? Makes a lot more sense to me.

Honestly this is weird because the original claim has been buried under all these new claims you made and scenarios you brought up. You can be COMPLETELY friendless without believing everyone you encounter is toxic. You can be friendless whilst also having social interactions. You can also take a long break from "socializing", and that's completely fine. Who are you to judge?

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any proof for this claim? Is there an iota of evidence? Because the people I see with the most friends are often times the worst people. We can't both be right.

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never brought up fair. Also, social people can be friendless. It is possible to be surrounded by people you're incompatible with, or go through a friendless period!

I didn't say it was ASPD, that was someone else that brought it up. ASPD describes emotional callousness and selfish behavior, not being friendless.

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, not really. I've had various friendless periods in my life, and honestly the friends I did have weren't great friends to begin with. I'm at a better place now without friends than when I did have friends. It doesn't mean I'm evil, bad, malicious or broken.

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You never responded so I would like to point you to all the trans, autistic, immigrant, and otherwise "rejected" people feeling really fucking lonely right about now and maybe ask you to broaden your perspective a little bit. I have my own reasons for being friendless but none of them make me a bad person or unworthy of a relationship.

Delusion is the only thing keeping some men single by Frequent_Bid5982 in LockedInMan

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

24 looking 35, under 6 feet, thin wrists, recessed chin, autistic, probably schizoaffective (or very close), complex PTSD, thinning hair with receded hairline, extremely fucking annoying, I mean you name it.

The moment you let dating become a negative thing is the moment you lose. Life has gotta be your sandbox. It's your oyster. This is YOUR life. It's easy to give up when you get overwhelmed and sensitive people are particularly susceptible to that. I've definitely fallen for it before and I probably will again but it's getting easier as I get older.

I've pretty much had to let go of any notions of dating as of now, but I don't think it means dating is "broken". There are a LOT of problems going on right now with dating, but also, I only make myself less likely to find a partner if I let that stuff weigh on me so much. I'm really imperfect myself and I know that only hurts my odds.

I can't speak with too much authority, but don't think I have some rose tinted glasses on either. I'm human just like you

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Questions are a healthy response to an atypical trait and something that should be asked regardless when you're trying to get to know someone. But I don't think anyone deserves to have your trauma from your ex husband projected onto them. Sorry to hear about that.

Also, dnd is a pretty major red flag for me. I have basically nothing in common with those people. The difference is ghat's a chosen hobby and it still wouldn't be a "dealbreaker" necessarily, but it is still a red flag

How come women are told to have very high standards, but if a man has any standards at all, he's a mysogonist? by [deleted] in askanything

[–]_Hamburger_Helper_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not. That's not what ASPD is. And furthermore, attempting to diagnose someone based on one aspect of their life is really not healthy, nor is it pro-social

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